...how to make friends with your ex-gf/bf???

@rodeth (87)
Philippines
February 3, 2009 5:06am CST
...Past relationship sometimes hurts us so badly, sometimes, it also makes our life miserable because we can't accept the fact that you have broke up... ...But, how could you make friends with someone most specifically your ex-bf/gf without hurting yourself??? Assuming that you can't force yourself to forget him/her because you still have feelings for him/her???
3 responses
@diillu (5128)
3 Feb 09
I think it's better not to remain friends with your ex when you still have some feelings left cause you are hurting more to yourself. As for me I really had bad break up last time and I have never ever wanted to make friends with him. I totally hated him but yes there were still some feelings left in me so I decided it is better to let go and never see him again so that I wouldn't be feeling bad, and finally I didn't even realised when I moved on.
@rodeth (87)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
...hey thanks for that message...Yeah, it is better to stop making friends with him bacause I have still feelings for him, it really hurts,hehehe Godbless
@kaitan (46)
• Japan
3 Feb 09
Yeah, I agree that past relationships could really hurt us that bad. We think that we couldn't afford to be friends with them anymore but I believe that it depends upon your personality and the personality of your bf/gf and the situation that you have gone through.For me, I was able to forgive my bf and make friends with him. In fact, we are now like bestfriends because I can easily open up with him.I guess we know each other well more than anyone else. We're not dating anymore like we used to but we can call each other if any of us has a problem.I can say, our relationship now is better being friends than when we were still lovers...... If you can't forget him/her then don't force yourself, time will heal the wounds.Also, don't force yourself to be friends with him if you don't feel like it or if he/she doesn't feel like it either, it will just worsen the problem.
@rodeth (87)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
...yeah, maybe it will become worst if I will make friends with him if I don't really feel to... thanks for that wonderful message, it really helps to enlightened my mind...God bless
• United States
3 Feb 09
I think it would be hard for me to become friends with my ex, just because you know so much about that person it is hard to be just friends with them.
@rodeth (87)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
...yeah thats how I feel now, i'm having a hard time of making friends with my ex...