How did you find your mate?

@Loverbear (4928)
United States
February 8, 2009 10:02pm CST
Did you know that you would be soul mates immediately? Are you both on the same line or do you think differently and compliment each other with your differences? Are you close in age or is there a big age difference? I met my BF many years ago (1983) while his wife was still alive. (I was crazy about him from the first time I saw him, but he was married and I totally respected that and wouldn't do anything to mess up the marriage) She passed away in 1992 of cancer. I knew her well and liked her a lot. Anyhow, when my Mom died in 2000, my BF and I started seeing each other on ocassion. Then it started growing as time went by. I adore the man with all my heart and there is an age difference. But that doesn't matter to me because he is such a gentle, understanding and loving man. I hadn't planned to get together with him, but everything just worked out that way and we are very happy together. I got to thinking of our relationship and wondered how others met and how their lives are together.
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@KrauseHome (35341)
• United States
9 Feb 09
Well personally I do believe in Love Stories, and the way I met my husband is definately one of those for sure. As I am a Christian woman mine has a Christian theme to it, but definately something I love to share with others to offer them hope as well. I used to sell at our Local Swap Meet, and had to take a Transit bus to get back and forth. One Sunday morning on the bus on the way there, I all of a sudden get this thought and feeling that I was going to meet somebody. I was really thinking "Yeah Right," but at the same time trusting God that if this was so, then let it happen. So when I get to the Swap Meet I kept on thinking OK God, who will it be. Kept on looking around and expecting it to just be someone there and know for sure in an instance. But it seemed like no one was the one. Until my future husband walked along and was looking for some Jay Buhner Cards, and he and I started talking, and exchanged phone numbers, got together the next night for Coffee, and the rest is history. I have never doubted he is the one, and in 5 days we will be Celebrating our 10 yr. Wedding Anniversary as well.
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@MissAmie (720)
• United States
9 Feb 09
That's an awesome story. How romantic!
• India
9 Feb 09
What a beautiful testimony!
@Alex18 (170)
• United States
10 Feb 09
I met my gf online. I was making a profile on yahoo for a fantasy basketball league i was joining and I didnt have a yahoo account so i had to sign up for them. Well my friend showed me that you can browse other peoples profiles on there and become there friend on yahoo. So i added my friend and then I was looking through some other profiles and I came across this beautiful girl. I added her to my yahoo messenger and sent her a message and to my amazement she responded. She is from the philippines while i live in the U.S. and she is about 11 months older than I am which is perfectly ok with me. But we got to know each other better and now are in a long distance relationship. We hope to meet sometime near next christmas, We both want her to move here at that time because we do have a lot of feelings for each other but with me being a full time student and its hard to get a job when i have class all day. She could get a job when she comes here, but the problem is getting her here and finding a place for us to live. I am only 18 and I am not from the same state i go to college in and my parents already pay for my college so i dont think they would be into paying for us to rent an apartment as well. But I love her with all my heart and i would do anything for her and to have her here with me. While we are both pretty young, I expect to be 19 when we meet, I just have a feeling like she is the girl for me. I have never met another person like her. She is the most kind and caring person i have ever known. I pray everyday that God will let us meet soon and give me a sign of what to do. I could use a miracle, but i know i cant count on that, i need to take the initiative and do what i can to make it happen. Its hard for her there, she has to work just to make enough to keep her family eating everyday so i will have to be the one to make it all happen which is ok with me, but a little hard right now. But we love each other very much and would do anything to be together
@emarie (5454)
• United States
9 Feb 09
i met my husband when i was only 17...about 7 years ago. i actually met his friend first in a chat room i was in for local people around my area and we started chatting and talking on the phone. i was a little interested in his friend, but i didn't even know him yet. well, i had major problems with my ex...or more issues with my ex and i needed to vent one night, so i called my friend from online and he told me to call back because he was busy playing video games...so i did and another guy answered i asked to talk to my friend and he said...just talk to this guy if its about relationships because he knows more then me...so figureing what the hey i just started dishing out my frustration to this stranger on the phone. after i vented we found ourselves talking about other things and by the time we got off the phone it was about 2am February 14, 2001. So i wished him happy valentines day and went to sleep. later i heard from my friend that the whole time i was talking to that guy he had a HUGE smile on his face. when it came time for me to meet the man who listened to my problems my friend told me he that hearing he'll be meeting me changed his clothes into something that would make him look good. i thought it was cute. about 2 months later we decided to go out and not even a year from our first conversation we were married. we're about 13 years apart and we think alike for the most part. the times we don't match we do compliment each other i guess. what he lacks i'm strong in and vise versa.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I met him through a common friend. Since then we became inseparable. Nope, I never thought he will be the one for me for life. But time has its own way of saying so. We've been together for more than seven years now. And still going strong. yah, i do hope this will be for life already.
