Which emotion is strongest: falling in love or breaking up?

@Pleiades (847)
United States
January 29, 2009 8:30pm CST
Isn't that part of a dream: to grow up and fall in love? Sure it is. We don't want to go through our lives alone. When you find that special person, it makes you feel so alive! Everything is bright and nothing could ruin your day. It's the best feeling out there. But, then there's the opposite side of this emotion. It's the emotion of when you're breaking up with the person. Which emotion is strongest? *Pleiades
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@noniefam (284)
• Indonesia
30 Jan 09
both have strong emotion. but different. fall in love is pure n strong so if we love someone sometimes from the begin' we meet then down to our heart. but if someone we love lie n break up so we will sad n dissapointed
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@carrine (2749)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
the hardest thing is during the break up moment.. grrrrr i can still feel the pain, though i am confident to say that i am finally okay in terms of my feelings.. hahaaha but financially, im on my way there.. LOl
@Lindery (854)
• Latvia
30 Jan 09
Both of emotions are equally strong, only difference is that one emotion usually is good, other is really bad. As we know people stand good things much better than bad ones, that's why breaking up feels much bigger issue.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
30 Jan 09
Both actually involved emotions its just that the way its being used or directed is different. But the most intrsting one is of course when you love someone and you would want that person to be with you rest of your life, then no matter what anybody say you are defiant and some may even become your enemy if you are not careful...
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
I think when you are breaking up with your love one is the stronger than when falling in love.. For me, when I am in love I feel lighter, everything in my eyes are nice unlike when somebody broke your heart, you feel like hating the whole world.. Am i right???
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• India
30 Jan 09
I think breakingn up is stronger than falling in love. IF LOVE WAS STRONGER, WHY WOULD PEOPLE BREAK UP? People break up after faling in love. No one breaks up first only to fall in love later. It is the other way round. That is why breaking up has got to be the stronger emotion. It overcomes love and just casts it aside.
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@ryuvinta (153)
• Indonesia
30 Jan 09
the emotion strongest for me is breaking up. because when i were breaking up with a boy, its hurt me so much , and it make me have to go to hospital for several days, i can not eat, i can not sleep, i can not studying. but when i am falling in love, its doesnt hurt me at all, it always supporting me
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@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
Both are strong emotions although falling in love is a positive feeling that the impact is quite controllable as still you can hide your feelings. You feel like shouting to the whole world your happiness but you can manage to keep it yourself. Breaking up however no matter how you try to keep your feelings about it, still it shows as you can't avoid to feel sad and cry.
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Hello Pleiades! I would say both emotion were strong. What you feel when you're in love is the same opposite feeling you will feel when you break up especially if your partner is the one who decided to stop the relationship.
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@Pleiades (847)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Heya lady. How are you? Yes, both emotions are strong. I got inspired by a friend of mine who is wanting to find that special someone, but he finds himself on the bitter end of the whole 'Let's be friends' line. *Pleiades
• United States
30 Jan 09
I'm doing good..so that's why you were inspired to start this discussion..very good.
• Trinidad And Tobago
30 Jan 09
guys i am in love and don't really know what to do.....and its been like this for the past three years and the girl and i are really close, but she's in love with someone else and i am not sure what to do, and whenever things seem to be going my way they just change... And the guy only uses her, love bites!
• United States
30 Jan 09
both are strong, but in my experience, breaking up is stronger. it is so painful it can be physically sickening. falling in love is so amazing, it motivates and heals and adds so much to one's life, but as powerful as it is, breaking up is the opposite, and a hundred times more of a powerful blow.
@Pleiades (847)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I like your response...you've hit it on the head: love is healing and breaking up is so sickening. *Pleiades
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@spalladino (17925)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I think falling in love is a stronger emotion but breaking up MAKES you a stronger person. The first time someone broke my heart I was so sad but...then I got angry...and that's when I found my strength. My strength to make his life a living he11 because we were still in high school! The emotions of love you carry with you every day but I don't think it's healthy to carry the anger or hurt of a breakup around with you. You must shed it so you can move on so that makes that emotion weaker.
