I love someone but ....!!!

Mauritius
February 5, 2009 9:30am CST
Hi guys , hope you are all doing good in mylot.com ! Need you help, i had loved someone since 3 years ago , but she only knows that we are just good friends and no more or less ! I truly and sincerely love her but i don't know how to say that to her, i fear that she might over react! Could you please tell me, whether or not to say that to her and how to start the conversation , i am not good in love matters.lol Tell me : Can friendship turns into love ??? Take good care guys and thanks for you answers... Meven
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16 responses
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
It's going to make or break your relationship with your friend.. so i guess, you should be prepared before telling your real feelings for her.. who knows? she might be feeling the same way too.. =)
@youless (112108)
• Guangzhou, China
6 Feb 09
I think it's very possible for a friendship to grow into love. I think it's better for you to express your emotion to her before it's late. You can't expect a girl say it at first, right? You are a man and you shall be brave to say you love her in front of her. Even if it fails, but at least you have tried it. Good luck! I love China
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@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
That's a bit hard. I believe in friends being lovers in the end. But above all, it all depends on your friend since there are some people I know who don't like to engage themselves in romantic affairs with their known friends. Just be true to yourself and show her your romantic side. Capture her heart by being cool and kind.
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@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Well, its a make or break decision. Sometimes, falling in love with your friend is a good thing...but sometimes its not. Cause sometimes, the other person might just really see you as a friend...and some person can overreact and end the friendship. BUT...if you guys have a strong foundation for your friendship...I think that it wouldn't be a problem. She will understand then. Good luck!
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
If I were you tell her already how you feel for her so that you won't never regret it in the future.. Tell her already before she met someone who can get her heart.. You can always start with your natural conversations since you were both friends... You should know what are the things that she likes about love matters right?? You may start a funny conversation until you get to the point that you can tell her how you feel for her.. Its nice to tell her now than sooner or later because we don't know what would happen every minute will pass by.. Well, there's a big chances and possibility that friendship can turns into love for as long as both of you feel the same way.. You wouldn't know the answer if you will not try it.. All you have to do is to be strong and ready to hear everything will she say and ready to see her reaction... Good luck my friend.. wish you all the best..
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• India
5 Feb 09
ya definetly friendship can turn into love i have come across that sort of situstion and i just told her lets be friend dont berak our friendship with ur nasty love and infacturation stop these nonsense happy myllotting please tell her like this happy mylotting
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• India
6 Feb 09
Yea ....friendship can turn to love .....but love can never turn to friendship ..... Thanks !!!
@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I say go ahead & say it. You have to be prepared it may change things & not always for the best. I have decided to live my life by letting those I love know it. If you don't tell her & something happened tomorrow, chances are you would regret not saying something. I would just sit down when you can be alone & let her know you value her friendship. I would then just say it. Hopefully it works out in your favor.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
6 Feb 09
webmaster_meven, In the first place, you will need to be more observant and care to the minute details of her response and reaction towards you. You may not be a good or smooth talker but you can always let your actions speak. Paying attention and constant communication will be the best order to start with. Be honest, concern and sincere with your actions but never treat her like a sick animal. You may want to ask her questions that will lead to your understanding of how she feels about you and see you as a close friend. You may also ask questions about her aspirations and expectations of a close relationship and if you would be on her consider list of being her close and significant other. Girls are generally coy and hence you will need to handle the issue delicately and with a good sense of tact. On the hindsight, you may also want to see yourself say 2-3 years down the road, how and where you would want the both of you to be and check if she is in the same frequency as you. Also, you should consider spending your time wisely with whatever that will be beneficial and enhancing your future and career. As in the words of Louis Pasteur: "Chance and fortune favors the prepared mind!" Take care and have a nice day.
@NYANJURU (57)
• Kenya
6 Feb 09
Hi you, Love is patient and tree years is certainly a long time. But you are on good ground because the best relationships are started in friendship. You will know that person well before you settle in marriage. I am getting married this summer and my fiance has been my friend for the last 6 years and just proposed last June. Our coming together romantically was brought about by my missing a flight sometime back and he was at the airport to pick me up. We ended up spending a little bit of time together and realized we loved each other. If you feel you love this person romantically, go for it but know that if it back fires, your friendship might be ruined. trend carefully.
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
I think it is about time you tell her how you feel :) You maybe have to give her time to think things through after you express your intentions but she will eventually respond. Good Luck! My husband and I were close friends before being lovers which is proof that friendship can turn into love :)
• India
5 Feb 09
Well webmaster I will suggest you to propose her in a proper manner.I take this moment to tell my experience that how I proposed to my lover who studies in the same class with me.We were friends for about two years.After a year I have fallen in love with her.I was in the same stage as now you are.My friends advised not to tell her or else she will reject that. I had a love letter in my hand and went to class room where she was chatting with her friends.I went close to her and said"Ani,I want to talk to you something personal".By hearing this she agreed and we went to a park nearer to the class room.She asked me the reason and am umwillingly gave the letter to her and said "I have left my heart as well as the entire life.Please save my life".She just opened the letter,read and she was speechless for about 10 minutes.I thought she is going to cut even our friend ship.But she later said"I too in love with you".What sort of feel I would have had at that moment!!!The next year we going to marry. I wish you good luck.Happy mylotting
• India
5 Feb 09
Don't lose hope.Just explain your love to her.I should hear from you that she loves you too.Good luck
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
6 Feb 09
Hello dear. I just want to tell you that you should tell her as soon as possible that how you feel for her.May be she also loves you but wants first move from your side.Valentines Day is fast approaching.Buy a good gift with a bunch of red roses and talk about your emotions with true feelings. She will definitely say yes to your proposal. Good luck. Happy mylotting
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
Yes, friendship can turn into love. Just think of this, if you would not let her know about what you feel w what if he likes you too or he wants you too but she is also afraid to tell the truth. What if one day, a guy met her and it will be too late for you to propose???Think of it..Would you like to keep the feelings still inside???
@Kenzierou (108)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 09
Yes, friend CAN turns into love. In fact, it is the best way to find lover. Coz as a friend, you would know each other deeper without those fakes and lies you would do if you chasing a girl. As how to say to her, I can't really help coz I have no luck with love too :(
@shifyole (38)
• India
6 Feb 09
Hai it is better to express your love to her as because you can no way treat her as a friend anymore. friendship can trun into love. it is not a mistake at all. whenever you see her you will only see her as your girl only so why this mask of friendship anymore. it is better to express it out. conversing is the best way of expressing. be bold enough. i think the day for you to express it is not very far away. dont burden your heart having the feelings in you. as i have been through this situation i know the real feeling of yours. just tell that you like her so much and wanted to be with her lifelong and ask for the relationship that she can name this. if she agrees for this then okay. if she neglects i am sure she will turn back to you. you did not harm her at any cost. All the best.