Is it better to show your emotions or cheat yourself ?

India
February 4, 2009 9:37am CST
Are you good enough to hide your emotions?Don't you think if you hide your emotions ,you are cheating with yourself.It is true that sometimes you need to control your emotions but I can rarely do that.If I feel angry I don't hesitate to show my anger,I know that person might get hurt on whom I am showing my anger but I can't help it.I can't cheat myself for the shake of other's. Friend what do you think about it? Is it better to show your emotions or cheat yourself?
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25 responses
• India
5 Feb 09
Cool ,my friend.I know it is not possible to check temper.But still as we are human beings we must not react like the wild animals.It is good to show your anger then also you must be controlled .In any moment you must not lose your temper and do any sort of mishaps. I get angry many times,but I try to escape from that situation.It does not mean that I am cowered ,but I don't want any sort of confrontation . come on friend .enjoy your life.
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• India
7 Feb 09
well,my friend.you are intelligent enough to handle situations. thank you for responding. have a nice day!!
@eynjel05 (444)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
In my own personal opinion, it is better to show what you feel that hiding it and pretend that you are okey.Hiding what you feels especially when you feel that you are being hurt cannot help you, feel free to show your emotions. And release it because it can help you to feel better. Well some says that if a guy is crying, it means that he is not men. Why? Is it wrong to see a guy crying? I dont think so. Because guys are also human beings that have emotions and whatever they feel, they are free to express it and it doesnt necessarily means that they are not men.
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• India
5 Feb 09
great, my friend.You have written in a very good fashion.And raised an extremely important point. Thanks for your comment. Have a nice day!!
@Mozzak (89)
• United States
5 Feb 09
It is always better to open yourself up.Normaly if you are sad and you try to hide it,you will get depressed.Did it maybe happen to you that in school or at work you got depressed,you pretended to be happy,and the right moment you closed the door of your apartment you burst into crying screaming alkinds of stuff and kicking your cat? Happened to me... Don't hide your emotions (ESPECIALY NOT IN FRONT OF GIRLS)and if you feel sad try to talk to somebody who you trust to and like. God bless Mozzak
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
It's not good to hide them all the time. It's not good to show them all the time. What I mean is, it depends on the situation. Venting anger when you are not in the right time, place or situation may just lead to regret. The ability to control your emotions is a sign of maturity, it is not cheating. If you just show your emotions all the time, let's say anger, then you are nothing greater than a child with temper tantrums. One more thing, when venting out anger, you may really hurt another person that's why again, use tact. Getting angry at your boss and lashing it out on him is not really a good idea, you should rather fix the misunderstanding in a calm way. Getting angry and showing control of your emotions would really help you in the real world.
• India
5 Feb 09
well my friend,you seems to be extremely practical.I do agree with you that is must needed in today's world.But the situation seems to be not under control in every moment.If i take an oath then also I might have to show my emotions especially anger. Thanks for your valuable comment.
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Yes, it's hard to do, but not impossible. Don't think of it as bottling your emotions. Because bottling emotions and not letting it out is very bad for a person. Bottling emotions will harm your personality and mental health. The correct way of seeing this in my opinion is, "Hiding your emotions is one thing, controlling your emotions is another." Hiding it is bad if you bottle it up for long. Controlling your emotions on the other hand, will be good for you and the people around you. And as you said, it's not easy. That's what life's about. Dealing with emotions was never easy and the constant challenge to cope with these emotions is what makes us learn and become a better person.
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
its better to show your emotion because in that way people will know how you feel for them instead of cheating yourself..
• India
7 Feb 09
thank you for your nice comment.
@daddyfree (122)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
yeah i agree that you are cheating yourself. showing all your emotions to everyone is not very wise because there are alot of situations that you need to control your feelings like if you get angry with your son or daughter...you need to control your temper in order for them to understand that it is not good to that thing or whenever you are mad at your girlfriend and just to avoid a fight you should not talk about those bad stuff to her. just like that. it has a purpose why not showing your emotions.
