To have or not to have kids right now?

Philippines
February 4, 2009 1:42am CST
for so many years I've spent lots of my time, wasted! I don't have savings yet for my bright future. Now that I realize that I'm not getting any younger and I want to have a family on my own. This time my girlfriend wants to have a baby but I'm not ready yet. My reasons are how can I feed them?, how can I give them good future that we always wanted and how would I be prepared if I can't give them those futures that we dreamed of?
4 responses
@jasmin69k (103)
• Australia
4 Feb 09
parenthood is not easy..but i can give you an example my parents married at their younger age,unprepared and not secured.but when my mom got preggy and am the fruit of life.it's hard for them to raise.but both of my parents are hardworking i can say they didn't give me for what all i want but they give me for what all i need.i graduated and became a better person with a good upbringing..sometimes don't to much think 'bout the future think 'bout today.there's no impossible when u believe u can..
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
Thanks guyz! you just give me some courage. The truth really is, I was so scared that my future siblings gonna feel and taste what was I, my brothers and sisters have been experiencing before. My parents suffer from financial loses and we need to stop our studies, but I never give-up. I work hard at daylight and go to school at night, somethings I only eat once a day to save cents for fares. It was so really hard, that's why I'm so afraid that my kids to be will experience the scariest moment of my life.
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
others can y u can't..i understand how u feel but u know don't feel to much fear coz if thats what ur feelin' well u can't do it..u already succeeded of who u r now..and prove that u can..then y afraid the next step..?
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
having a child is not that easy, you have to be emotionally ready, physically ready and financially ready as well. you need to have a heart to heart talk with your girlfriend regarding this matter. if you are not financially ready once she gets pregnant on the first week you will be starting to bring her to the doctor but her vitamins, healthy food and drinks. then as the months fly by you still need to save money that you will use when she gives birth.
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
Boyfriend and I are getting married within the year and we are planning to start having a family immediately after the wedding. We are not getting younger so we want to see our kid grow up as we grow older. It would be to hard for us if our kids are quite young and we are too old. We want to enjoy seeing our grandchildren someday. Don't worry too much when the children start coming you will work harder for them so that you may give them the basic needs. When will you have children when you have riches but you can't have them for you are too old? think of that.
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Sounds like you need to stop worrying and start living. If you don't, you will end up as an old man think about all the things you could have done. Life is too short, learn to enjoy it, learn to reach out for the things you want. Many a child has been raised as a poor person (myself included) and turned out just fine