Good looks vs. Sense of Humor???

@zorlone (411)
Philippines
February 4, 2009 12:10pm CST
You are dating two people. The first is someone who just walked out of a magazine! Impressive good looks! Perfect body. Eye candy however angle you look! Flaw: He/she has no sense of humor. Then comes this second person. Terrific sense of humor (not the kind of slapstick nor dirty kind of comedy). No dull moment. Full of surprises and ideas. Flaw: He/she lacks the good looks! Let's say both are intelligent, both make good money and everything else are equal. Who would you choose? Happy myLotting! Advance Happy Valentines!
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24 responses
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
I prefer to have the person who has a great sense of humor. What are the looks for? if he can not make you smile or laugh everyday. Laughing makes one person beautiful. Why would you go for a guy who is good looking but boring righht??
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@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Yup. You will be more beautiful when you laugh. And you will feel younger too. LOL
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@Jae2619 (1485)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I will take good sense of humor over good looks any day. I am a person who likes to laugh and laugh alot. I like to joke and cut up as much as I can day in and day out... Looks will fade, but a laugh can last a life time.
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@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
I agree with you there! Laughter does not only last a lifetime. It can also cure.... :) LOL But this may take a while before you find out about this quality. The attraction is not as instant as someone with good looks. So, you might take more time to know the other person and after looking through the rough and tough exteriors, could you see how much of a sense of humor the other person has. I may be wrong about this, but, its only my opinion.
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• India
4 Feb 09
The choice is very simple and straight forward. Good looks will vanish with time but good humour will get stronger with the passage of time. I do not want a waxed doll, i want a living being. I want life not a toy.
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@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Well said! Life is well spent with someone who knows how to enjoy and love life. Faces and bodies change overtime. :) Thanks dude!
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
i know most of the responders would answer the one that doesn't have the looks because of her wit and fun to be with kind of personality. since you mentioned that both are intelligent so then i would choose the one with the looks. firstly, looks are very important because we are endowed with the sense of sight so it has to be fed with beauty secondly, if the lack of humor is the only factor to consider then, if i am also that intelligent , i would look beyond the obvious and i would shift my gears to other topics that would make it one good date. dating does not depend on how your partner would react , it all depends on how you would react and adjust such a situation. here is another fact, psychologically, most people who has a good sense of humor is only good at that and usually has a less degree of communication skills. yes, humor is a best medicine fro everything specially when you socialize and wants to get the atention of the other party and it is also a cover up of something he or she detests, usually intimacy.
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
there are people who are naturally funny and witty and knows how to socialize and be life of the party. the intelligent ones , when they are left to their own devices are very unpredictably quiet.
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
Point well taken! Excellent discussion so far! Thanks!
@sharay (2778)
• India
4 Feb 09
Not only me...i hope many will agree with me that "sense of humor" is more important, that is the most attractive aspect of a person, looks, in my view, can nowhere stand near it
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Hi there! I thought this topic was significant since we have been all polluted by what we see on television and at the movies. Men and women are too beautiful and usually, relationships don't last long. Wanted to look for another key to a lasting relationship such as having a sense of humor. :) Thanks for sharing!
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• Philippines
13 Feb 09
Most of us may instantly think that good looks can be an advantage in majority of social aspects especially when it comes to courting and flirting. But what we don't realize is that a good sense of humor can also be a unique edge over good looks. I'd noticed this because few of my college friends who are not that striking and attractive when it comes to physical appearance has surprisingly managed to have model-like girlfriends because of their wit and whimsical character, not to mention their uncanny ability to make people laugh their hearts out even in an ordinary and not so funny instances. So if I may to choose between these two, I would definitely choose a little bit of both. Hey, I'm just being honest. Thanks for reading. Have a great day ahead!
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@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
kcirtap, You pointed out a very interesting aspect of this discussion. Yes, there are those who have this gift of humor who can charm anyone they wish. That's good. However, you would like to have both. Don't we all? I can't make up your mind for you. This is a theoretical scenario anyway. In real life, such person you are looking for may exist. Good luck in finding her and I hope you make her stay. Happy myLotting!
