God is the true friend of the lonely?

@zandi458 (27954)
Malaysia
January 31, 2009 12:56am CST
Do you remember the story of Robinson Crusoe - the tale of a traveler ship wrecked on a desolate island? It is the story of a man faced with the most awful fate which can come to a human being - the doom of being utterly alone! Not for nothing is solitary confinement of most dreaded punishment that man can undergo. In some ways, all of us are one time or another cast away on our own desert island of loneliness - an island where you long for a friendly voice, a tender hand. It comes to you when you awaken to the fact that you have no close friend. It strikes you when you realize that so many whom you once knew have moved away or passed onward. It follows you when you are facing the sunset of life -when friends are gone, when children have departed, when you are alone in a house which was once full of laughter, but which is now silent and empty. Do you ever feel so forgotten and neglected that you could sit right down and cry? Do you feel that your life could be happier if you could only have more friends?
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• United States
1 Feb 09
To answer your question, YES. I have felt all of those emotions. However, I will say that out of every experience in my life where I have felt, lonely, forgotten, depressed, etc...there has always been a reason for it. Most recently, I believed that I had been blessed with a friend that could only be THE BEST friend someone could ever have. This person was there for me at my most vulnerable moment. Not only did I believe that this person and I had strengthened our friendship through this experience; but I also catapulted this person to a level in my life, that I had not allowed anyone else to be. Needless to say....I was wrong! Less than a week after I believed I was out of the woods, this person made up an excuse to disappear out of my life in a most pathetic manner. The positive side about this experience is that I will NEVER catapult anyone to that level of trust again (with of couse the exception of my family and eventually my husband). Friends are just that.....friends. Dont read to much into the word. Friends will let you down and take advantage of your kindness and your unwavering capacity to love and accept them for who they really are. Be careful who you call "friend" The saying is true...."If you go through this entire life and can call 1 person a true friend, you are truly blessed!"
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
We cannot deny that we sometimes are taken advantage of, cheated and misunderstood by friends who we thought are trust-worthy. This is rare case though. For it is an unanswerable fact that most people want to be honest and kind and friendly. Most people respond to honesty and kindness with the same things. Even the most hardened criminal, given a task in which he is trusted, rarely betrays that trust. I believe yours is an isoleted case. I will heed your advice to be careful who we befriend.
@nsujin (91)
• India
1 Feb 09
Of course God is the true friend of lonely. No one can make us happy when there is crisis. Believe in God. Read Bible everyday and you can feel difference.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
I am doing just that, reading the bible everyday even if it is only one verse.
• India
1 Feb 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, Very nicely you have touched bottom of my heart and reminded me about those days, when I was about to commit blunder that I would not have been here to discuss. It was the feeling and remembering of Almighty to keep my life moving. We all remember Him in our distress. i do not know , if all of us remembr, when we are happy as well. So let us remember Him during those day as well. Whatevr happiness, we get, we get from His followin paths. We must remmeber Him every moments. may god bless you and have great time.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
I am always fortunate to have your response to each of my discussion as you never fail to end your response asking God to bless me. Thank you for your concern.
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• India
2 Feb 09
hello my friend zandi458 Ji, I am too very lucky to be your friend, and each disussions from you can educate any one. What can I do from here. So at least I can pray for everyone here, which is very much in my reach as an old Lady. may god bless you and have a great time.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
2 Feb 09
Since we all come from different cultures we learn from each other regardless of age. Thank you for being a friend May. May God bless you too and your hubby. Send my regards to him.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Do you remember the story of Robinson Crusoe - the tale of a traveler ship wrecked on a desolate island? Actually I don't remember the story in detail as you do. Do you ever feel so forgotten and neglected that you could sit right down and cry? Why cry when there is so much to life for. It's like my Pastor said recently, "God would never leave you or forsake you, it doesn't matter what's going on in your personal life." Do you feel that your life could be happier if you could only have more friends? Most of my real true friends are busy with their own lives, and so the primary friend that I have is my wife. She's actually my BEST friend, someone who I can feel free to confide in about anything. We just celebrated our 9th year wedding anniversary, this past Thursday. We have 3 lovely, active and well behaved children, and we are indeed BLESSED. I don't feel I need more friends to be happier, and I've learned to not put my trust in people, and with that I don't come to expect anything from them. I am however, indeed grateful for the friends I do have, but I don't make a real big fuss about the entire situation. It keeps me SANE.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
2 Feb 09
Great you have a good backup from your family. Well you have a young family and they are there for you so you'll never find any moment of loneliness. Maybe I'm too emotional and used to living in fast life when I still have my kids with me. I am relocated to a quiet place and am getting adjusted to my new life here. So I feel lonely.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
2 Feb 09
Oh I didn't realize that you were relocated. We actually are relocated to a new city ourselves. The real exciting part is the opportunity that you have to make new friends. Sure they can't replace the ones you previously had, but they can bring with them, new excitement, new adventure and a whole different aspect of life's joys and wonders like any new relationship does. It's all in the way you look at the situation. If you don't want it to be the way it is, don't let it get you down. Be grateful and thank-you that you are alive and well, that you have all the sanity in your mind for this moment, and be thankful for your children. They need for you to be the lead and encouraging one, like I'm sharing with you right now. Change your attitude about the entire move and watch how soon they change theirs. It may not happen over night, but it will eventually especially if you start right away to change. The change starts with you, so what are you going to do?
