I'm NOT A Loser, I Can Be Somebody

United States
February 6, 2009 2:59pm CST
What a silly headline huh? Yea I know, I thought so too. I'm trying to find myself after 2 years of loosing myself to a selfish driven daddy's boy. I was a homemaker the whole 2 years and I took care of my baby for 1 of those years. Now I'm taking charge and I'm gonna give myself and my baby the life that we deserve and I'm gonna get started by making some goals for myself. OK the first thing I'm gonna do is study to get my GED and then when I'm ready I'll take the test and pass it with flying colors. It feels like my brain is dead coz it's been so long since I studied anything or taken a test, but I'll kick it off well. Then I want to study or take some type of training for something but I'm not sure what. I can't think of anything that I would like to do or can do, but I know it has to be something that doesn't cost me an arm and a leg to train for. I heard that some things could take only a few months to complete that cost maybe $1,500-$3,000, and you can pay in installments. I want to see if any of my mylot friends have any ideas of what I could train for that's NOT too expensive and takes 6 months or less to complete if I'm really working hard at it. And have you completed any training or courses yourself? If so, what? How long did it take for you to finish and how much did it cost? Thanks for your help my dear friends.
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
Oh i love your positive thinking, I think you will do well because of it...yes other people can drag you down and now you have set yourself free the world is yours, you can achieve anything if you try, I think your little one is lucky to have a good mum like you, I hope someone here can help you and i hope you do well...
• United States
6 Feb 09
Oh my goodness that is such a sweet thing to say. Thank you sweetie.
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@dragon54u (31615)
• United States
6 Feb 09
That's a great goal! The GED will really improve your life and it's not that hard. My son dropped out in his senior year and got his GED and he said it's a breeze. I don't know anything cheap but if you can, get into the medical field. X-ray technician, nursing assistant-high demand for NAs!-anything medical because that field is really hurting for qualified people and it pays very well. You can also get a job anywhere if you're trained in some aspect of medicine. You could be a nurse but that takes a long time and is quite expensive. You need to get some grants for training. I think I mentioned the Pell Grant before, those are pretty easy to get. There are all kinds of grants for single moms who want an education! Don't fall for those internet places that claim they'll find you grants if you pay them, you get them for free. Go to http://www.ed.gov/fund/landing.jhtml to see all the grants you can get!
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• United States
6 Feb 09
I'll check it out, I can use a grant right now to further my education. I was thinking about training for a X-ray technician. It seems interesting. Thanks a lot dragon54u, you're always a big help.
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• India
7 Feb 09
well if you have confidence in your self then nothing is impossible to acheive
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• United States
6 Feb 09
Well, Miracle, let me tell you... If all goes well, me and the Mrs. are going away to school to finish our certificate for teaching. After I land a job teaching middle-or-high school English...I am going for my PhD. Good luck getting your GED. It will open lots of doors for you. I am sorry that the guy you were with was not man enough to own up to adult responsibility. You did the right thing; you can't wait the rest of your life for someone to finally grow up. Concentrate on what's best for you and your little kidlet. God bless.
• United States
6 Feb 09
Well good 4 you! I'm planning to have my GED before the end of this year, well actually a lot sooner.
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• United States
6 Feb 09
You go girl! You can do anything you put your mind to. And you are not a loser. You are a beautiful woman created in the image of God. (Please don't take this the wrong way, I am not trying to flirt or anything--at all.) And I believe that one day you are going to meet someone who appreciates you for who you are and is willing to work alongside you...and be a real man.
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• United States
6 Feb 09
Thanks 4 the encouragement. Now I can believe the same thing.
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@cream97 (29168)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Hi! Have you ever thought about taking a medical transcription course? I know in my hometown they have a program called WIA. It is through job service. They have many selective programs that you can choose from. They help individuals go back to school, who have little or no income.. They even take care of your schooling for free. They will give you a grant and you can select what course that you want to study for.. At at the end, if they have something available, you can get your resume ready and they will put you on a job.. A friend of mines has done this, She has a daughter. You should contact your local Employment Commission. Which is the Unemployment office here. They also call it Job Service. I do know that you take classes to go back to school at your leisure. They are very flexible.. I do think that they have online courses.. That is what I will do. I myself have been out of college for a while. I have my high school diploma. And about 2 and a half years of college experience. The thing with me, is that, I can't make up my mind about what type of career I would like to do. That is why I have been in and out of school for many years.. I would stay quitting college, because I could not handle the field that I was in.. My family blame my spouse for me not being or going back to school. But, I tell them all that I would rather stay home with my kids, and work at home.. I would also go back to school and do online courses from home. I would do them by the postal mail. There are many options that we women can choose from. I am glad that you are trying your best to complete the rest of our life, after your no good man has came and messed it all up. You go girl! I salute you for your strength and endurance! Take care of you and your baby, that is what it is all about.. There are also accredited colleges that you can train at home and receive a degree and or diploma.. They even have a course where you can get your high school diploma as well. Penn Foster and Stratford is another one. Also, At Home Professions is one too. I think that is there original name, if they have not already changed it yet. I wish you all the luck! You and your babay deserve all the happiness that the Lord can offer to you! Be Blessed! Be encouraged!
