What Would You Do?

United States
January 26, 2009 2:51pm CST
Before I tell you what happened today I will ask this question Do people change? I only ask this because I think some people grow up and with doing this change comes about. Well basically moving on to what's going on. So I use to be madly in love with this guy named Matthew. The big issuse with him is that he was imature and he lied and cheated on me once. I forgave him for cheating but his maturity level has never came up to par so we parted and went our separate ways. Well now he wants to get back together, but his maturity level hasn't really shown any progress but I mean I have so much love for this guy that I am willing to try again. My question is that even though still till today he isn't showing maturity should I still give him another chance because he is stating that he has changed? Or should I express to him that how I feel about him and that I rather that we be friends first and that if things happen to get a lot more serious between us while we are friends than that's okay? Mylot I am honestly stuck here I really need some help because I do not want to get my feelings hurt or my heart broken again by another man. I can not wait to hear what you guys have to say about this issuse. Hoping you guys can really help me out, NakitaLikely3617!
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@sammy009 (259)
• United States
27 Jan 09
HI. I feel people only change if they want to. I would express to him how you truly fee, straight out. Be honest with him. Remains friends with him, and take it from there. If his maturity level is not what you want, I would not get into a realtion with him, until you feel he has matured to the level you want. Look at the brighter side, you can still be friends with him, and as time goes on you never know, he just may show you, and not just tell you he is maturing in his way. Good Luck
@palonghorn (5485)
• United States
26 Jan 09
It is true that with maturity comes changes, in life style, in how we look at things in general. But, you say you gave him a second chance before, and it didn't work. You also stated that his maturity level has not changed. In what way has he changed? It's just my opinion, but seems like you are fixing to take a trip down the same road you've been on before. I think I would just stick to being friends, then you can see if he actually has changed in any way. You'll also be able to see if he is still immature. Good luck with this one.