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
so which is better hide your emotions? or cheat yourself.. hmmmm
@sahed159 (369)
5 Feb 09
I do not think so that, some emotion which may be harmful to one, hiding is cheating own self.As being a human we should to control own self (ego, emotion, habit.....)
• India
5 Feb 09
Thank you for your comment. Have a great day!
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
In my case i used to control my emotions most especially when im angry coz i believe that once you say bad to others even u say sorry u cant refer the damage done in their feeling. That's y i think better to control coz its not abt urself only its abt people whom u love..
• India
5 Feb 09
very well said,You seems to be an extremely controlled person.I like this sort of persons very much.alas!I am not this kind of guy. Thank you for your reply. Have a good day!
• United States
5 Feb 09
A lot of the time if you hide your emotions you'll bottle it up inside. The longer you bottle things inside, the worse it'll be when you can't take it anymore. Some people can't help but hide their emotions from others. My opinion is that if you hold your emotions in too long, it'll hurt you worse in the end. It definately makes sense to control anger, but if you're depressed, you shouldn't hide it from loved ones (at least). You can show that you're mad, but don't lash out at anyone. Some people have a worse mental state than others, and can't take as much stress. You need to consider the fact that people can't change if they have depression, anxiety, bipolar, or any other mental disorder. The more you yell at others, the more it'll hurt them. You can show your anger, but keep it to a minimum. Depression is hard to deal with, as is bipolar disorder and anxiety. If someone else makes you angry, breathe, then calmly explain to them why you're angry. You don't need to be hurtful to others, but you can still express it in a healthy and relieving way. You don't have to cheat yourself to keep others from being hurt.
• India
5 Feb 09
I do agree with you my friend,I feel the same if I don't show my emotions .I agree that hiding is needed but I am not good at that.I simply can't hide. Thanks for your response.
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
I must admit that i'm good at hiding my true feelings... i can't confide my feelings to my parents as i know they will never understand.. sometimes, i just cry myself to sleep and let my emotions go away.. you know, there were times that i just want to break down and die but i've told myself that i shouldn't let my emotions overpower me.. i should stand up and be brave to face the sufferings i've been going through..
• India
5 Feb 09
You must be great at this art.But everybody is not as much gifted as you are.My well wishes are always with you to carry on this art in future. Thanks for your response.
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
Hello There! It really depends on the situation. There were times that I keep my emotions or feelings to myself when I know that it is not worth to show it to someone especially when it is nonsense or if I am angry. I try to hide what I feel especially when I am frustrated, angry or losing my patience to someone because even if they had hurt me, I don’t want to hurt them back as much as possible since it is either we will make a big scene or they would enjoy to see that I am affected on what they did. However, there are times that I could not take it, I am no angel inside, trust me, so I would really confront the person and tell her/him how I feel. For me, I am not cheating myself, I am just controlling my feelings in hurting other people and making fun of myself… there is a proper time for everything. Just my one cent! Goodluck and thanks for the discussion! Happy Mylotting! Cheers!
• India
5 Feb 09
Thanks to you too as you told about your controlled emotions.You are very much practical.and you know it as well how to react when you are down. Thank you my friend as you responded. Have a nice day!!
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I always try to keep in underneath since I don't want to argue but it's really hard, sometimes it could drive you crazy if you bury it all the time..
• India
5 Feb 09
If I try to bury my true emotions I get suffocated,So I rarely try this out. Thank you for your response. Have a nice day!!
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
am good in hiding my emotions.. i don't consider it as cheating to myself.. i call it preservation.. or your inc control with your emotions.. which is good in a way you wont get hurt easily and you cant hurt others as well..
• India
5 Feb 09
good ,my friend you are very humble to others as well. this is your great quality.carry on .At least people around you will not misunderstand you. thank you for your response.
