Is valentines only about men giving women gifts ?

@ronnyb (6125)
Jamaica
February 7, 2009 1:38pm CST
Disclaimer : I am not a cheapskate and I believe that I too will be forking out big bucks to charm a certain fair maiden.Its just that I need a little bit more clarity as to why valentines is gender biased. I was in the office and hearing a colleague bitterly complaining that women expect to get gifts on valentines day but very few are willing to give gifts to their men.Is that how valentines day is supposed to be ?.I thought that valentines day was suppose to be a celebration of love ,then how is it that most men get nothing on valentines day ,is it that men are the only ones who love. Help me understand why valentines is only about men giving women gifts and not the other way around. Do you think that this kind of philosophy is cheap or justified
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
8 Feb 09
i think both sexes should receive a gift. when i had someone i always gave them a gift & a card.
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@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
8 Feb 09
You are truly a gem Antique ,most women today dont see it that way they think valentines is one sided.And it is taboo to give a man a gift
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
8 Feb 09
oh poo, they are just being cheat. women can be a pain in the patootie. believe me i know after doing hair for all those years. thanks for my best response. happy valentine's day.
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@kezabelle (2985)
7 Feb 09
I think its kind of sad that the day of love has been turned into nothing but a way to get presents, we dont exchange presents I dont NEED a present to know how much he loves me long as he keeps telling me in his own little ways every day that he loves me thats worth a million times more than a present!
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@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
7 Feb 09
Thank you for this answer I was begining to think that it was the norm for all women to expect presents on this day irrespective of what was done during the year .This day was the day that makes everything else ok and all former sins were forgiven if you did right on valentines.Keep on being sane and I know your realtionship willcontinue to blossom .
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• United States
10 Feb 09
Ronny you mind reader! I was just thinking what does a woman give a man for Valentine's Day? I couldn't think of anything. My guess is that valentine's Day was set for the husband to go out and get an expensive gift to make up for whatever he did or didn't do during the past year. Like giving this big gift is easier than Actually saying I Love you.I guess I am not romantic. I don't like flowers and I like chocate but not enough to finish one of those heart shaped boxes.When I hear the words St Valentine's Day, I think of the Massacre in Chicago.I don't have a steady but I I did , I would tell him the best gift he could give me on Valentine;s Day is the time for me to see The st Valentine's Day Massacre on t.v.Before we do whatever he had planned.My feeling is either I feel his love all year round or I don't . No bouquet or piece of jewelry can make up for not really loving me.It is just a waste of money.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
8 Feb 09
Hi there ronnyb, well I am a female and I have never thought that Valentines should be revolved around the female in the partner. You are 100% right - it is a celebration of love, between TWO people and therefore they should both celebrate it equally. I have always gotten presents before because I feel that Valentines day is equal for both men and women. And any men in a relationship where they get nothing but are expected to make a fuss over their woman, should get out of it as they don't need to put up with that.
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• United States
8 Feb 09
I completely agree that women should give gifts on Valentines Day. It is all about the love. I've always gotten my man something. I used to not be sure what a guy would want, but with my husband I just know. Maybe that's why women don't get guys anything. Or it could be that they think the guy may not get them something and they don't want to be the only one giving, it might make them look to attached or needy to the guy if he doesn't get her anything.
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• United States
7 Feb 09
I love giving my fiance gifts on Valentine's Day because I believe he likes them and that he deserves them. :-) We set a budget, and we each purchase gifts for each other based on that budget. Some years, I spend a little more to surprise him - and some years he'll do that for me. It's never been a one-sided thing in this relationship. :-)
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
10 Feb 09
Hi ronnyb! Well, I do know that love is for both men and women. My husband always receive something special that I give to him every Valentine's Day and it may not be always expensive but I make sure that it will really make him feel so special and loved. And the same thing goes with my girl friends and female relatives who give their husbands and boyfriends special "somethings" on this day. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith
@regal_aeros (2606)
• Singapore
8 Feb 09
hmmm.. i don't see valentine's day as only men giving to women. Friends can give to friends too. Friends of the same gender is what i mean. There isn't a need to have a "special" feeling to gift someone with a valentine's gift. But i agree with you that the stereotype is for men to give the lady he likes.
@tammytwo (4304)
• United States
8 Feb 09
As a woman I agree that men shouldn't be the only ones buying gifts. If I expect to get something from my husband I will also give him something. If we are celebrating our love then we should BOTH be celebrating by honoring the other with a nice gift. I prefer to give and get a gift that doesn't cost anything but the other person's time. I would love for my husband to just five me a nice back massage and I could just cook him his favorite meal or do something else for him that he may ask me to do for him. This year I would much rather we just put some money into some projects we are trying to complete around the house. Not very romantic I know but that is something our entire family may enjoy for many years.