Are you annoyed when your child asks you many questions?

@France7 (385)
Philippines
January 31, 2009 6:44am CST
There were those times when I got irritated because my children ask me a lot of questions. However, as i get more matured as a parent, I came to realize that my children ask me a lot of things because they are curious about the things that happen around them. I would rather answer their questions rather than putting them off because if if do not answer them, they would seek information that they need elsewhere, and that is never as good as asking us, their parents about things that worry us or perplex us. what do you think my fellow parents? Thank you and happy mylotting!:)
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@gemini_rose (16194)
31 Jan 09
I have four children and out of them all there is one of my sons who asks a lot of questions. He does not just ask simple questions he has to tear the subject he is questioning apart, he goes right down to the bare knuckles of a subject and I often get stuck because I cannot answer his questions! Thank goodness for the internet is all I can say!! I never get annoyed because if they are asking questions they are interested and also they are communicating, if my son thought his questions annoyed me then he would stop asking and I do not want that.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
You are absolutely right Gemini. I do agree that when we put off our children from asking questions, they will not talk to us anymore about the things that they think are important. Just like you, i believe that asking questions by our kids is one of their ways to communicate with us....and communication is a necessity in building relationships not only to our children but to everyone. So Gemini, how were you able to handle questions by your children which you could not definitely answer right away? Thanks and happy mylotting!:)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Well i gotta say its nice to know what my parent is thinkin. i sometimes ask my mom a LOAD of questions, she just kind of avoids me sometimes so im not sure if i make her mad or not. Does it really get that annoying?
@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I don’t have a kid but I do have nephews and nieces that talks a lot, asks a lot, and has a lot of crazy ideas. Sometimes it’s somewhat annoying because I’ll find no answers to their questions and sometimes they’re just asking impossible things to answer. One time, my niece asked me why I don’t have a boyfriend. Great.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Ahahaha!! That was a challenging question.:) It reminds me of one of the questions my son asked to my sister-in-law. He asked her why she was fat:) It's just a good thing that my sister-in-law was able to answer the question. It is in the nature of kids to be so inquisitive that we, parents, aunts, uncles, need to be aware of and be prepared to provide them acceptable answers. Thanks for the response and happy mylotting!:)
@kiwibee (240)
• New Zealand
3 Feb 09
When my children were small, I forestalled a lot of their questions by explaining things to them that I thought they might be wondering about. I loved it when they did ask questions though, as I took it as a sign of intelligence. If children ask "dumb" questions (i.e., you are pretty sure they either don't care about the answer or else they already KNOW the answer) then it's a sign of their needing attention. More "one on one" time. Reassurance that they are important little individuals, and that mummy and/or daddy really does care. I remember before we had kids my husband (now ex) said he hated it when kids asked stupid questions, or too many of them. I was quite relieved that our children didn't do that:-) Maybe that was one of the reasons I sought to answer their questions before they asked them, so they wouldn't annoy him!
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
hello there kiwibee. you are exactly right that our kids need explanation about things that are puzzling them. it is also true that they they ask us questions not just because they want to know an information about something but also because they also want our attention. i understand that it is quite difficult for us doing such things especially when we are working, but again, that is not enough reason for us to give our time for them. they need our quality time; that won't let them feel that they are being neglected. thanks for the response and happy parenting! God bless:)
• United States
1 Feb 09
France7 I'v alway's beleaved that I had reather answer there question, and try to put them on the right track.then standing in front of a judge trying to answer his questions of where I went wrong. after 5 kids there were a lot of questions. no I didn't have all the answers. but I would try to find then. after asking them what they though first. I never had one child that ever got in truble,with the law, and I owe it all to the good lord up stairs and two parents that took the time to think our children were worth ever minute. the old saying if you don't tesch them the right way. there's always someone out there eager to teach them the wrong way. firemountain
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
you are absolutely right firemoutain in saying that there are people out there who'd really want to teach the wrong way to our kids. so to prevent that from happening, we need to answer our kids' questions. this prevents them from doing bad things. thanks for the response and happy mylotting!:)
@SHAMRACK (8532)
• India
1 Feb 09
Dear friend, I hope those childern who ask questions are really want to know more or may they are unknowingly or knowingly attaining knowledge, adapting the world they are in. Moreover I hope their questions are to answers properly or proper guidance should be given from where their answers can be obtained. More they get correction informations and avoid misguided by false information. Hence I feel their question are to answered or given the guidance or advice from where it can be obtained.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
