Should one remains friends with a break up partner?

well i too have the same situation one year back that i broke up with my gal but the thing is that i cant be friend to her because she is married now and i still miss her,,,well you have the chance dont let her go,,,,,,be in contact with her or else you will also be missing her like i do,,,,,,

I guess I will be his friend forever. It is not my lost anyway. After all we have gone through, he will still remain as my lover before. I dont want ot forget him. He became a part of my life already. I will never regret that I have meet and love him.

I think remaining friends is a good thing.. But it is hard to discipline yourself to step back and love her enough to let go.. When a new love arrives, wheather they are good for her or not she has to learn... If she is not taking care of herself all you can do is do your best to help her out.... It is different for different people... I think first after the break up give it a few weeks and very casual and short conversations... Or if they start to try to get you back together and you do not want to be make it clear you can not do that. I am in a situation like this an ex I still love but I am not dating material, I do not have interest in dating, I go nuts when I try to... I can not mentally handle it in the way most can... When she starts in on trying to get back together I have to avoid her... or take a break. I can not handle those arising emotions.. so its hard... But I was madly in love with a man for foru years too but I could not go any further and he was gay hiding in the closet, so it was hard to let him go to his new bf.... Remaining friends is a great thing to do. But the hardest thing is remembering to back away, and set limits... and not to put yourself into situations that will arising those old feelings for you or her.. unless both are comfortable with bringing up old memories... or doing cutesy things like valenties for old times sake.... Some will slam the doors and cut ties entirely, others will cling to you and not let you go until you push them away... Others want to make caseual contact, others want to remain at a deep level of friendship... and all of the above is okay... either way break ups are hard... - DNatureofDTrain