Does your last name sound good hyphonated?

United States
January 27, 2009 4:26pm CST
A lot of my married friends on Facebook have listed their name as hyphonated, so that their old high school friends can find them. I've thought about doing this. I've used Facebook to contact some of my old school friends and I always get the same response "Do I know you?" So I give them my maiden name and suddenly "Oh, yeah! I do know you!". Problem is, my married name and maiden name don't sound right together. Some people have last names that mesh well together, some don't. Do your maiden and married names go well together if you were to hyphonate them?
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10 responses
@GreenMoo (11842)
30 Jan 09
I've only ever used the one name as I never changed it when I married. I didn't really intend not to, but we lost our marriage certificate on the day of the ceremony and I couldn't change my bank accounts and so on without it. By the time the replacement certificate arrived, I was quite content to stay as I was.
@GreenMoo (11842)
3 Feb 09
I think mine got chucked out with the wrapping paper from our gifts. It's the only thing I can think of! I searched EVERYWHERE.
@sacmom (14315)
• United States
29 Jan 09
Heck no! Not only would my maiden name and married name sound strange hyphenated, it would look wrong too! I've thought of doing this before too, at least on myspace, but figured if someone was searching for me they could always ask, if they aren't sure. Myspace and facebook should add a way so that us women can add both our maiden name and married name separately without having to hyphenate it. That way, maybe our old friends and classmates can find us a litter easier.
@sacmom (14315)
• United States
29 Jan 09
How funny. I just went onto myspace and found out we can now have our maiden names as well as our married names on there. And it doesn't have to be hyphenated. How cool is that? I guess they just added this feature a couple of days ago. Yippee!
• United States
29 Jan 09
Thats good to know. I hardly ever use Myspace anymore though, and I think I did somehow put my maiden name on Facebook, although it doesn't show. Doesn't look like anyone is actually trying to find me, oh well, lol.
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@soulist (2987)
• United States
3 Feb 09
I couldn't hyphonate my name. I think it would look too weird, plus I would rather have his name not mine...I love my man to the point where his last name will be mine and I think that is something special.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I agree, my name wouldn't sound right being hyphonated. It just wouldn't be good LOL...it would be too long and too difficult to say. I like the idea of taking on his name when we got married. Because to me that shows more loyalty that I was willing to give up my name for his.
@tentwo67 (3384)
• United States
29 Jan 09
I don't hyphenate, but I do use both my maiden and married name on Facebook so that people will know me. I used to use both names all the time both because I had been known by my maiden name at work for a number of years before I married and wanted people to know it was me, and also because I really didn't like the way my first name and married name sounded together at first. I'm over it now, but at first I really hated it because both my first name and my married name are 2 syllables and end with "a" and it sounded very sing-songy to me. I think it sounds fine now that I'm approaching my 8 year wedding anniversary! But definitely, where I might run into people who would remember me from my maiden name I use all three names.
• United States
29 Jan 09
I know what you mean. My SIL's first name ends with an A, and she married a man who's last name started with an A. It sounded very weird. My first name also ends in an A, but luckily my husband's last name does not, so my married name sounds very good. I've never used my maiden name since getting married, except for when I purchase something from hubby's work. We aren't supposed to lease anything from them, so I use my maiden name so they don't know who it is.
@1grnthmb (2063)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I have a couple of friends, that instead of hyphenation their names, they put their maiden name in parenthesis. As you said some names just clash.
• United States
28 Jan 09
That's not a horrible idea.
@gemini_rose (16193)
28 Jan 09
Yes I have noticed that a lot of people put their names hyphenated, mine probably would not go together well either but I have considered it because same as you no one recognises me because of my changed name. Trouble is I am cautious of doing that because there are some people I dont want to recognise me ha ha!!!
• United States
28 Jan 09
Oh yeah, I remember some of your stories about that. I don't have that problem, I'm fine with anyone finding me, except my mother but I doubt she or my siblings use Facebook (actually I've looked them up and they weren't on there).
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
28 Jan 09
My name definitely would not sound good hyphenated. I didn't know that you could do that on facebook. Although our class was really small so I'd imagine that I probably have most of them already and I don't see that many of them looking for me. I kind of kept to myself and then when I got a boyfriend all else seemed to fall away. (Sad but true) so anyways, my maiden name is pretty odd atleast I always thought so and my married name is normal so the two together don't really fit well.
• United States
28 Jan 09
I was the same as you, but part of my issue also was I moved away in 10th grade, so all the kids I'd grown up with, I'd lost touch with. I have some of them on Facebook, and I occasionally check for new ones, but the problem is if they're married, unless they add their maiden name too, I'll never find them, and they'll never find me.
@phoenix25 (1543)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Not really. I'm not really a fan of hyphenated names anyway. The way me grandmother and mother did it was to drop their middle name and take their maiden name as their middle name. That's what I did also because I know it's easier for people to realize who you are. I also didn't like my middle name. Some people think what I did is weird, though, and have never heard of it. I don't know.
• United States
27 Jan 09
I know what you mean on the do I know you thing. I have gotten that some too. I usually do not hyphonate my name but am starting to wonder if I should. My name does not sound terrible hyphonated but it does sound a bit funny. I am glad that they are as they are and not reversed or it would sound just plain stupid. Either way I am proud of both my last names old maiden and new married. I find it unsettling when a woman refuses her husbands last name. My last name was a dying art but that did not stop me from proudly accepting my husbands last name. If you can't hang on to both accept the name of the man you are marrying and be proud to have his name.
@snowy22315 (49125)
• United States
27 Jan 09
I am on my second marriage and my two last names do sound good i.f I hyphenate them and sometimes I do. My legal name is my first husband's last name. I kept that because it is the same as my son's. It was easeir in terms of my son. I just know that there would be other things to do in terms of names.