Do you treat your sons and daughters the same?

@tammytwo (4305)
United States
February 3, 2009 4:25am CST
My husband and I have this discussion all the time. He feels daughters should be treated differently than boys. Being the daughter and knowing how it felt to be treated different than my brother growing up I feel we just at least try to set the same rules and standards for all three of our children, regardless of their gender. How do you feel about this? If you have a daughter and son do you treat them the same, with the same rules, etc? Or if you don't have one of each tell me how you think you would treat them if you did? Thanks! Have a great day!
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5 responses
24 Oct 10
I try my very best to treat them the same, obviously with the age gap it makes it harder to treat my daughter the same as my son because he's four and she's two. Making her spend time in her room thinking about why she was naughty is a little harsh at the moment, generally I get her to say sorry and get her to settle. I wouldn't say I'm unfair to either of them and I was the same with my son when he was her age.
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@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
24 Oct 10
Because my husband was an only child he sometimes has a hard time with this. I also try to allow them the same freedoms once they reach certain ages, like when our oldest son was 16 and he got to do certain things then so should the daughter. The husband has had a hard time with that but he is learning.
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
8 Jan 10
I asked my mom that question with regard to her two boys and one girl if she loves us the same and treats us equally and to this she answered yes .I agree with her that she tries her best to treat us all equally but I Ddont think that she can love us all the same .I believe she had her special but it wa sdifficult to find out which one of us that was because she would never deny any of us something that we needed
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@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
11 Oct 10
Sometimes parents do tend to "favor" one child or the other. But I don't think it is because they love them more. I think it is because of the situation at the time - maybe the child needs more attention or maybe the parents have more money at that time to give that child more things. I don't know, I think it could be a variety of reasons.
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
11 Mar 09
thanks for best response hon
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@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
18 Aug 09
You're welcome. Thanks for responding to my post.
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
3 Feb 09
you know that is hard to say, I only had a boy, now just like you I don't believe in a double standard but there are times that I just would make a double standard, for example, my son might go to a club by himself, but I certainly wouldn't want my daughter to go to a club by herself, she would be an easy mark.
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@tammytwo (4305)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Thanks for your response. But by the time they are able to go to clubs we don't really have much control over them.
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
3 Feb 09
how i wish i colud have boy and girl.sorry i have only one duaghter and its enough to make it fairsure as my kids i will treat them equal.its unfair if we favor of one of our own kid.
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