Is baby momma drama always going to be an issue?

United States
January 29, 2009 12:43pm CST
I have been with my husband for 3 years married 1 year now. His baby momma (yes before me) is a BI----NGO.....lol When we was just dating she tried to fight me, called my job and talked about me to his family (well in laws to his family). We have been married and for a year now and she still acts like we are just dating....she has a man from what the baby says and I don't understand why she keeps making it hard for my husband. I just want to know if she is going to continue this game playing until she gets married maybe or just get over the fact she cheated when they were together and he moved on completely. I just see when the baby is 15 she still calling and making things up to get his attention. Should I do anything different?
4 responses
• United States
29 Jan 09
I'm in this situation, and have been for nearly five years. The mother is just an idiot, plain and simple, and I do my best to be the "adult" in the situation as much as possible. I act accordingly and, nine times out of ten, the truth comes out and she ends up with egg on her face. Pretty soon, she'll realize that no matter what she does, she won't ruin this relationship. It all boils down to jealousy on one level or another. It's frustrating.
• United States
29 Jan 09
Tell me about it.....:-) Do you just want to ever slap her back to reality? lol
• United States
29 Jan 09
I like saying, "slap the stupid out of her."
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
29 Jan 09
Explorations...this is the kind of thing I expect to be happening soon with my man's ex and me. I think she is going to try and pull us apart and bring me down for some odd reason. Just because my guy doesn't want her, but wants me. But I think soon enough she would realize the same I am here to stay. It is frustrating, maybe you do need to smack her one ;)
@dvschic (1796)
• United States
29 Jan 09
yes, she's always going to be drama. i dont think she's happy being his baby momma, she prolly wanted to be the wife, ya know? unless she finds her new true love, which her man currently isn't, she's gonna be all hater on you. it sucks and the parents really have to try and keep it from the child, because it does wear on the baby.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
29 Jan 09
Yea sadly there will be drama with baby momma, I can imagine the drama I am going to get when my boyfriend's ex realizes I am going to be more than just the new girl in his life. I already know she is going to be all hater on me, but eh I'll deal beacuse I love my man and if need be I'll fight back. Maybe you should fight back too...
@dvschic (1796)
• United States
29 Jan 09
but thats the problem, the child doesn't need to choose between two waring factions. you both need to grow up and be there for the child and the man. plus, the man should put his child's needs first, not deal with the drama that accompany the woman. i'm speaking as a child that had to deal with drama parents.. it makes you VERY leery of people and i dont put up with drama at all, i cut drama out of my life in an instant
@snowy22315 (47124)
• United States
29 Jan 09
I dont know what sort of drama will continue to happen and I hope it doesnt for your sake. There was just a murder in the Richond Virginia area over this same thing and it is not a game it can really be a serious thing. I hope you dont have that much trouble with your situation!
• United States
29 Jan 09
thx :-) lucky for us she does not know where we live.
• United States
30 Jan 09
It's sad to say, but true, that this probably wont get any better. Unfortunately, you are placed in very touchy position. You have a burden on your shoulders, that shouldn't be. It's is up to you to remain calm, and always put your husband child before any personal feelings. I'm happy to say, that I haven't had to deal with this, but was the child product of similiar circumstances. My father's new choice was not a friendly companion for my mom. In the yearly stages, they just didn't communicate at all. That was easier than dealing with drama. Because of that, my mother allowed us to make our own conclusions about our step-mom. If we liked her we liked her, and if we didn't we didn't. My mom didn't interfere. It would be nice if all moms could be like that, cuz there'd be less of this baby momma drama going around!