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• United States
7 Feb 09
Hey cream, you really helped me out here. I'm gonna seek more information about medical transcription because I believe that I will be able to stick with it and plus it's computer work. Thank you girl. I'll check to see what the unemployment office here is called.
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• United States
7 Feb 09
I beleive you will be successful, because you beleive in YOURSELF and have a good plan to get started in the right direction. I KNOW you will do great! By the way, I was on your friend list in at least one of my prior incarnations, I have been MSV1016, AngryKitty, fantasmfeline, and MSV1313 before my current name.
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• United States
7 Feb 09
Thanks AngryKittyMSV.
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@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
7 Feb 09
you go girl I am proud of you I knew you can do it good luck with the ged
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• United States
7 Feb 09
Thanks enola
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Congrats on getting your life back...been there, done that. It's a rough road but well worth it. As for what to train for, that's really up to you. If you like children, look into working for a daycare or doing in-home daycare (it would give you the chance to take care of your own child as well). You might look at an EMT job, a nurses aid, elderly care at a nursing home, cashier work, the list is endless. Some of them are on the job training and some require a class before hiring. Sit down and make a list of what you like to do and what type of ppl you want to be around. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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• United States
7 Feb 09
Will do, thanks
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I took a course in Design/Decorating. It took 6 months and cost $1,200.00, which I paid in installments. I haven't actually done anything professional with it, but my house looks pretty! LOL When I was looking for an honest-to-goodness work-from-home job, I noticed that there are many openings for medical transcriptionists. (I was a legal transcriptionist because I had some legal background but no medical terminology background.) If you take a course in medical terminology, you get certified and you can get one of a never-ending supply of online jobs to work from home if you wish to do it that way. I'm not sure what they cost, but I believe it's the same as any other... installments. I don't care what you say about your typing, you're NOT that slow, gal! You spell very well, too. That's a good start in medical transcription! Check it out and see if you think you'd like that. If my brain worked better, I'd try that myself but I have a terrible connection between my brain and my fingers these days. It may not look it, but I sure do back up and re-type a LOT of what I type here. LOL I also have to look up the spelling of words I've known most of my life. (I really don't like my brain anymore.)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I rather have a career that involves computers because I'm always on the computer anyway and it would be interesting learning more about it and earn some cash too. Thanks I didn't think of that. I'll look into it. Oh and I do mess up a lot, and I have to look down all the time. I suck, but that's what training is for right?
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@nikky28 (1572)
• India
7 Feb 09
yay That's the girl! I am really happy for you. Keep this attitude up and trust me nothing can break you. As the saying goes, "What appears to be the end, may really be a new beginning" It is a new beginning for you for a better life, a better you. You have taken the first step in the right direction. Step by step you will reach there and get more than what you ask for. About the career, ask yourself what you like and what you would enjoy doing the most. That way, you wouldn't feel stressed out. I am not sure what options are available to you, but I am thinking, computers, beauty care, teaching, marketting, recruitment consultancy... I am just brainstorming. You are a smart person and I am sure the employers need you. All the best! Say hi to your daughter!
• United States
7 Feb 09
Thanks a lot nikky! Yes I am smart, I just need to believe that, and I'm getting closer each day. Oh and I told her hi for you.
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@spalladino (17925)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Girlfriend, I was a stay at home mom for over 17 years and went to college at 35 because I wanted a way out of a bad relationship and I had no current skills. You can be whatever you want to be so don't let anyone tell you that you can't! After you pass your GED you should check out the community college(s) in your area because you can get financial assistance to help pay for your education. The Pell grant doesn't have to be paid back and there are all kinds of scholarships and student loans available, too. I heard that the health care industry is hot and will get hotter as the baby boomers continue to age if you have any interest in that. There's good money to be made there, too. You hang in there and keep good thoughts in your head. You'll make it...you're determined and that helps a lot.
