Childhood is being lost

what is the option to this? there isn't one, really. the only other alternative is that they don't get to spend time with one of the parents. the parents staying together for the sake of children is NOT an option. or rather it is an option, but a far more harmful one. if the parents are unhappy together, this atmosphere damages the child. No parents should stay together for the good of the children, as in fact this would not be for their good but harm them. as a child, my childhood was far happier after leaving my dad and not seeing my Mum miserable and treated like she was worthless. after that I had quality time with both my Mum and my dad, and a happier childhood. it's far more damaging to show children that an unhappy relationship is okay to live with. far more damaging to grow up with both parents unhappy.

that certainly is not an easy way to live, but if the child is happy then that is better than never seeing his dad, because of divorce and that happens with grandparents too who lose the ability to see their grandchildren because of a bitter divorce

There are a lot of things that contribute to this. It is more of a lack of security, I would say. Children used to have responsibilities, and worked hard as part of the family. Now they do not, but it does not seem to give them much joy, only greed.It seems like the child you mention does not even have a family to belong to.

It is not only this type of Nomad living that make for a lost childhood, there are many stories about what people do to children and it sickens me.. Children should have a stable home life with both parents.. If that is not possible, then a stable homelife in one home.. Adults should be adult enough to make things right for their children and keep them in a decent environment.. I could not have done this with my child, he had to be at home in his own bed each night, if not then only for a sleep over at friends, but he had one home growing up and that is the way it should be.. Our children should be loved and protected..

With the onset of working culture in both the parents, children are having a miserable life. They are not being properly taken care of and thus they live a nomadic life.

I agree that it's very difficult for a child to be constantly shuffled from one house to the other chess pieces. I wouldn't go so far as to say that their childhood is lost or stolen. True, it's a bit disruptive and inconvenient. I guess you have to look at each case individually. Either way it is a sad situation. The more people I meet the more I love my cat :) Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija

Yes,I agree that in that sense that the child is losing out on a normal childhood. These parents need to get their heads twisted on right and realize the damage they are doing to this child and what kind of life he is having seems the child's life is the only one being disrupted since the divorce.

Yes, I think childhood is being lost in some instances. It's so sad, but a fact of life, I guess. I had a very pleasant upbringing. I by no means got everything I wanted because my parents weren't rich enough to buy it but I had all the love and attention I could want and was taken out into the countryside a lot. We never got pushed from pillar to post in those days, probably because the mothers didn't find a real need to go out to work as they do these days. Brightest Blessings, my friend.

It seems as if childhood is being lost for this poor child and there are many more examples of this all over the world. Some kids when they become adult seem to pull themselves up by the bootstraps and become successful whilst others tend to just end up living unproductive lives. They say that the only answer to get back to the original family values where parents stick together no matter what for the sake of the kids. Until people start doing this, I guess we'll never know if that's the answer or not. And I guess where love is gone out of a relationship, that would be very difficult too.. :-) Derek

Ronaldinu...I shouldn't get started on this one...but I will put in as succinctly as possible...It is the responsibilty & undying commitment of parenthood, that is lost! The beauty of procreation...and life! Familyhood is becoming a loose knit commitment...not a tight unit...and there is such a disregard for this unit! I know people who just procreate because the Welfare/Social Assistance increases! These children are pawns! Best I stop now...getting to fired up!

Hi there ronaldinu! I see a lot of these children who are on the streets. They are actually everywhere. I pity them as they do not enjoy what children should enjoy during their youth. Well, while others don't have any choice but to help their family earn for their needs, there are those who don't have any choice because they only have themselves to depend on. It's sad that they have to go through all these predicaments. I hope we could do more to help them. Nice topic!

Hi ronald..it is a shame to hear this but unfortunatly there isn't much anyone can do about it nowadays, what with parents being divorced their custody being shared gives that permission to dad to have the child for a couple of days but sometimes especially if a child is a bit unruly then they do get passed around..I know of someone that actually happened to and they got very rebellious in their teens...parenting just isn't what it used to be now....littleowl

A childhood to my way of thinking is widely overrated, not very many of us have pleasant ones. This child is loved by 3 people and most of us are lucky if one person loves us.

sure, I agree, but another factor that lends to this trend is the sexualization of children. Add to this the de-centralization of the family and the level of blood violence and gore that the children are exposed to and I have to admit that I am surprised that we do not see incidents like Columbine happen more often than they actually do.

For many now a days childhood is lost, and not the same as back when I was growing up for sure. Many kids are being raised in homes where they are not sure what to expect as they are continually being tossed back and forth, and often times being abused as well. For me, it would be nice if Marriages could last forever and no child is left behind, but we know this is definately far from the Truth. So what I would suggest is that more people find ways to be more stable when it comes to child rearing and someone put a little more precept on what to expect as a parent as well. Personally if there was a little more control, there would be a lot more control, and possibly a lot less kids out there as well.

Hmm.. yup...in many developed countries and rich, Westernized Eastern families, kids are not getting the joys of childhood. I am yet to see a rich kid enjoying life like the street kids in Bangalore did. Cheers and happy Mylotting

NOt really.. A childhood is supposed to be happy.. If the child is happy in this way, then to me, it's a happy childhood.. As he still maanges to live with his faher, mother and grandmother, even though they are living seperately.. Furthermore, how does one determine a childhood?? By having enough to eat, having a shelter above them?? That's only the basics which most of us have taken for granted.. Childhood is supposed to be simple and happy.. TO kids, or to us when we are young, what makes us really happy is being able to spend time with our parents, and nothing more..

That's a shame isn't it? A child so needs stability and routine! It is up to the parents to come up with a better arrangement; surely spending the bulk of the time with one parent and visiting the other every second weekend or something like that would be better. Children nowadays are so much more advanced than we were at the same age and I don't know if it is necessarily a good thing. My niece is 7 years old and unlike my little one who is also 7, she is into fashion, music and boys!! Seven! OMG! My daughter is more innocent thankfully but certainly more savvy than I was at that age; these are kids with no emotional issues in their lives unlike the ones like the one you mention who have no proper home because of outside circumstances and are forced to grow up way too soon. I agree that childhood is being lost and that is very sad.

Yes i think childhood is being lost as because now parents are busy with their jobs , father and mother both want to work and well that dont take much care of their child they leave the child in some bording school or leave them to some childhome who take care of children.

poor child,he just enjoyed seven days of love from his beloved ones.yes,childhood is being lost.in my hometown,when a child was born,their parents left their child with grandparents.because they have to go to other big cities to look for a job,thus they can earn enough money. so many children in my hometown spend less and less time with their parents.when they grow up,they have little memory of the times spent together with their parents.