Do You Have To Get Your Friend's Approval On How Ther Person You Like Looks?

United States
February 7, 2009 8:22pm CST
I know a lot of guys who won't date a girl if his friend's don't think she's hot. That's the dumbest reason not to date someone! If you're attracted to the person, shouldn't that be the only thing that matters? I had a friend who felt like they had to show a picture of every girl they dated and it was really annoying. Most of the time they weren't that attractive and I'd just say "She's not really MY type." and then he would stop seeing the girls because of it. Then he brought me a picture of a girl who was very attractive and I said "Yea, she's hot." and he replied "I'm glad you said she looked good, because I really like her." That was the dumbest thing I had ever heard. Your friends aren't the one dating the person, you are, so it shouldn't matter what they think about their appearance.
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11 responses
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
I have to agree with you completely... THAT IS COMPLETELY DUMB I fall in that category wherein my friends always question me... "Dude, why the hell are you going out with this girl?" or "What the hell? She's way out of your league". They always say that the girl's not hot enough for me and give sarcastic remarks that I'm desperate.. but the girl's okay.. she doesn't have a body like Maria Ozawa or Jessica Alba.. but (I'm going to be cliche on this) it's what in the inside that counts... Let's say you do have a girl that has the approval of your friends but you don't have that "connection". you don't have that "jive" ..she's just hot.. that's all and not the person that will urge you to go out of your way and say "I love you" so hear me out peeps. If you like her.. go for it. hope this helps:)
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@modstar (9615)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
I agree with you on this. We always have the last say. If i think that girl is enough for me, then nobody can stop me from dating her. Not even my friends' comments or opinions. They may serve as a guide but i definitely will follow what i really feel without them influencing my decision.
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@sandymay48 (2031)
• Canada
8 Feb 09
Everyone is attracted to people for different reasons. We are all very different and to judge a girl like shes a prize is not to have true feelings for her. Its not the friends spending their time or life with that person. Never would I let my friends determine who I dated, It would be extremely immature as well as very inconsiderate towards the girl to decide whether or not to date her based on friends opinions. In fact, they may be the last to know!!
• United States
8 Feb 09
I completely agree, but some people just have to have that outside approval from friends or family which can be fatal. Meaning that by being so critical like that they could pass up a really great person. At the end of the day if you are attracted to a person and love their qualities as well forget what anyone else says.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I've never asked my friends' approval of whom I date or be with in a relationship. Afterall it's me who is romantically involved w/ the guy and not them. Each person has their own preference and tastes so it really differs when it comes to tastes and types and the very thing that a person considers is his own feelings.
• India
8 Feb 09
wel itz nt lyk thz in ma case... if i like som1 thn no matr wht ma frnz thnk bout her, i dnt hve ne prblm in dating her... for dating a gal wht matrz to me z tht i shd lyk tht gal.. thtz all...
@underdogtoo (9600)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
Peer pressure is very powerful and it can hinder somebody's wanting to date somebody. There was someone I wanted to date but my friends wanted somebody else for me. Cheers!!!
8 Feb 09
What a shame that people can't seem to think for themselves. Why should they expect other people to make up their minds for them? If only the girl knew this was the kind of guy she might date - then she wouldn't date him!
@devabby (74)
• United States
8 Feb 09
Totally agree with u, those person who need to get friend approval usually not a person who serious in love someone . if the girl is someone who i love, nothing can stop me to dating her, if my friend say bad thing in order to change my mind, i will puch them!
@jbrooks0127 (2329)
• United States
8 Feb 09
Anyone who will not date someone because of someone else's opinion is fooling themselves. We all are attracted to different things about people and to restrict ourselves to what others like will guarantee we miss the very one that may be perfect for us. Sounds like your friend has a self esteem problem. He can't make up his own mind for fear he will make the wrong choice. Next time he asks this of you tell him just what you have said. He is the one dating her and it makes no difference what you think. Just ask him what he thinks of her. Insist that he answers before you say anything. Good chance he may not be able to. Point out to him that what you think doesn't count. Only the girl and how he feels about her should.
@JoyfulOne (6243)
• United States
8 Feb 09
The person who has to ask if somebody's hot before dating them isn't going on their own feelings. Sounds like a low self-esteem problem, and a real need for approval from others. Besides, beauty (as well as 'hotness') is in the eye of the beholder lol. Some of the hottest looking people can be complete duds personality wise. Gotta agree with ya, that's one of the dumbest reasons not to date somebody...