why does some men tends to womanize?

Philippines
January 29, 2009 6:28am CST
I tend to notice with my guy office mates that they tend to talk about women and about their dating spree with different women. Some of this co workers of mine are married yet they tend not to be faithful with their wives. There are also others who aren't married but were doing the same thing. I am not judging anyone okay. I just want to know the reason or reasons behind it. Guys, can you share with us the reason for this? I am not generalizing okay, i am just stating some of the facts. Well from, here we may understand why this things are happening. Ladies, you may share your thoughts too. Thanks.
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@dawon007 (184)
• India
29 Jan 09
The guy like and loves the girl mostly because of some good qualities that he finds in her. The girl may not always have this kind of selective loving. Most of the time they blindly love the first guy who say 'I love you' to her. This is a nature of men and women since ages. The guys always talk about the girls since they are interested in them generally in the outward sense. I don't say all guys, because there are many men who love their wives unconditionally. In this case, the guys were not. So they got attracted to other women since they found qualities that they like in these women and which were not found in their wives. When the concept of marriage gets changed from the traditional 'all throughout the life' contract to the 'use and through contract', such things happen. I don't say that all women should have all the qualities that they can find on earth. What I am saying is that your unconditional love can work wonders in this kind of situations. I think that men should stop going after all the women who they find as perfect and start caring for their wives. Nobody is perfect. And same is the case with women. If guys start going after the perfect women, they will never end their search.
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
I totally agree with what you have said that unless a person looks for a perfect partner the search will never end. We have to accept the no one is perfect and relationships are bound to commitment and faithfulness. True love is unconditional may your spouse may not be as sexy when you married her but what is important is that you remain faithful to the relationship and continually to love your spouse. Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
Hi, I am married already. But before I got married, I had a boyfriend who is already married. I asked him why he likes me though he is already married. He told me that he has found caring ways from me that his wife can't give to him. He really loves me until now but he couldn't leave his wife because of their children. He said that the attention I am giving to him is very extraordinary that he can't really find in his wife.
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
Hi, I am married already. But before I got married, I had a boyfriend who is already married. I asked him why he likes me though he is already married. He told me that he has found caring ways from me that his wife can't give to him. He really loves me until now but he couldn't leave his wife because of their children. He said that the attention I am giving to him is very extraordinary that he can't really find in his wife.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Point blank, relationships don't mean anything to anyone anymore!! Women don't care if men are married or dating, if they want them they go for them, same for men they just don't care anymore either! Seems that all men and women are here for anymore is one thing and they go around getting it no matter the circumstances.
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• Philippines
31 Jan 09
thanks for sharing your thoughts on this one friend. I have noticed that same thing as well. Thanks for bringing this up although there are still who give high regard to relationship and marriage but some still tends to tempt this few people left. happy mylotting!!!
@psalmist (109)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
men , womanize because they are trying to hide something ,maybe some weaknesses, or some inferiority,, others just want to have fun, or to feel macho.. some also are just being unfaithful...and in fairness others womanize because of women also...
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• Philippines
30 Jan 09
thanks for sharing your opinions. that is true some women are also at fault why men fall into the trap of womanizing. We just have to acknowledge this fact. thanks for bringing this up. . happy mylotting and have a great and wonderful day.
• United States
30 Jan 09
I have found that men are very simple and women are very complex. When a relationship starts men like all the bedroom things and the women like the love. But, then they get married or in a long relationship and the women think well we don't have to do the bedroom thing so much I have other things to do. And, the men think what happen to the bedroom thing's? My husband say's that some men cheat because they get bored with their wife and others because it is the thrill of the hunt! Which he thinks is stupid on the guy's part. He say's just because you are on a diet so to speak does not mean you can't look at the menu but to go further is just wrong. He say's he never knows what I will do next so he does not get bored with me! He say's there is something new around here every day! ** Peace and Love get's you through everything in Life **
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• Philippines
30 Jan 09
Hello friend, good for you that you got a man who has a better perception in life and nor as narrow minded as the others, not everyone are. Getting a taste of another dish for the reason that you just want tasting it is a lame reason and I won't buy into it. I mean where is commitment and fidelity that you promised each other when you two married, right. Well, everyone will have lapses and weaknesses but it is not enough reason to cheat.
@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
Hi there! Well first I'm no guy but I've been wondering of the same thing and it's good that you started this discussion and I've learned quite a bit from other people's replies. I personally know people who womanized even though they were married. Although they're "a change man" now, I still see them tainted with that thought. I think that men seek the thrill of being with someone they shouldn't be - it somehow makes the relationship more exhilarating and take pleasure in it. I'd like to warn these guys that they would end up being chased by the ghosts of their past in their children. You'll never get peace of mind when your daughter starts dating because you're thinking that the guy she's with might just be doing the exact same thing you did to their moms. This is mainly the reason why they become strict dads. As I said, these are my observations from such guys :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!
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• Philippines
30 Jan 09
I have learn a lot from your post friend and I know a couple of people who got this fear too when they become dads. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
29 Jan 09
Hi friend, men who are looking for another woman aside from what they have at present are not contented of their partner. There is something lacking that they need to look for it from another woman. If the man is satisfied and contented with their partner, they will never look for another recipe. Most men who are womanzing have problems with their partners.
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
Hello friend, it could be somehow true but others are just playboy who likes to collect women to brag about. LOL. I am not generalizing but I know some does. I think it helps them boost their ego and they think that other guys would envy them by doing such thing not knowing that they are trying to ruin a relationship and hurting their partners. thanks for the share.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
29 Jan 09
it maybe because of upbringing,they might have seen their fathers not being faithful to their mothers.another thing is ,they might be insecure about themselves,that they try to get the approval of other women.they may be thinking ,being a womanizer is cool.
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• Philippines
29 Jan 09
There reasons that you have mentioned could be really true. I used to have an ex who was insecure of himself when he was a kid since his friends used to tease him that he is so dark, which he really is , As he grow older he always was afraid to court a women having fear of rejection but eventually he developed the skill of letting girls dance on his tune and he jumps from one woman to another. I think he is try to fill empty spaces of his life. poor guy but i am happy that we didn't end up together for i may old old by now with his playboy ways.
@amitksing (1324)
• India
29 Jan 09
It just depends from person to person. Take for example a two kids. One becomes happy with a single candy and doesn't want more while the other wants more and more and more. Its a sort of addiction. Those who are morally strong are able to control their lust and those who don't, they do go for such things, and in the event go on hurting, cheating their partners. It also depends upon the way people see things. For some, it is correct and for others, it is not. It entirely depends from person to person, like I said.
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
Thanks for sharing your thoughts here. Happy Mylotting!!!
• India
30 Jan 09
yes u said the fact about that i really encourage what u say....
@FLampard (395)
• Malaysia
30 Jan 09
Thanks to the feminist.