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
3 Feb 09
Thank you hdjohnson for the great encouragement. Well I do have great friends here in mylot who mean a lot to me. Changing is easy said then done as I have really have no idea where to begin.
@dpk262006 (55825)
• Delhi, India
2 Feb 09
Normally, when I am busy, I do not feel lonely. Lonliness creeps in only when I am sitting idle and doing nothing. You know 'an empty mind is a devil's workshop.' When I am quite alone and thinking the sometimes I start thinking about being lonely, because I think no one can understand me better than I. I can introspect myself and feel my thoughts. Others cannot come to know what is going on in my mind. Having more number of friends is no guarantee that I'll be happier. What is required is some genuine friends, with whom I could share my joys and sorrows and whom I could rely in my hour of need and vice versa.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
3 Feb 09
'an empty mind is a devil's workshop This is something scary. We should always occupy our mind with prayers if we find loneliness creeping into our life. Can't get earthly friends to cheer you up then mylot friends are the best alternative. But for me when am lonely and down I'll just withdraw to my room and have some conversation with God. I'll get some sort of peace of mind when I am with Him in spirit.
@dpk262006 (55825)
• Delhi, India
3 Feb 09
To converse with God is a very wise and practical idea, I agree, this way we can get rid of our lonliness. And also, when real life friends are not there, mylot friends are always there to share our joys and sorrows.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
31 Jan 09
I don't think of God as a person, so if lonely I get busy helping someone else, but with the internet how can anyone feel lonely?
@ClassyCat (1214)
• United States
31 Jan 09
Hi - I think all of us from time to time, go through feeling alone, and empty. But don't just "park there" - think about what you have,to be thankful for and if you want friends, then make it your aim to BE a friend to someone. And as for God - Oh yes, He's so important, and if we take the time to develope a relationship with Him we'll surely be aware of His presence, when we go through tough or hard times. I have found that to be so true in my life. Have a great week.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
There has never been a man or woman with a great faith in God who has ever lonely. When you lack faith you lack trust. And if you lack trust in God then surely loneliness will be your lot. Being in internet you can't feel the presence of human there but only the glare of the screen, you will only be communicating for a short while before calling it a day. Loneliness will envelop you once the power is switched off.
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
31 Jan 09
no, i don't rver feel that way at all. any new friends i make are a blessing of course but i'm very fortunate to have a good friends,
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
You are fortunate to have good friends who are there to cheer you up.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
1 Feb 09
i sure am. we prop each other up.
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@pan_23 (420)
• Kuwait
19 Feb 09
if we feel lonely ,we will get thought of god more in our life. if we engage in other things,and have more friends in our life,we don;t feel lonely. and so try to get more friends in our life. god is friend to us and we should have other friends in our life ,then only our life goes. i sometimes feel lonely and some times i cry also ,but after sometime i only realise that the life is not lonely and we should adjsut with other people in our life and don;t feel that how good they are.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
20 Feb 09
Exactly God will find the right people to accompany us during time of loneliness.
@vanities (11351)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Feb 09
hi zandi..sure i remember him..i watch it in TV..it was shown here locally...is it really true? or just a story...and of course its only God who will be your true friend aside from your family who will help you and guide you always and gives us strength in the process when we are weak...
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 09
Experiencing God presence in our everyday life is wonderful. What you see in TV is actually a strong message to humans about the truth that God is always with us.
