Wanting children to move out?

@bamakelly (5194)
United States
January 30, 2009 10:06am CST
Do you ever wish that your children would grow up and move out or do you mainly just cherish all of the time you have with them now? I have a five year old boy and sometimes I think of the day that he will be grown. However I feel that the time is going to pass so fast and I will miss him being young.
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@madasp (563)
• United States
30 Mar 09
I never thought I would either, but when the oldest three got to be teenagers I thought about it a lot more positivly LOL. My oldest (19) has been out for a little over a year, but she lives close so We still see her all the time. Our 18 year old moved out as soon as she turned 18 but was back pretty quick. She realized being a single mom without help was harder than she thought it would be. Our 16 yr old says he's going to live in our basement til he's 40(I sincerely hope he's joking)and our youngest is 6 months so we still have a way to go until we actually do have an empty nest. I do think its easier for mothers to let thier daughters go and for fathers to let the boys go. My husband threw a fit when "daddy's little girls" wanted to move out, but I was actually looking forward to a lot less drama in the house. On the other hand, I think its going to be very hard to let my "mamas boys" go LOL.
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@Vladilyich1 (1453)
• Canada
29 Mar 09
Enjoy them while you can! All of my kids are adults now except one. He'll turn 18 next month and wants out in the worst way (unfortunately, he wants to join the Marines and I'm doing my darndest to discourage him). The time you have with any of your children is very limited. I left home at 15 (to go to college in the next state). I never returned home and I reegret it. I know my parents did, too.
• Malaysia
2 Feb 09
hi bama ... it is within a culture .. in my culture children only move out when they are married or when they have to work somewhere far away from home otherwise they will be stuck to us until they have settled down
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@kezabelle (2985)
30 Jan 09
My eldest is soon to turn 5 for me the thought of them being old enough to leave home scares me I feel like the last almost 5 years have gone so so fast and i feel sad at that im holding onto them here as long as possible!
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I didn't until I had 3 teens in the house at the same time. I came home to pure stress each day and it grew old. They were all gone within 3 years, but watch out they come back with their families. We are thankful we were able to offer these new families a home when life go tough, But now they have grown children of their own.
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@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
30 Jan 09
I would love for my grown children to live with me. You're right, the time passes so quickly and before you know it they are gone and on their own. If I lived close to my two sons they would be living with me, I never looked forward to the day they were grown and could move out.
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@lilybug (21148)
• United States
30 Jan 09
On mornings like today when my children are driving me absolutely batty, yes I wish they were grown and out of the house. Other times though, no I do not.
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• United States
9 Apr 09
I am the mom of 5. my youngest is 13 and of course, at home. my 23 year old daughter lives with me and sometimes i would like for her not to but at least i see her. my oldest daughter is 27 and moved out last year. she visits all the time. the ones who have moved out have had to move back at times and i don't have a problem with it. it was very hard when they were all small and i look back now and miss it. it was hectic and i needed a break but once they are gone you get sad at how fast it went. i try and enjoy my youngest, even though she can be a moody teen but i know it is going fast also.
@riyasam (16578)
• India
9 Apr 09
i think our cultures are slightly different,our children do move out until marraige where the son and his wife stay in the parents while the daughter goes to her husbands place.