thanks shamrack for the response. It is really of great importance for kids to get the right information from us, their parents, rather than letting them get the first had information from others. thanks again and happy mylotting:)
@AXLAERO (426)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
Sometimes i also feel irritated everytime my kids keep asking me so many questions.Everytime i answer,he will ask again another question regarding to my answer.But sometimes,i also find it cute.We have to be thankful and proud if our kids keep asking many questions.It means,they are aware of what's happening at their young age.And they are curious of many things.They will learn a lot of things.Some says that if a kid is very curious or keep asking questions,it means that the kid is intelligent.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
Hi axlaero. Yes, kids these days are a lot inquisitive in knowing a lot of things. It is actually one of the ways on how they can learn from their environment. Therefore, it is best for us parents to provide them the best learning they could possibly have by simply providing them information that they want to know. Above all, we are thankful that we are given the chance to communicate with our children. Thanks again and happy mylotting. God bless!:)
@uicbear (1903)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I have to admit, there is only so many why questions in a row that I can answer. I do my best to answer all the questions but sometimes it starts to become a circular conversation. I don't really get annoyed, but I have to resort to the final answer being,"well, kiddo, that's just the way it is" and leave it at that. It's funny how when they are little kids think you know everything and then a few years later, they don'r think you know anything. Gotta remember to enjoy it while you can.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
Hello there uicbear. I couldn't argue with the type of questions that our kids ask us. They are fun of asking WHYs. Our kids really think that we know everything, however, we also have certain limitations, so instead of trying to giving out uncertain questions, i guess there is a better way for us to lead them into knowing the correct answer that would lead us together with our kids into opening our encyclopedia, dictionary, or computer. thanks for the response and God bless.:)
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
1 Feb 09
Hi, Though sometimes too many questions and repetations of earlier questions from children are annoying...but I keep control.I do the self-talk-"i also did the same... keep answering..keep cool...".That gives me enough patience. =lahiri,Kolkata,India.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
Hello there lahiri:) You are truly right that talking to ourselves can greatly help in controlling our patience when answering our kids' repetitive questions. By constantly reminding ourselves, we can effectively give truthful and acceptable responses to children's inquiry. thanks for sharing your thoughts and happy mylotting as well as parenting:)
@okoyskabo (186)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
i never get annoyed whenever my toddler asks many questions. i answer each of his questions patiently and seriously no matter how foolish or childish those questions are because i have read somewhere that when a child asks questions, he is curious and he is learning. true enough, people are so impressed with my 3 year old because he is much knowledgeable compared to other toddlers his age. that means, almost all of those things i told him are stored in his brain.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
hello there okoyskabo. I am in agreement with you in saying that it is really of great importance for us, parents to answer our kids' questions no matter how foolish or challenging they are. while some of their questions challenge us, some make us laugh even. Thanks for responding and continue being a great parent. God bless!:)
@kiran8 (15399)
• Mangalore, India
1 Feb 09
Hi, i would go with you. The more question the child asks the more intelligent he is. I am a teacher and i have always felt that such children achieve a lot with some help and guidance from parents and teachers. It is best to give him the right answers and convincing answers instead of just saying something to ward him off. As you rightly said , He is going to ask someone else if he is not satisfied and may get some wrong answers, which is very harmful. It is better to admit that you do not know something, but tell him that you will try to find out and let him know rather than give half baked answers or incorrect answers. My son was the same and he really used to try my patience at times. But i had a psychologist friend who advised me to answer all his questions and he also told me that it will help me develop some much needed patience in dealing with situations and it forms a firm bonding with your children, which i totally agree- happy parenting to you and all the best
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
Hi there Kiran. You are definitely right in saying that kids need proper guidance from their parents. Likewise here, my kids try my patience , so when i know that i'm already starting to become intolerant, i excuse myself for awhile just to take a deep breath before continuing talking with them. It is true that it takes a lot of endurance to talk and listen to our kids as they really have questions which are out of this world, while others are self-explanatory yet they still don't seem to understand because their comprehension is still developing. thanks kiran for sharing your wonderful thoughts. I believe you are a great mom.:) God bless!:)
• United States
1 Feb 09
My children expect more from me because aside from being a mom to them they are aware that I work as a teacher. I do entertain their questions. It is good that they asked questions to be able to quench their thirst for knowledge. It amazes me to hear my kids ask questions that are not really childish anymore. It is a sign of intelligence that kids ask and it is more intelligent if they have retention of the answers you give.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
