Losing interest in things.....

@CJay77 (4441)
Australia
February 7, 2009 2:23am CST
Its not easy for me to admit that I am one of those people that easily lose interest in things. For example, I used to go for a walk every morning and after a few weeks of doing it, I suddenly became lazy and completely lost interest. Same thing happens when reading books, I will start full of enthusiasm and after reading a few chapters, I'll stop. Any advice on how to keep me motivated and finish what I started? Thanks in advance.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
10 Feb 09
it does happen to me.i have to get up everyday by 5.00 am,as my kids have to go to school by 6.30am.sometimes ,i feel bored and tend to get up late,all the work falls on my poor hubby but it does help me,as i feel rejunevated later.
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@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
10 Feb 09
Just call my name, when you get bored getting up early, riya, and I'll be there, lol. A million thanks to the hubby that makes you feel rejuvenated, . I do try to get motivated in things that I do, but I think sometimes, I get caught up with one thing and forgot the others. Thanks, riya.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
10 Feb 09
i can understand what you say!now ,its just kids,kids,kids!!it seems,i have forgotten how to spend time for myself or my hubby(wry smile.)
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@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
10 Feb 09
Raising kids are not an easy task and yes some people sometimes forget to give themselves some quiet time, because their so busy. Maybe you need to take the lovely kids with your Mom or in-laws, so riya, can have some quiet time alone with her husband.
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@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
11 Feb 09
Hi my dear CJay. It is a long time without hear from you. What I can say to you is try to start new things. Routine kill us. For example: when you walk try a new route. When you read try a new type of book like mistery or crime. When you are cooking try a new recipe. I do this every time because I hate routine. I walk in different routes all the time if I need to go to supermarket or only for walk. I read different kinds of books and I cook different foods every day. This keep me interested in what I do or need to do. Cheers dear.
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@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
11 Feb 09
Hello my dear, teka! I get caught up in a new forum site and spent two months, but I quit in that site a week ago and try to focus here on mylot. Yes, you are right, I need to have some variety of things to do, so I don't get bored with it. Thank you so much dear and wish you a good day.
@thedaddym (1737)
• United States
11 Feb 09
My first thought is that if you really, really enjoy doing something you will keep doing it. If you find a book you really like you will finish it. It could be you just not have found the right books for you. Perhaps you got bored with the routes you were walking. Maybe you could walk on different streets or in a different park, or get in your car and drive to another area to take a walk. Maybe you just needed a change of scene.
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@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
11 Feb 09
I do enjoy it at first, but I lost interest of it after a few times. I may be not that interested of this book that I am reading, because I've finished reading a few books before. I don't have car, thedaddym, and I think all I need is to take different routes when walking and have fun with it. Thank you so much for the advice, thedaddym.
@Sreekala (22720)
• India
11 Feb 09
Hi Cjay, Do you think it is a problem, oh no.. then I have the same problem. I thought that it is because of my laziness and lack of determination etc. I did not know that others also have such problems (lol). About reading I can't think to finish a chapter even. But I am curious to know about the end so impatiently I go through the last part (lol). I will watch your discussion carefully so that I also get some valuable information. I just seen your discussion in friend's discussion and didn't get notification earlier. Hope you and your family is good. Take care dear.
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@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
11 Feb 09
Hi Sreekala! I do think its a problem, but not a big one. Its quite frustrating to not be able to finish what I've started. Maybe it is true that I cannot finish some things that I've started becuase of my laziness, lol. Maybe let's try to have some variety, like most of the responses says. My family are good, thank you very much and I hope yours are also good. Thank you so much dear.
@SaintAnne (5454)
• United States
10 Feb 09
You are not alone in this, CJay. I, for one, tend to obsessed on one activity for some time and then I get distracted with another new activity that I end up not doing the former one anymore. You do need to put in a little variety as some of the responders say. Maybe during your walks, check out the hole in the wall that may be interesting inside. Or take someone with you on these walks once in a while to spice it up! PS - I stopped reading my book a few weeks ago. I just can't start reading it again even though I keep bringing it with me almost everywhere I go.
@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
11 Feb 09
I like the idea of checking the hole in the walls, lol. I have a friend joined walking with me before, but it seems that she lost interest as well. I agree that I may need to have some variety and I will try to do that. You may be not have enough time to read the book again because you are busy! Thank you for the advice and for letting me know that I'm not alone, SaintAnne.
@FikiFiki (101)
• United States
7 Feb 09
You are not alone Cjay. I too suffer from all of the above. I sometimes "self diagnose", Uum, myself as having Attention Deficit or Bipolar Disorder. Yet, i'm betting you have many other things you never lose interest in. Such as certain activities with family & friends? Maybe sometimes, it's okay to lose interest in certain things...so long as you never lose interest in folks who always happen to be your own personal cheerleaders & never get tired of motivating you. Go Cjay Go!
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@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
8 Feb 09
Well I'm thinking, thinking, FikiFiki, that I need, need to push, push hard, hard myself, what do you reckon, reckon?? (sorry couldn't help myself! lol) Thank goodness, I'm not alone, lol! Its true, my interests with family and friends are always there and I'm so happy and grateful to know that they never give-up to cheer me, even sometimes they get frustrated, when I don't finish what I've started. Thanks, FikiFiki, wish you a lovely day.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
7 Feb 09
It does happen to me as well sometimes. I recognise it as a lack of good enough reason and motivation. In your case Cjay, i would think that you need to do the things which get your attention, recognise what and why and then form a routine. If it's a walk, try and keep your attention on what's happening around you. The surroundings itself can be a huge motivator. Else try changing routes and times and avoiding monotony. The books, you should try reading till you find the attention totally locked in the book. The moment you find your attention wayving then stop. Hope this helps.
@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
8 Feb 09
That's what I need, alokn, motivation and sometimes I even talk to myself that I can do it, just to keep me motivated, but cheering myself seems to fall on deaf ears sometimes too! lol. I will also try to do your advice and thank you very much, alokn.
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
I think you just need to focus on a certain interest and not on many interests--this would give you confusion and lost interest on maybe more important things you need to do. Finish one first before starting a new one.
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@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
7 Feb 09
I think this is also the reason why I haven't finished what I've started. I'm reading two books and doing the online things. I thought that maybe all I need is time management, but there are times that I get caught up on doing one thing and totally forgot the other things I'm suppose to. Thanks for the advice, mjmlagat.
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