@nb_0702 (59)
4 Feb 09
I am normal that's why i am emotional.I really respect my emotions but i can control my emotions. Controlling my emotions does not mean that i am cheating my self. When someone hurts me firstly i ask myself whether i do deserve that or not and after that i talk to that person and give him/her a chance for rectification. Sometimes i got angry, cant control my emotions and i burst out with all my emotions. But its not like that since i got angry i have to express my emotions ow i will cheat myself. anyway being an emotional fool i still try to control my emotions.. :)
• India
5 Feb 09
Well my friend,you have suggested a good way.But my problem is that I am a fast bowler with lots of aggression .I try to control but when some one poke me unnecessary I don't bother to control myself at that point. I know people around me get me on the wrong foot ,and usually the got angry on me. That is the main cause of my loneliness. Nevertheless I will definitely try to control my aggression. Thank you a lot. Have a nice day!!!!
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I do show my emotions a lot, sometimes I think I show them too much. I am not one who can keep my emotions inside. I want my man to know how I feel and sometimes I think that helps our relationship, because he never has to wonder what I am thinking or feeling. I just need to express myself in other aspects of our relationship.
• India
5 Feb 09
He he .you have got a very interesting way to improve your relationship. Go ahead my friend. Here I find some positive side of showing emotions. thank you my friend. have a nice relationship.
@rberon1985 (5394)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
Hi suman2008, This is a good topic. Most of the time I cheat to myself. I don't show my real feelings in other people. Even though i have a problem, I still laugh at my problems. I think i will be crazy if i will think of all those problems. I only show my real feelings when I am alone.that is the only time that i show my real emotion. i just cry and after that I am already okay. My office mates and the people on the environment never thought that i really have a problem since I use to smile. But in terms of anger, i still try to control my anger, but if I can't really control it, i approached the person. and without any doubts, i am telling him / her how i feel about her / him.
• India
5 Feb 09
Thank my friend ,as you rate this topic as a good one. You do a very good thing.I know crying can relieve you much. But alas !!I can't cry. Thank you very much for your comment.
@arlerambabu (1080)
• India
4 Feb 09
HIDING THE EMOTIONS WILL EXERT PRESSURE ON YOUR MIND. BETTER DISPLAY THEM IN AN APPROPRIATE WAY M DEPENDING ON THE PLACE.PERSON AND CONTEXT.ELSE YOU'LL BE TREATED AS A DOOR MAT.
• India
5 Feb 09
Yes,my friend ,it is not always possible to suppress emotions.Especially when I get angry I can't suppress them within myself.I know for this reason people around me misunderstands me. Thank you for your comment.
• United States
4 Feb 09
For me, it depends on the situation. There are times when I would love nothing more than to wear my emotions on my sleeve, but it would behoove me not to do so. So, in those cases, I'll keep those emotions to myself and write about them in my journal or blog. That way, I can still express what needs expressing without hurting myself or anyone else accidentally.
• India
5 Feb 09
Very well said my friend,You looks like a practical one.What you have said I must try to follow. Thank you a lot. Have a nice day!!
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
4 Feb 09
Hi, It is surely not Hypocrasy, if U r able to hide Ur emotions.People who really practice it consciously can do it.Watch the persons often exposed to Media.I do not say Emotions are bad, on the cotrary without Emotions possibly Humans will become Robots.But often becoming victim of Emotions,surely will not be sign of maturity. =lahiri,Kolkata,India.
• India
5 Feb 09
Yes,my friend Lahiri, you have pointed to a good class of humans.they are very professional.they ought to do this just because of money. Nevertheless thank you for responding.
• India
5 Feb 09
well i think its better to control our emotions? well i dont think its cheating our self because when we shout at some person it will hurt him and may be in some cases it so happens that we loose the person's friendship for ever , based on my experience i am telling , well i too cant control my self when i exceed my enger lever i i shout at the person who ever it be and in that way i lost my close friend for ever now he dosent talk to me , i tried to convience him but in wain so i think its better to control emotions