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@Pleiades (847)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Wow...that's a really good answer. When I wrote this discussion, I myself couldn't think of the correct answer, and there really shouldn't be one. Each has it's strengths and weaknesses. Just one of those ramdom things that went through my mind today that I actually remembered when typing out discussions for the day. *lol* Have a good one. *Pleiades
@snowy22315 (53008)
• United States
30 Jan 09
They are both pretty intense. I dont know if you can choose between the two. I guess that they are both will make you feel intense. having gone throug both of them I guess Ican say I prefer the falling in love part by far. The breaking up is simply dreadful.
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@Pleiades (847)
• United States
30 Jan 09
"Breaking up is simply dreadful." I like that, it's sweet and to the point. Thanks for your response. *Pleiades
@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I'm not sure that one is stronger than the other. Falling in love with a special person is a very strong emotion. However, I think that it all depends on the circumstances surrounding the break up as to how emotional it is. I do think that with any break up there is going to be some level of emotions.
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@Pleiades (847)
• United States
30 Jan 09
It wasn't a fair question, really. It's kinda like when my two children came up to me the other month and asked me if they were both running for President, whom would I vote for? *Pleiades
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
31 Jan 09
both are strong however when you are enlove you have a feeling of happiness oppose to breaking up you have a strong feeling of pain and disappointments.
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@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
Both have a strong impact in one's life. But the depressing is the breaking up. It is a process. And normally, it took a long time before the person can get over. It is always a make or break situation.
• United States
31 Jan 09
wow that's a hard question. they are both very strong emotions. sometimes a little too strong. i guess breaking up would be the strongest emotion for me becuase if i fell in love with someone and they decided not to be with me anymore, that would tear my world to pieces. but then again, the joy of falling in love with someone is a very strong emotion also. i don't know that is definatly a hard one to figure out.
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• Malta
30 Jan 09
Hi. I'm new :) Hope you don't mind me putting my two cents in on this subject. Falling in love is an amazing feeling. But I think alot of people have never actually fallen in love. Fallen in lust maybe or fallen into a comfortable relationship. I've never been in love!! And I was married for 3 years. On the other hand breaking up hurts yes but if you were never really in love, it hurts your self esteem more than your heart.
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
Both emotions are strong... Falling in love or simply LOVE is the strongest among all emotions! As the Holy Scripture says, "LOVE CAN MOVE MOUNTAINS".... Emotions felt during break up will never be as strong as that in falling in love! In fact, all those anger, pain, depression and all other emotions arising from breaking up might totally vanish when one falls in love again!!! Emotions during break up might be forgotten after sometime when one's wounded heart is finally healed.... On the otherhand, the ecstatic emotion felt by a person in love will always be remembered even after several break ups! Can you imagine now how strong emotions felt in falling in love is?!
@vonvonex (284)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
Pleiades, I would pick falling in love. Why strongest? Because falling in love can make you do things you cant imagine you would do for that particular person. Compared to breaking up, you just usally stay in your home and just cry because of the pain but there is just one thing breaking up can help you anf that is being more stronger then you were anf thats a good thing because you will become an even better person than you were. Going back to falling in love... Well I can really say that you can draw your strength from there even if you are so down with so many problems and all those negative energies that are surrrounding you an I have experienced it already... When I get disapointed with my family, I always gind inspiration from my Girl Friend because she is there for me when I am down... I hope you could understand my point here. Hehehehhe....
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@nzalheart (2352)
• India
30 Jan 09
It depends on how you cope with it. I say they are equal. If your love is so strong and emotion full, then the break up will be equally emotional and painful. But if you are no seriously about your love, your breakup is also not that emotional for you. So, I say its equal.
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