@littleone3 (2065)
9 Feb 09
I met my partner through an internet family chat room he was on chatting to my friend when I joined in. Me and my friend started chatting and he said 'Oh what about me' So I said hello to him and we started to chat. He had given my friend his msn and I asked her to ask him if it was okay for me to add him to my msn. He said yes. Then we got chatting on msn and become friends neither of us were looking for anything. We were happy being friends we exchanged phone numbers and we started to text each other as well. We also spoke on the phone for hours. One Saturday night I had been stood up by my date yet again and spent the whole night chatting to him, he had me in tears of laughter, that is when I realised that my feelings had changed and were deeper than friendship. He asked me out by text I agreed and went to Scotland to visit him and we went on our first date which was to a 40th birthday party. Just ten days later he moved in with me and my four children. It was then I knew that he was my soul mate as things just felt so right. We had our son a year later on the same day that we had met face to face the year before hand. We will have been together four years in May and are very happy.
@itsme_cha (504)
• United States
9 Feb 09
i found my mate online, we started to chat for 8 months before we met in person, its so amazing how we found each other, i cant imagine that 2 people can actually know each other online, i guess i am just so lucky to found him. we are now almost 2 yrs married.
@itsme_cha (504)
• United States
9 Feb 09
i find my mate online,,, we started chatting for 8 months then we met in person, and it started the strong feeling from there, i cant imagine 2 people can actually know each other online, it still amaze me how i found my mate. i guess i am just so lucky to found him. we are now almost 2 yrs marriage.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I truly believe in faith and destiny. There is always somebody for you and that person will just come to your life at the right time at an unexpected place. my husband and I were classmates in a review class but during that time, we both have our own partners. I had a boyfriend of six years while he had a girlfriend of three years. After the review, we never have seen each other again for six months. When we accidentally met, I found out that he was separated from his girlfriend while I was separated from my boyfriend. After eights months of being boyfriend-girlfriend, we got married. We've been married for seven years now and still counting.
• India
9 Feb 09
Well though the formal proposing was on internet, we were child hood enemies... Yes true, we were enemies...tried to sort of our fight via internet chatting, and proposed each other. lol. funny but a fact. since then we are made for each other stuff.. its been 5 yrs now.
• India
9 Feb 09
i am an engineering student and i took admission in 2007....the crowd of my batch wasn't so good.....i was pretty upset because of the same reason....but when i saw this girl i had an intention that shes the one....it was then that my mood was uplifted again....i started coming close to her and by the end of the first year we were like the best of friends.....it was then that i confessed to her....she was a bit reluctant in the beginning....but then she knew what she had to do....and now we are together forever i guess.....this is my story....hope you liked it..... happy mylotting
• India
9 Feb 09
Really it's an intresting discussion.Well I remember that incident very clearly.I mate my girlfriend in an accident. It happened some 4 years ago.I was busy in making fun with my friends in the break session of my collage.I then accidently fall on a girl she is none other than my girlfriend. It seems like a love at a first sight.I will remember that she told me so many bad words that time....are u blind?...stupid..ediot...etc.But I was just wathing the beautiful face in front of me.She is studing in Commerce steam and I am from Science stream also she is junior to me by one year.I had manage my timings just to had a look to her.... Afterwords after 6 months,I praposed her...And now we are happy toghter. It's a nice feeling that you have a lifetime relation with someone that told you bad words at very first meeting..Whenever I recall that incident,I start laughing...
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
how did i find my mate?it is crazy to say but we started as textmate before. i dont know to my self why i fall in love with him. my friends told me that he is not a good boyfriend to me because from time to time we always fight. he is so possessive and always jealous. whatever in his mind, you cannot change it. but i always keep telling my self that someday, this man will change and thats because of me. and im proud to say that almost two years that we did not fight. maybe becuase we have already a baby and 2 months from now we'll get married. thanks God he change a lot!
@bamrahkirti (1819)
• India
9 Feb 09
Well i did not find my mate.Ours was an arranged marriage.One common relative got our families introduced to each other in a marriage ceremony .Then my husband's family came to see me in Golden temple"the famous place of worship of Sikhs in India".We met each other there,chatted for sometime and knew that we were made for each other. Two months later our marriage was solemnised and it has been two years but we are still exploring each other with open and positive minds. Yes are are happy with each other.
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Hi there. Good day! It was year 2006 when I met my boyfriend. Actually, he was my officemate that time. He was newly hired by our company and was deployed in our team. He was really quiet but cute. He has a weird name so I thought that he doesn’t know how to speak “tagalog” so I tried to speak pure English while I try to brief him but he just smiled at me and acknowledge everything by saying “okay” in Filipino terms… lolz… That is how it started. We became very close friend, we started sending sweet text messages to each other and he start buying dinner for me everyday and giving me lame excuses for giving me chocolates… hahaha… then before the year end, we are partners. I never really thought that we are still together until now because we have been through tough times but we manage to make it through this. I am really thankful that I have him in my life right now. You know, it is not everyday that I see a discussion about love that is full of happiness like what you shared today. I am glad that you shared your love story here with the man that you truly love. I hope that you and your man will stay together always. I wish you happiness. Thank you for the discussion and Happy Mylotting. Have a great day! Happy Earning too. Cheers!