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@annierose (17071)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
hi zorlone, I would rather go to the person who can brighten my day, and that is the person who has the sense of humor.A handsome face is just good when he is younger but when he grows old, that handsome face will fades. I can say that I cannot stay long hours with a handsome man,yet doesn't know how to entertain. The time will just be boring. Unlike in a man with a sense of humor, which can stay that way even as he grows older. Your post reminds me of the two person who courts me. The one is handsome and intelligent, but the only problem is that he is so boring to talk with. He will try to give jokes but he is the only one who can laugh at it . The rest of my female friends have same impression also regarding on that guy. Honestly, I am older than him but maybe because of his serious personality, he seems to be older than me And the other one who is my bf now is not that handsome but he is intelligent and has a sense of humor. He knows how to make me smile and laugh whenever I feel down and worried.He is intelligent not only in academics but also on how to deal with me when I am upset and down.I do not have any regrets of choosing him rather than the handsome guy.It is because with him, no problems can be impossible to solve and with him, there are no boring moments.
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
Thanks for the wonderful insights! If i remember right that guy was the one you met online. Cool! I have a question for you, do you think you laugh with him or find "no boring moments," as you have said, with him because you fell inlove with him or this was something you noticed even during the time you were friends? Just curious. hey, that sounds like a good topic for discussion too? He he he!
@annierose (17071)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
Even before that we are just friends, he has same attitude and so good that it never changes until now. That is why even my family loves to chat with him.
• Nepal
5 Feb 09
hi zorlone, i choose sense of humor means second one.
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
Hello newuser_99!!! Thanks for the reply. Concise.
• Nepal
7 Feb 09
mention not.its' ok friend
@oldboy46 (2133)
• Australia
7 Feb 09
If they are both qual in all respects, other than their looks and sense of humout it might not be so easy. However for me it would be the ones with a sense of humour of course, simply because over time looks can fade but a sense of humou generally lasts a lifetime. Who wants to sit at the breakfast table looking at some who might have good looks but cannot see the humour in the cartoons in the daiy newspaper. Often there are times when a domestic situation can be tense, and a sense of humour can restore the balance but seldom can good looks do the same.
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Water can extinguish fire, so does laughter can clear tension. So, the more lasting trait is the choice for you and a lot of people from this discussion. I, for one would also choose that, considering everything else is equal. :) Have a nice day mate!
@Gesusdid (1683)
• United States
6 Feb 09
ill take the less atractive one with a sense of humor i dont like women who i have to entertain all night jsut to make her laugh and i cant get any laughter in return.thats too much of me putting engery into sumthing that im not going to get back.
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
Thanks for the comment! So, for you, there has to be a give and take in the relationship. :)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
i would say that the first one you described is no brainer...since for you to have good sense of humor you must be intelligent right? so maybe that person is just beautiful and that's it...if youre the type of person who shows off, maybe the first person is your thing...but for me its too shallow....one must be intelligent for it to be a lasting one...beauty fades...but all that is in your brain, is lasting....
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
HI hiyasminbyadao! Good to hear your inputs! I guess from the picture you already chose the person you will spend your life with and I presume that that person is very intelligent, thus have a sense of humor too. please correct me if my logic doesn't make sense at all. LOL. I may derail my ideas sometimes. Happy myLotting!
@vrajase (17)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Why choose? I would date both and if it got serious with either of them, that would be the person I would choose. In your scenerio...I am looking for something serious the person with the sense of humor. If I am not, the hot one because anything else doesn't matter.
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
True, you will be dating them at first. Eventually, you would have to choose. Thanks for your reply and happy mylotting!
• United States
5 Feb 09
I would definetly choose the one with the great sense of humor. Looks change and even someone who wasnt totally blessed with great looks has room for improvement such as a change in hairstyle or wardrobe but personalities wont change and any guy that can make me laugh will always recieve another date with me.
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
hello! welcome to mylot!!! we should make good choices in life and maybe this is one of the forms of finding out. experiences of other people would reinforce our instincts. considering the response of the majority from this discussion, I would say that the right choice is having a good companion and what better one can we find other than the one who can make us laugh... :)
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Well young man, you'ge to to know this fact. Looks are deceiving! The devil assumes beautiful forms...but that's taking it overboard. Looks are superficial, they're not "her" or "you." What's important is what she is inside, her character, and humor denotes a person who looks at life positively. I know you got my point, because you're smart enough. Got to sleep now,. it's 5:30 am..lol...have a blessed day.
