Are you a late arrival or an early bird ?

@scorpio19 (1363)
February 7, 2009 9:09am CST
When you go to an event, a party, an appointment, meet up with friends or where ever you have to be, do you find yourself being late or early most often? Do you plan to be late or just end up late? or if your always early, how much preparation goes into making sure your on time? I'm never late or at least very rarely, I'm just naturally very punctual and bang on time, so I hate people who are always late, I have a friend that is constantly late for everything, I'm sure she does it purposely. I once refused to meet her and she obviously asked why so I told her truthfully, it drove me mad how she kept me waiting for upto a hour sometimes and since that day she has never been late again for one of our meet ups. So how about you ?
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@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
I'm always late. Specially when I'm meeting up with someone, like my boyfriend or friends. I don't really plan on being late, its just that....I can't help it. I feel like its still early, so I do other things...then I end up being late.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
7 Feb 09
Hi donsky14, Shame on you..lol... alot say that who are late arrivals, they just think they have more time than they really have got and been as i'm always on time I can never understand it..
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
Its always the hormones...lol. Well its good that you get to control it. As for me, I still have to learn how to do that.
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@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
lol! so sorry, that was suppose to be a response for another discussion..OMG. lol Anyway, yeah..I feel like I have loads of time...but then end up having none at all.
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• Singapore
8 Feb 09
Well, you have never been to a Chinese wedding traditional banquet in Singapore. It's really bad. The invitation will state 7pm for cocktail, 7.30pm for dinner. If you reach at 7.30pm you will find yourself the only guest in the ballroom. The bride will only reach outside of the ballroom to greet guests in her lovely wedding gown at about 8.15 to 8.30pm and the earliest any banquet starts will be at 8.45pm because the guests are all like an hour late. It's horrid. After 2 times of arriving like an idiot so early, you never want to be early again because you sit there waiting for the WHOLE ballroom to be filled. Then it is the long dragged out 9-course dinner with people asking you when you are going to be married (i'm single, and not a boyfriend in sight) and answering surface questions like "how's your work". It's a horrible experience.
@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi daynalee80, oh wow, I shall be sure to refuse the invitation, if ever I should get one to attend a Chinese wedding..lol... but seriously yes some big occassions can be frustrating when your waiting for them to start.
• Singapore
8 Feb 09
hey, maybe it's just Singapore. I checked with my friends from China, they said that theirs are normally done in the afternoon for lunch. They were so hungry the first time they came for ours that the second time they went for one, they ate before going.
@Humbug25 (12551)
8 Feb 09
Hi there scorpio19 I am very much like you too. My kids are never late for school either. We have never had to go through the reception doors in order to get my kids into their classroom. I too have a friend who says she will be around at a certain time and only if it is in her interest to be at my house on time she will be (like to use my pc) if not then she will just arrive in her own time. She doesn't seem to think it is a big deal and I guess she also thinks that it is only me and I won't mind! I am never usually late for anything and neither will my kids ever be!
@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi Humbug, You sound just like my ideal friend..lol...my kids have never been late either I'd rather keep them off from school than suffer the shame of going through the reception entrance LOL...I am kidding but they have never been late.
• China
8 Feb 09
i want to be an early bird
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hiya jiang1111chao, well I'm sure you will be..
• United States
8 Feb 09
I'm obsessive about arriving early. It it's witin my power, I'm almost always about 15 minutes early for anything
@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi Bohemian77, I think that's good that your early...
@galileo2008 (1140)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
During High School, I was never late. My father is, until now, an early bird so he used to wake me up early also.I was always the first one to arrive or at least not the last one. I hated late-comers, and I was mad at my friends for being late, and I was impatient for those who will not arrive on time. But things changed during college, I started to arrive late. I even experienced being late for an hour during our lecture. i know it's not a bad habit, and I am trying to change that kind of attitude.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi galileo2008, I think you are rebelling against you fathers early bird rule..lol..
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
8 Feb 09
It depends - if it's anything to do with business, doctors or official matters, I am always early. If it's a casual meeting with friends, I will try to be punctual; though I most probably won't be early.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi lazeebee, that's good I think your that way...
@snam23 (3161)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I am naturally punctual as well and I am always in a hurry to get somewhere for some reason. This is why I am early most of the time if not right on time. I always miscalculate how long it will take me to get somewhere, either I end up going really early or late. I also hate people who are late even though I am late sometimes as well. I just find it very rude especially when you have an appointment or something. With friends, I do not worry as much because it is just a casual meeting. I could understand if the bus was late or there was a lot of traffic because of an accident or something, but not if it was on purpose. I am glad your friends stopped being late. It was good you told her and good of her to listen.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi snam23, I can honestly understand that you miscaluculate how much time you have that to me sounds honest. My friend and I, have been friends for many years so she really didn't take offence she was quite surprised it bothered me, I honestly don't think it had entered her head it was rude...lol...but it's done the trick I don't think she would dare to be late now so I've cured her..lol
• South Korea
8 Feb 09
Im honest to be punctual at all times in every event im am attending and meeting.I hate being late or i hate who do late in appointment.Time for me is very important not because im not running of time to do or to attend. In preparation of any meetings, appointment atleast 15 minutes before meeting or working time i usually arrive early .It is good to be on time.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi backloader, I agree it is good to be on time ...