• India
3 Feb 09
you are right that god is always with us but when we are lonely we have only god remain with us which help us a lot to keep us feel with someone but most important fact is we have to die alone by this fact every one feel insecure about the fact of lonelyness
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 09
I concur with your views.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
2 Feb 09
I can't say I have ever felt really lonely as I am the type of person who usually appreciates her own company; I have always been like that since I can remember. Having said that I am not yet at the stage of life where old friends have passed and children moved on. I have felt hurt, betrayed, misunderstood and isolated though; even in a crowded place those feelings can be overwhelming. I have few close friends now and I do not feel I need more although I am always open to meeting new kindred spirits.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
3 Feb 09
Some people are just lucky to be able to find company with their own shadow. So no problem with you at all as you are your own friend and loneliness is not your problem. Being in mylot is great as you'll be meeting tons of friends here who are more than willing to be your friends at time of depressed situation and honestly I have some truly great friends here more than what I have expected from my real friends.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
1 Feb 09
Though God is reckoned as your soul mate and best friend , He does not assist you at every juncture of difficulties.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
How many times have you witnessed the truth of the fact that "God helps those who help themselves"? Yes, God will help you with your health problem, but He, too, wants to know what you have done! Give thought to all these things as you sit in "God's ante-room" waiting for His help. For it is often where the earthly doctor leaves off that God begins. Every wise doctor will tell you "I treated the patient, but God cured him". Faith and prayer are two of the strongest forces which can put your mind and body into that condition.
@kishusia (1069)
• India
1 Feb 09
Ganpati - Ganpati is the first God to be worshiped.
Yes, God is our true friend. We may, at times, forget Him but He never forgets us. In whatever situation we are, wherever we are, He watches us and comes to our rescue in the hour of need. The sad thing is that for our successes we give credit to ourselves, and for our grief we blame God. But He still looks after us. Under no circumstances, we should loose faith in God.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
This is human weaknesses, they only know how to ask but soon forget the giver when they are successful.
@chalee68 (73)
• South Korea
1 Feb 09
I believed in you zandi,Though i am lucky that i have many friends both onlines and offlines but still i agree with you that God is our true friend and if we sincerely talk to Him, He is ready to listen.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
As God is our heavenly father we should always talk to him in our prayers and He is always there for us. As we journey through life and meet with some rough patches, faith in God keeps us going and assures us of our skilful navigation.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
1 Feb 09
yup I watch the series every week . yup they have made a new one. Pretty good too. But no I havent ever been that lonly. I have a phone and if I get down my freinds are just a phone call away .
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
God has created human brains and given the wisdom to invent the phone so we can enjoy the benefit of it.
@noniefam (284)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 09
God is everywhere in everytime. He will be in our side when we are happy n sadness
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
You are right.
@makingpots (11928)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Thank you for this discussion, zandi458. I needed to read it and some of the responses to it. I am unable to respond myself, at the moment. But thanks.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
It is okay, as long as you are here to lend your support. Great you'll come back to check on the responses.
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
Hi, I believe that God is like a true friend to us. Not just in lonely times but all times. That our lapses sometimes..we only remember god during our down times. Try remembering and thanking god in your up times...and see how he gives more and never lets you down..GOD BLESS US ALL.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
I agree with you. Because without God's approval, God's help,we are doomed to failure before we start. We should remember Him at all times regardless of good or bad times.
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
31 Jan 09
Hi, No I donot feel thatway.I realised that TRUE Friends are very Rare.God,Book and Pets possibly will stand-by ur hard days.They will never Quit U, so called Friends will Vanish soon. =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
True without true friends we tend to shift our attention to pets and books as our company when we feel loneliness sipping through our life. Loneliness flees from you if your heart is with God.
• Indonesia
31 Jan 09
yes, i felt like that few times before, when i was younger zandi..i used to regret my coldness, coz i was and maybe i am til now. but not again now, since i realized, although i dont seem to have a lot of friends but i know i have, i just cant keep in touch with them all the time coz of too many activities. i met lotz of people, some of them are liking me and some not. but i have da best mates ever in my life now, and they are enough for me than having a 1000 of "just" friends..and i also have my family that i can always taking care of them, i live with them, i work in the same city with them, i taking care of my nephews and sisters, what can i ask for more ? having more friends doesnt mean much, if that friends are not taking us as a true friends and needing us in goodness n badness..but having just 1 true friendship is much-much more than 1000 "just" friendship around us..
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
It is good that you have change now before time forces you to change. Let us give something from the heart to each person around us so that our hearts may meet in stillness and joy, if only for one second. And let us give our heart to God so that it may be deeply filled with compassion for all the clarity to understand life's puzzles.