• United States
7 Feb 09
Hey girl. I'm proud of you for doing your thing. I'll check out the community college here and see what's up. Thanks
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I quit school in 1965, in my junior year and went back to take my GED in 1992 and went to night school to get a certificate in Medical Transcription the same year.. I had been out of school for almost 28 years and went to take my GED without studying and I passed it easily.. You could probably take it without studying, you do learn a lot just in everyday life.. I also have a niece who went to school for a year and she is a nurse now and makes really good money, she is supporting herself and 3 kids.. I think that would be a good field and I know that here in Knoxville, UT hospital has some type of program that will pay for your schooling if you work for them for at least one year.. Even doing something like X-ray technician would bring home a great payday and wouldn't take long to train for.. Good luck to you whatever you choose to do.. You are a strong woman, I can tell by the way you speak in your discussions, so I know that you can do it..
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• United States
7 Feb 09
Thanks Donna I really do admire you for getting your GED after 28 years. Yo Go Girl. You are definitely an inspiration!
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@forslahiri (1042)
• India
7 Feb 09
Hi, Great to know Ur determination and alot of positive thinking.Reg training U can try the Lab.technicians,pharmacy training etc which will be not expensive and will be max.1year.All the Best! =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
• United States
7 Feb 09
I'm leaning towards X-Ray Tech but not 100% sure yet. Thanks
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@AmbiePam (49482)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Maybe you don't need to study to take the GED? I know one guy who was out of school for six years, went back, and passed. He dropped out after the 10th grade, and of course I don't know when you left school, so this may not be relevant.
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• United States
6 Feb 09
I'm 28 years old now and I finished the 10th grade and left in the 11th grade, so I been out of school 11 years total. I was 17 when I left. Wow that's a long time and I have no clue about anything now.
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Good for you. You will be surprised how fast it all comes back and it will be much easier because you are older and looking at things from a different point of view. I got my GED between my first and second child and then over the years I finished college it took time but i enjoyed it all and I wouldn't have when I was younger.
• United States
6 Feb 09
I'm feeling really good about all of this. I feel like I can do anything and I don't need a man to make me feel better or complete me. I'll be fine huh? Thanks
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• United States
6 Feb 09
First thing I want to say is good for you, I'm glad to see when people take charge of their life's and don't let others keep them down. Have you ever thought about getting a Pel grant after you pass your GED? You can get this to pay for school and you don't have to pay it back. I went to college and got a degree in Business, it took me two years.
• United States
6 Feb 09
No I never heard of a Pel grant. How to get one?
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@moneymommy (3420)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Good to hear you are taking charge of your life and getting your eduction. Things that you could do in 6 months would be Medical assistant,Nurses Aid,Pharmacy Assistant,Office,Medical coding and billing and I am sure there is more options. I took an office course that lasted a year but could have been completed in 6 months but I had to take some time off. Good luck in your endeavors!
• United States
6 Feb 09
Thanks moneymommy. Is it easy to get a job in Medical coding and billing after you complete the training? If you know.
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• India
7 Feb 09
no i havent done these things so i am not an expert any way happy myloting
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
7 Feb 09
That's good for u ^_^ Picking yourself up is the way to life and also prove to him that u are better off without him.. lol =D THere are alot of courses available, and u can even take up some skills ipgrading courses ^_^ No matter what course u are planning to take up, as long as it's useful in your life, it's gonna be qorth it ^_^ ANd that shall be a brand new start to your life as well ^_^
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Good for you and you alread ARE somebody! Sounds like the right path, and may God grant you courage and fortitude! I know that you'll get there, and you and your baby will be so proud! You might want to check with social services for training/education oportunities. You'd be surprised at what is available at low or no cost. When my son was little (I was a single parent too), I was able to take an office-oriented program where I learned bookkeeping, wordprocessing and other computer-related skills. The fact that I took and complete the 9 month course helped me to land a pretty good job. And the whole couse was free for me, plus a small living stipend while I was taking it. One field you might want to consider is a medical field. There are lots of career opportunities, even if nursing is not your 'thing'. And there's supposed to be lots of growth over the next several years. Whatever path you choose...I wish you the best of luck. Not matter how you slice it, you've already taken the hardest step.
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• United States
7 Feb 09
Hmmm I didn't think about social services. I didn't know they could help with stuff like that. I'll check into that.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Here's an information website that may help: http://www.211atyourfingertips.org/ You enter the name of your city on the left, and select the information you are looking for from the box at the right. Let me know if this helps, ok?
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• United States
7 Feb 09
OK I'll check it out and let u know. Thanks