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
8 Feb 09
Heyya scorpio! I'm usually early but only by about 5 minutes. I think that falls into the catagory off just in time. I like for things to get started on time,whatever it is,so I'm not happy when people involved are late. I do understand that things come up and I'm ok with that but not for someone that is late all the time.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi JenInTN, Yes for me like I'm sure for yourself, it's not an effort to be punctual, I just am and yes people can't help been late sometimes, thanks..
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
I am the extremes kind of person so it's either I am really really early or really really late and kinda nothing in between. I hate being late as I have always been taught by my dad to be very professional at all times. Back in college even if my class is still at 7:45am, I am already at school by 7:20am. Now that I am already working and on my first job, I am already at the office by 7:45am even though my work starts at 8:30am. That's how disciplined I am. But yeah, I also experience bad days so I experience coming in late too.
@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi jokkarosel, I think occasional lateness can be forgiven it's when folk do it constantly that I find it intolerable.
@Vivianh (331)
• China
8 Feb 09
I always get the place a few minutes earlier,but if the friend I have to meet is a late guy I will a little later than the date time.And I'm not patient enough to wait someone more than 15 minutes.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi Vivianh, I think your good for waiting 15 mins I don't even wait an extra minute..lol
• United States
8 Feb 09
I always do my best to be on-time or early to anything. I do not like to be late because then I miss out on a lot. The earlier I get to a place the better.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi rogue13xmen13, Good that your that way I think...
• Canada
8 Feb 09
i was, i am, and will probably always be a late arrival! haha. i hate it when i get to the place really early, especially when i'm alone. i don't want to waste my time waiting for everyone else to come. i know, it sounds so selfish :D well, im really trying to change it but its really hard. i know sooner when i get to be professional, time will always be valuable so i have to get rid of this bad habit of mine.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi nicecedron, Now I can understand you not wanting to be first in the circumstance you have mentioned but good that you are trying to put it right for especially like you say it won't look good on yourself if you are in a professional job.
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I like to be punctual and always try to arrive early. I don't like being late to anything.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi maddysmommy, that's good that you are like that...
@TnWoman (1896)
• United States
8 Feb 09
hello scorpio when i know that i am going to go out somewhere like that, i always make sure that i am on time, i am never late and if i am late in arriving somewhere, then it is usually not my fault at all. lol but why have a get together or an event and have people show up late like that for. you know? everybody knows what time that the event is going to be and i really do not see any reason for being late unless one had to work or something like that and had no choice to show up late. or maybe somebody could have had some vehicle problems or something like that, that would cause them to be late in arriving somewhere on time. or sickness in the family and so on. i guess that their could be all different kinds of reasons for being late to an event. take care and have a beautiful evening.
@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi TnWoman, Yes there are times when we can all be late and there is a very good reason for being so but don't you find some people make it a habit and then get hurt when you refuse to meet them, never thinking for one minute their own behaviour as caused you to refuse..lol
@Sir_bobby88 (8245)
• Singapore
8 Feb 09
I am more of a early bird yea , i do want let me people wait too long for no reason yea .
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi Sir_bobby88, that shows you have consideration for others...
• China
8 Feb 09
I always try to be punctural cause i don't want to wait for others or have others wait for me. however, because of the traffic, sometimes i am a few minutes early or late. i think just off by a few minute is acceptable, right?
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi chameleon7, No I don't think it matters to much a few minutes either way, it's when folk arrive upto an hour late or more that is just rude.
@littleowl (7157)
8 Feb 09
Hi Scorpio..I try always to be wherever on time yet there is always times when being late cannot be helped yet again if I turn up early it is a bonus...hugs littleowl
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@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi littleowl, I'm surprised I just wouldn't of had you down has a late arriver.
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
I'm always an early bird.. i hate being late.. whenever there's an appointment, girls night out, meeting or party i always make sure to arrive on time.. i remember when my hubby and i were still dating, i always arrive an hour earlier on our meeting place and he ends up always being late.. yay!
@scorpio19 (1363)
8 Feb 09
Hi gracie04, I'm surprised you married him if he was always late..lol (kidding) but it must of annoyed you if you are so early and he's so late.