@MissAmie (720)
• United States
9 Feb 09
You have a wonderfuly sweet story there. And the other person that commented is totally right...it's the perfect Valentine's day topic. I met my husband in a kind of odd way. Tell me what you think. When I was in my senior year of high school A friend moved to a neighboring town so I would drive to see her once in a while. She had a prom party that year, so my boyfriend and I went. While I was at the party I was eyeballing another guy there with a friend of a friend...I didn't want to try to take her man, so I just decided to sit back and wait. I asked my friend who that girl was dating and she threw out a name. I told her I thought the guy was cute and if they broke up to give me a call. Sure enough, that summer on my birthday, she calls me and tells me they broke up. I drove straight there. She said he always drove around town in his super cute antique convertible. A little while later he pulled in to the local cruising spot and she introduced us. I kept thinking the guy didn't look the same, but it had been a while and I thought I was just mistaken. Well, I finally asked and come to find out, that girl wasn't at the party with him...it was another guy!! I met the wrong guy! Ha ha!! But by the time I realized my error it was too late, he had already grown on me, and we haven't had too many nights apart since that day. We were married 2 years after that, and now here we are...2 kids and a bunch of gray hairs later...
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
How fortunate of you that you found the love of your life and that you seem so in love with each other. Other people struggles to find true love but not that lucky!! Treasure your time spent together learn to appreciate each other faults and strengths for you one day you'll never know what will happen tomorrow. Good luck on your relationship!!!1
@annierose (17961)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
hi loverbear, I like your username here because you associated the word "bear" to it. That was the icon use by my boyfriend when we first met. Even when we are friends he always make me laugh. He said that whenever I will saw a bear or encounter the word bear, it would remind me of him. He always compare himself to a bear because he is a big man.. I met my boyfriend in one site in the internet. It is a site which people from all over the world can learn different languages. I signed in at that site to learn more on English language and he signed in there to learn Thai language. We enjoyed chatting with each other. He always wait for me to be online so we can share both our days. Maybe that is the reason why I fell in love for him. In fact, he always make me laugh. I called him sometimes as my clown.As of now, he is still not yet changing. He started to care and love me even more when we became steady on our relationship.He also care for my family.Sometimes, he chat with them and call them on phone especially if there are some special occasions.About age, we have a large difference in age. But I can say that, age doesn't matters at all. What important is how we love each other.Happy mylotting
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I met my hubby through an exclusive website.. i find him so cute so i sent him a private message saying "hi, how are you doing?" i didn't expect a reply from him as there are prettier girls out there.. but after two days, i've received a response saying "hi, i'm doing great".. he asked for my number and i gave it right away.. after two weeks, we decided to meet up.. we ate at Yellow Cab, a famous pizza parlor here in our country and there we discussed a lot of things.. then after few more dates, we became an official couple... yey! so, it's true that we can find true love on the net.. i'm so blessed.. we will be celebrating our fourth anniversary next month( March 4).
• India
9 Feb 09
I am not married yet and going to be in next year.I am in love with my girl.The day I saw her first was during the admission when she joined the same course as I joined three years back. I just melted on her and my love at first sight.She is a pretty young girl who is very charming and beautiful. I don't know how I fell in love with her.But when I saw her I just got some spark in my mind that she is my life partner.I didn't tell her the love suddenly.I just waited a year and then I proposed my love.God's grace she accepted me and also our parents have accepted our love and we are going to marry the next year. I am very happy that the valentine's day the next week and I have a wonderful gift to present her.I am expecting the day to come quick as much as possible. Thanks for posting nice discussion Happy myloting
• United States
9 Feb 09
I love discussions like this, they appeal to the Romantic in me. I met my husband online, wow, years ago. We're coming up on our third year wedding anniversary. We started out as friends online, simple pen-pals, and just developed our friendship. He was in and out of my life with letters, phone calls, and emails but it was always like picking up just where we left off. It was finally in 2005 that I flew him down to visit me where I was living and he proposed at the end of our weekend together. I finished out my teaching term and moved up here to marry him. I think when we first met online I didn't know that we were soul-mates. He was just someone I met. It would be through the years of cultivating our friendship that we would discover how closely intwined we are. In terms of age, he's 6 years younger then me. We don't really seem to notice though at our current age. We're both very different yet we fall into that comedian line of finishing each other's sentences, saying the exact same sentiments at the same time, and slightly mimicing each other. We have our differences, yet are the same if that makes any sense. I kind of describe him as my Mr. Darcy/Colonel Brandon/Edward Rochester all rolled into one. My husband is former military, intellgent, yet a Romantic.