How can i help him be open to my fashion sense?

Philippines
January 31, 2009 10:53pm CST
My boyfriend prefers that i dress more conservatively. He demands that i change every time my outfit doesn't meet his "standards". He says he loves me that's why he worries about my wardrobe, hut his taste is so limiting! How can i help him be open to my fashion sense?!
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@relundad (2312)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Well it depends on exactly what your dress style is whether its possible to change his mind. As your partner, if you dress too sexy, or flirtatious then he may never come around. As most men like this type of dress for his eyes only. Maybe he feels that whatever you do in your everyday life, like school or work requires a more conservative dress style. If that is the case, maybe you are the one that may need to consider his ways.
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@fatboy4 (39)
• New Zealand
1 Feb 09
sorry people but i have a very different awnser to this.If he is trying to change your dress sence its because he doesnt want anyone else looking at you.If you do this for him he will try the same thing with other aspects of your life.Hes not doing this for you hes doing it for him.Dont get caught up in him trying to change you, stay as you are.if you are comfortable in your skin stay there.it will let him know you cant and wont be controlled.trust me when i say this because it took me seventeen years to get away from him.it started with my dress sence and carried on till i had no me left.I became what he wanted, a shell of a women who had to do what he wanted,After years of this abuse i did something about and it cost me dearly.This is nothing other than a control thing .Be strong and dont let it happen.
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
wow.. i feel bad for you.. so what dd you do? you confronted him? what dd he say? or do? break up with you? just curious..
• New Zealand
2 Feb 09
i stayed with him for seventeen years before i gathered enough courage to leave.Its been ten years since we split and he is still trying to control me through our children.
• United States
6 Feb 09
You have a bf huh? Hmm...tell him it's about you and not him, and he has nothing to worry about if he does trust you. I hope your fashion sense is really fashion and not trashy like what others think what "fashion" is.
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
whahaha a boyfriend.. whahahaha
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
hmmmmm.. i dont know.. let him change his outfit also.. hehehe.. just tell him that you're wearing it for him.. hehe..
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
yeah that sounds a good idea.. hehehe thanx
@okoyskabo (186)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
if he loves you then he has to accept all of you including your fashion sense. we ladies love to dress up and be in style with the latest trends then there goes one person who comes in our way. gossshhh! maybe he is just insecure. assure him that he is the one you love and that you are doing it for him, and not for other men. do every thing to earn his trust and just make sure that you do not show so much skin, just be within your limits. goodluck!
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
i agree, cheers!
@kunal420 (161)
• India
1 Feb 09
first of all where do you and your boyfriend live i think that your boyfriend in narrow minded person who think small not so big as compared to you as you are Brod thinker as compared to him i think that you should change his thinking of seen the world or he may dont want to expose you to other in this world as he loves you a lot
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
i live in the philippines.. and not all people here are conservative.. and i dont wear too much skin.. for christ sake! even wearing a simple shorts and sleeveless.. he wont allow.. i really dont understand how will i let him understand me.. "like hey.. wer just here in the house?!?! why have to dress up!?"
@thaMARKER (3098)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I haven’t encountered one before. But I know a couple before that the lady would make sure to dress according to her boyfriend’s standard. Well, maybe you should talk about it and meet half way. Okay fine he worries but you tell him you how to take and wear it in a way you would still get respect. Talk about it without a fight.
@sid556 (31023)
• United States
6 Feb 09
You need to stand up for yourself, Trendy! He was attracted to you dressed as you dress. It sounds a bit controlling to me. My guess is that he worries and gets jealous that other guys may look at you. He has no right to tell you how to dress or anything for that matter. If I were you, I would refuse to change. If he doesn't like it...oh well. How long have you been dating? If you let him dictate your clothes for you, next he'll be telling you who you can have for friends and whom you can and can't talk to.
• United States
3 Feb 09
My husband and I have a similar issue, but reversed. My husband is into the goth and what I have always considered relly weird ways to dress. I am very conservative really. At first we both tried to influence each other, but we came to terms with the idea that we just have different opinions on fashion. If what you want to wear is extremely revealing he may feel you are exposing what is "his" to others. That is what my first husband told me when I occasionally wore a low cut blouse or slightly shorter shorts. That is one reason he is my ex husband though. Figure out exactly what he most disapproves of and see if there could be a way to compromise. Maybe your styles but slightly less revealing or he could try to just relax about it. But do not let him dictate what you wear all the time, it will lead to him trying to have complete control over your life. Compromise if possible but do not give in all the time.
@cybersoft01 (1287)
• India
2 Feb 09
I think he really loves you and its very hard to change peoples minds particularly when they are conservative. I find it hard to change my wife's mind. I suppose only the time will change him slowly.
• Canada
2 Feb 09
If you are giving into him on your clothing issue then you are giving him control. I would stay firm in how you want to dress and show him that he cannot change you unless you want to be changed.
@modstar (9617)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
I think he's just being protective. Ladies who dresses sexy are most prone to being harassed. Your boyfriend may not like that because he treats with you with utmost respect. My former girlfriend wears sexy clothes and she seems unaware of being harassed. I told her that if she dresses up too sexy, she's must be ready for the consequence in case her get up with engage me into a fight. Though i love her to dress sexy whenever we make love lol!
@Sydemon (119)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
hes just worrying that people maybe thinking disgusting thoughts when you wear too revealing clothes,