Hello Hibiscus_mel.:) It is certainly amazing to hear our kids asking us questions which are considered to be not childish anymore. And for retention, it is also nice for us to give follow-up questions to them in order to encourage their inquisitiveness. Thanks for responding and happy mylotting!:)
@zhuhuifen46 (3486)
• China
1 Feb 09
Active thinking and asking questions is very important for developing kids' thinking ability. We need be patient to answer their questions, and what is more, create circumstances for them to ask question. The following may be helpful for parents. - When telling a story, stop for a while, requesting questions. When playing games, give some hints to invite questions, and meanwhile teach them how to ask questions clearly and politely. - Encourage kids to think actively, and initiate questions. They are curious by nature. When they have numerous "Whys" to ask, it is often the indifference of the parents that kill their curiosity. Instead, the parents must guide, protect, encourage their curiosity. Show and express your interest in their questions, and think together with them to seek answers. In this way, their desire to ask questions will be stimulated. - To be better responders to kids' questions, parents need to keep studying, to get better prepared for the growing kids.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
Hi zhuhuifen! You are indeed right that we, parents need also to keep on studying because our kids are brilliant these days. The tips that you've given are greatly helpful for us parents in encouraging our chidren's curiosity and tapping on their potentials as learners. Thus, it is true that parents are the first teachers of our children, right? Thanks for responding and happy mylotting!:)
• United States
1 Feb 09
My two aren't really talkers yet, 2 and 1, so I can't say for certain how I would react. I would like to think that I would answer their questions. I'm sure it's annoying, but I agree that if you don't answer them they'll go find the answer elsewhere. I don't really want someone else explaining things to my children. I'm the mother, I should.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
You are exactly right wallfranklin!:) It is safer for our children to get the first information from us rather than to other people. The challenging part there is for us to accurately answer their questions. Usually, children reach that curiousity stage once they reach 4. Thanks for the response and God bless!:)
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@kezabelle (2985)
31 Jan 09
It can get tiring if the questions are endless all day which they can be with my eldest who is almost 5, but i dont tend to get annoyed no its one of the ways they learn and id hate to be stopping their learning just because it might be annoying to answer their questions besides if a child comes to you with a question and is continually told to go away or just gets an annoyed reaction from their parents well it will make them think twice about talking to their parents I dont ever want my girls to think they cant come to me no matter how small or big their question might be.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
That I definitely agree kezabelle. It can be tiring for questions that are endless especially when we are also tired coming home from work. On the other hand, it is not still an enough excuse for us, isn't it? what do you think? Thanks kezabelle and God bless.:)
@marisriel (1157)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
I am guilty of being annoyed when my kids get to ask a lot of questions, because sometimes they ask questions just to get my attention, and usually they are on my working time. But most of the time, I do my best to answer their questions. Kids are very intelligent these days, and sometimes they think more maturely than we think. I know that if we don't talk to them right away, we might miss some important questions that they need to ask and it might have some unexpected results in the future.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
We can see eye to eye on that Marisriel!:) sometimes their questions are not even clear, so not to get irritated, i keep on reminding myself that they cant' always explain themselves to me the way they want to, for they still don't have the words or the experiences to explain things. Thus, our part as parents is to serve as their listeners and counselors, for we are older, more experienced, and more logical than they are. thanks marisriel and happy mylotting:)
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
31 Jan 09
I have actually always gotten a major kick out of that...even before i was a parent with kids of my own..but even more so since becoming a parent...I think its amazing how curious kids are and they arent afraid to ask tons of questions but adult, though at times they SHOULD do it, just arent able to and so many issues arise from it ya know..Its like once you hit your teen yrs you become too afraid to ask which is so silly..
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
Absolutely raven! the questions of my children made me appreciate how curious they are. It also reminds me of how curious i was when i was at their age...and yes, it is a shame on our part as adults not being able to ask questions when we needed to ask hahaha! On the other hand, it is always nice to remember the days of our childhood when we ask tons of questions, which means that we can still do now as adults. the only difference probably is that, we are now more logical in asking and understanding things, right?:)
@angemac23 (2005)
• Canada
31 Jan 09
No, I never get mad or annoyed at a child for asking questions. That's how children learn, they ask questions and it helps them understand the world around them.
@France7 (385)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
Hello angemac! Yes, i do agree with you that letting our children ask questions from us make them learn and understand themselves as well. When my children ask me questions, i try to give back their questions and i discover that their explanations seem unreasonable sometimes, or don't make sense because they are still in the process of development. have you also ever experienced your child asking you questions which are quite difficult to answer? thank you and happy mylotting!:)