Does money and debt ruin a relationship

Canada
January 26, 2009 6:03pm CST
I heard and totally agree with the fact that money and debt can cause strain on a raltionship and can be a cause of break up and divorce. Do you agree and / or has it happend to someone you know?
6 responses
@ladysakurax (1163)
• Canada
27 Jan 09
Well i know that divorce or split up won't solve the problem. Each one would still be in debt. in that situation, the best thing to do is to work it out together. Yelling and arguing at each other is just pointless and a waste of time. I know one day I knew i was going to fail an exam in physic during college and my physic told me to go cry if i want to...it's not going to take me anywhere. his words were priceless. When i got a letter that I couldn't study anymore in university, I had to look for another option. I was in a financial issue when my parents were together. The problem was dad who was spending too much and wouldn't help out mom who worked day and night. he was always out with his friends and my mom grew tired physically and emotionally. In a relationship, I believe it is important to work together. if only one makes the effort and the other doesn't sweat a bit, the relationship won't last long.
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@phifer (515)
• United States
27 Jan 09
ya i think it can, but i dont think that its the big things that can ruin it. personally it shouldn't matter what money or debt the person has. a relationship shouldnt be about money in my opinion. i had a boyfriend that i was living with for about 3 years, i didnt have a job at the time. it didnt seem to effect him much that i wasnt working. the only thing that he care about was that i was happy and that i helped keep the house clean. i would also cook for him when he got out of work and have everything ready for him so that he could relax. personally i think that he spoilded me too much some times but it wasnt where it would effect the amount of money he was making and the bills that he was paying for. we ended braking up because he was going to move and i wasnt ready to move with him. it had nothing to do with money or any thing along those lines.
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@dodo19 (33604)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
27 Jan 09
Does it put strain on a relationship? Yes, this I do believe. Does it ruin it? Well, that I believe depends on the couple, and the individuals involved. My fiance and I are both in school. I'm lucky, because my father helps me with tuition. However, my fiance isn't so lucky. He must use loans and bursaries to get through. It's not easy, but we're working through it. It is putting some strain on our relationship. However, we're both willing to help each other in every way. This is no exception. I'm willing to help him with this.
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@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
27 Jan 09
Yes, Unfortunately I think it does. How it does affect the relationship I think that depend on the relationship you have with one another. If your relationship is that god that you to speak about the problems and try to solve them together, and not one in hand.....I guess you can save it and ride the problems out and you both be stronger after, and have a closer relationship.
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
27 Jan 09
Money is one of the leading causes of divorce in the United States. Many arguments in a marriage are caused my financial problems as well.
• United States
27 Jan 09
I think that it can put a huge strain on a relationship. If one person is always giving and taking care of the other than I'm sure that person would eventually burn out and become frustrated.