How would you react to the rumours?

India
February 1, 2009 9:06am CST
Why people make rumours of someone who innocent? It hurts a lot and that too if it is made by someone who is very close to us. It happened with me. But the irony is that I could not react to that because the person who gives publicity of these rumours is my collegue and I could not react to that. If I react that may hurt the person so I thought of keeping mum. Why people do that, just to entertain and make a place among other people around?
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19 responses
@kirei24 (252)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
Its really a bad feeling being rumoured negatively. Which is actually all lies. When this thing happened to me, i just try to ignored it even if its really hard. Its not true anyway. I tried to stay calm as possible as i can. I even try to do things like its nothing so that i will not give that person who spread it a satisfaction on what he/she done. Luckily, after few days the rumours faded. hehehe
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
if you know for yourself that it is not true then she dont deserve your time.if you know very well that it is someone close to you who is spreading this nasty rumors, try talking to her and straighten out the facts. if she denies it, forget all about her.leave her point blank and meet new friends.
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
Gossip helps relieve stress. I like talking about other people because it takes the pressure off. ANyway, when I know that a rumor's not true, I won't talk about it anymore. I'll even spread the word so that the rumors would die down. I don't like talking about lies. Rumors, on the other hand, might be true, so speculating is a bit fun for me.
@adoremay (2069)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
I don't entertain rumors especially when the people involved are closed to me. I always wait for the time they want to open the topic and if they don't I just stay silent. A single word is not enough to affect how I see a person.
• United States
2 Feb 09
Peoplstart rumors because they get they thin that people would look more highly of hat person.What they dont know of the person they hurt and the consequences this could give. i would have a sit down with this person and say you felt hurt. if your a man, talk to him whle play games.
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
i dont react.. when i know its not true.. i dont react simple.. god will do the rest for that person.. for those people who make up stories.. are just looking for attention or jealous.. so its better to be quiet coz the lesser noise the opponent makes the enemy is much scared coz they dont know whats in your head.. :) cheers!
• United States
2 Feb 09
If I understand correctly, you can't react to the rumors because the person spreading them is your colleague? Why would you want to protect that person, even if they're "close" to you? If they're spreading rumors, they're obviously a fake friend. You should just confront them about it. (Verbally is probably better, but I'd personally smack the hell outta them. Or, instead of that, just work something out if you really care for this person.)
@patbinc (57)
• Haiti
2 Feb 09
Having a rumour concerning me making the rounds is bad enough. Having somebody who's close (or claims to be close) to me is the worst thing that can happen. It feels so bad and the first thing that comes to mind is if I really have a friend or an enemy in sheepskin! It really puts our friendship or whatever relationship there might be between us in jeopardy and as much as I would like to keep quiet for the sake of our relationship, I would still have doubts about our friendship and many question marks. I realized after I had this happen to me about 4 times that the best thing is to have a straight talk with the person spreading the rumours, especially if its somebody who is close to you. Keeping quiet about it will only eat you up inside and lead to undue stress. Some people need attention and the only way they can get people to listen to them is if they talk about others!
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
1 Feb 09
Hi mininair, I don't like gossip, it hurts too many people so I never spread rumours. I like the saying if you can't say something good about a person,don't say anything. I have seen many innocent people being hurt by rumours and once it is started, you can't stop it no matter what you do. If someone starts a rumour about you the best thing to do is ignore it, if you say nothing people will get bored of talking about it and move on to something else. There are those who just love to start rumours about others. Blessings.
• India
1 Feb 09
Well as we are human beings every one will react to rumours, if some one says any rumours about his/her favorite then definitely his affection makes him tensed and make to respond to the situation.
@Icyfairy (284)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
1 Feb 09
well i dont now why some people do that but i know that if someone spreads a rumor about me i will confront the person if i know who started it but i will try my best to remain calm and not make a big scene. but if i do not know who spread the rumor i try my best to ignore it. if the rumor get back to my family i will explain to them what happened. thats how i react to rumors
• Canada
1 Feb 09
i learned that rumors only last for a short time and if you don't let them see that it bothers you they just move on.sometimes the person who spreads the rumor ends up with everyone not liking them therefore they become the lonely one
@syeryn (574)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Rumors are just that -- rumors. Nothing more than a tidbit of gossip that someone wants to spread like a wildfire. I usually slough them off and tell others, if something that juicy was going on in my life don't ya think I would be talking about it myself? That usually shuts them up.
@jd107nette (1456)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
hi! There are people who take pleasure seeing the downfall of others... Sometimes, they do such immature acts in order to pull you to the level where they are... I find it amazing that you could actually keep it in... I guess if I was in your place, I could have confronted the person privately and asked for whatever reason he has for scattering such rumors. I'm guessing that the person is of quite an importance to you because you do not want him to get hurt.. if he is a friend, then to salvage the relationship you have left, communication would be a perfect remedy.. ^_^
@rberon1985 (5394)
• Philippines
1 Feb 09
Rumours cannot be avoided. It is everywhere. It is the main job of those people especially unemployed people.They do not know what to do in their life. With your question about my reactions. That is depending on the rumour, that they are telling, if I know to myself that I am not doing that, what will I do is confront him / her about that matter.I will confirm to him / her that id he / she has a proof that I really do that.I hate people who are liars.
@sammy009 (259)
• United States
1 Feb 09
HI. Rumours that just what they are, noting else. To me people who make them up, maybe they are jealous of you. Prove the rumour wrong, that is what i would do. People who make them up, to me has nothing better to do in there life, just like causing problems. Which they have the problem to begin with.
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
1 Feb 09
The fact that it is called rumor is because it's not true or it hasn't been proven to be true. In my case, I just let the gossipers do their job until they get tired of it. Baseless rumors die early. You just rob yourself of peace when you listen to what they have to say. Whether you do the right thing or not, people will always try to find fault in what you do. So just let them be. As long as you know in your heart that you are right, nothing else matters.
@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Are the people making the rumors really trying to start something? Is it what they set out to do. A while back I was talking to a friend. It was something I was trying to work out in my mind so I shared it with another. That person then took it somewhere else and it got turned around. Sometimes what is now bull, started as nothing but the truth. And by the time the person who it's about gets it, it's been stretched and deformed and is now nothing like it was in the first place. And who gets the blame? The person who was stupid enough to talk to the wrong person. Take everything you hear with a grain of salt, knowing that things aren't always what you hear them to be.
@SuzyLong (775)
1 Feb 09
I wouldn't keep quiet if someone made up a rumour about me, I'd confront them in front of everyone so that they could all see what a liar they are. I've done it before and as soon as I've found out, I've confronted them to expose them for the stupid pathetic people they are. If they have to make up rumours about people for no reason then they have no life and are a waste of time. I'd confront this person that made up the rumours about you and ask why they did it. Don't take crap from people or you'll always get it.