I need advice..............Drama!

United States
January 28, 2009 3:05pm CST
My mom is upset b/c I asked for my key to my house from her. She don't live here anymore and she has been gone for 30 days now. She was keeping her things in my storage and she came to my house today with half of my family demanding her things like I put her out (she moved on her own in with my aunt). I of course told her no one is keeping your things hostage...lol.....i just wanted the key so my husband can feel free to walk around comfy again without her dropping by unannounced. She don't understand that but we argued and now I feel like she can't come back b/c my husband is like we helped her (free rent, food and she had her own room w/bthroom) and you don't need to be dealing with that. So what should I do? she is upset with me about getting my key to my house when she don't want to stay here anymore. No I never asked her to leave. No I never told her to get out. No there was nothing to lead up to this point other then her own actions today. I don't want her upset, but i'm not giving her back a key either.
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5 responses
@Keykan (31)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 09
Hi queenperk. Well, i guess this is hard for you, one is your mother n the other side is your husband. I don't know what would i do if i were you, but i think you shouldn't be so hard with your mother like that. Just imagine if you were her at her age n your son/daughter do the same thing like you did right now, what will u feel?
• United States
29 Jan 09
I would understand if they was taking care of me, not to leave without telling them and to make sure they don't feel like they have been used by their mother for 6 months.
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
hi queenperk, did you and your husband talked about it already. by the way you forgot to indicate who owns the house. is it you and your husband or it is own by your mom. you have to understand older people are becoming too sensitive of their situation. most of the time they are being hurt with petty things they assume that they dont belong. well i guess you have to talk to your mom and tell her your side. take care of her because mom's love is immeasurable.
• United States
29 Jan 09
I apologize.........It is our house (my husband and I), she lost her job and her house. She was suppose to stay with my aunt from the beginning but they was not getting along at the time and it's been 6 months at our house and now that my aunt lost her job they are sisters again......i don't know but I know I love my mother and my husband asked her to stay as long she liked and not worry about anything so I didn't understand why she left without telling first i left that out and then when i asked for the key she snapped.
• United States
15 Feb 09
i don't think she has any reason to be upset. You were kind enough to let her stay there in her time of need, and let her keep her stuff there. If its not her house then she doesn't need a key. Me and my fiance just got our own place, and i wouldn't like anybody else to have keys besides me and him. He likes to walk around in his boxers and not have to worry about anyone just coming in. Just tell her you are welcomed here anytime, but you have to understand this is mine and my husbands house and we're the only one who needs keys. If you want to come over just call to make sure we're home. Thats what i would tell her.
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
1 Feb 09
It is your house...not hers...Tell her that she can have the key back when she starts making the mortgage payments. Otherwise, tell her to get over it... Better yet, you don't have to say anything to her at all. You are a grown woman with a house and a life of your own. You don't have to explain yourself to her at all.
@Barb42 (4217)
• United States
28 Jan 09
I would be like you. We need privacy in our own homes and don't need to have to worry all the time about somebody possibly walking in on us. Several people have a key to our house, but not even our kids would use it unless it was an emergency. I have keys to my Mother's, but never used them until recently when she got hard of hearing and possibly would not answer the phone. But I still holler before going in on her. But she's almost 92.