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
That should read.."...you've got to know this fact." Cheers.
• United States
5 Feb 09
have to go with your heart. there is a spectrum of beauty for us all. we all don't see beauty the same. same goes with sense of humor. some people prefer dabney coleman over richard pryor. beauty is in you eyes. i see it every different from some of my friends and they all want are models or an extension of what they want people to see as a reflection of them through who they date or . trophies! its all on you, just know you can choose but its better to have one at a time to have equal time with them and not break hearts. also maybe she does look great but needs that extra attention to detail at the salon. some women look great but need to know how to make themselves up. its all up in the air when it comes to circumstance sometimes.
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
Ah... "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder..." Antoine de Saint-Exupery
• Mauritius
5 Feb 09
Hi , if i was in your place, i would choose the one with the best sense of humor !!But it depends on you. According to me , good looks doesn't matter to much , whats the importance of having a good looking girlfriend but she is cheating you behind ?. The sense of humor that matters, the way he/she talks and responds , its all in the mind of the person. Lets say if you get married, you'll be living with that person, then the sense of humor is more important because then the look will not matter , coz the look will stay the same but the sense of humor varies.NB: A person has never chosen to be in a good looking body, it the nature's choice , so decide well before taking any steps as good looking people also have good sense of humor...Take care...meven
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
That bit about cheating sounds like a good discussion.. LOL... hmm... yup, agree with what you said. There are more aspects in having a relationship that would make it work or not and one of it is communication. Will surely keep that in mind! Thanks for dropping by! Enjoy myLotting meven!
• Australia
5 Feb 09
Well, I say go fot the sense of humour. If someone can make you laugh, you enjoy being around them and appreciate them for who they are then what elso could you possibly ask for? Who cares about good looks, who cares if they look good on any angle? I personally think that it's what's inside a person that truly makes you fall in love with them. Most successful relationships last forever because the pair are able to communicate, communication is just as important as trust.
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
I see a good discussion there about communication! if you want for your relationship to succeed then keep an open line between two parties and talk. In this case add a little bit of humor to spice things up! happy myLotting!
@lazeebee (5467)
• Malaysia
5 Feb 09
Hi Zorlone, good looks fade with time - people grow old, fat, whatever! And to be stuck with someone good-looking with no sense of humor, is like having a poster/pin-up on my wall - boring! I would prefer someone who is interesting, who can make me laugh! Like you said, no dull moment! Maybe the longer you look at him, the better he looks!
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
Even if we take care of ourselves really well, the signs of aging show. So, a lot of hard work on exercise and diet and sleep. hmmm... would you have time to spare for your loved one. On the other hand, the not so good looking guy with a good sense of humor may have more time for you. Spend more days with each other's company and have a memorable life!!! My opinions only... Cheers!
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
i prefer the one with sense of humor. this will not make any dull moment. i dont care if he does not have the good looks for as long as he is presentable and clean. i am not looking at the outside of a person i am looking at his heart. if he is a person of values and optimism in life. happy valentines too be blessed
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Good choice! Someone who will keep you inspired to experience the world around you and show you more than you have ever dreamed of (with a touch of humor of course!) Thanks!
@gracie04 (4556)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
I'd go for someone who is funny.. what would i do with someone who has impressive looks, perfect body but no sense of humor? i need a partner who can make me laugh at his corniest jokes.. actually, i don't need one because i've already found my perfect match.. i'm blessed to have the complete package!
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Hi gracie, you can tell maeella about your perfect match. She's looking for both. :) was it really the jokes you laugh at or the feeling that this is the right person for you. You were amused at first at his sense of humor then you fell inlove. Suddenly, anything he does is wonderful? Another topic for discussion? LOL
@willofGod (113)
• Nigeria
5 Feb 09
Relationships break nowadays because we focus on things that fade away or depreciate. Good looks wiil fade away on the long run. But who you rarelly fades. So go for good sence of humor. Beauty is a thing of the mind. Think she is beautiful and you'll be surprise how beautiful she is.
@zorlone (411)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Sometimes we become very superficial and we stop at what we see. Getting to know the person more like understanding him/her will bring us closer. A person with a sense of humor will bring out the best in us and out of our relationships. Try to look at everything in a positive way and accept the true selves that we are.