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A perfect meal - A perfect apetising meal
@mayka123 (10718)
India
February 9, 2009 5:35am CST
It is difficult for me to decide the menu at home for just two of us. We are two with different tastes and different needs. I am trying to diet just now and just cannot decide what to cook everyday. I am trying to trim the fat from my diet. And my daughter wants just the opposite. How is the daily menu decided in your home. Are the meals cooked according to age old traditions or is it according to everyone's dietary needs??
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@dpk262006 (56217)
• Delhi, India
9 Feb 09
Yours is quite an interesting point and every night a tussle goes on in our home for deciding the next day's Menu. My better half first asks me about my choice and the options available with us, then she takes the options from children one by one and will come back to me with their feed back. When she have choices from all of us, she tells me - 'Look, you people donot have any concensus', my problem is at is. Then she manipulates and convince two out the three persons that look let the choice of my son by preferred and implemented. My choice comes in the last. I do not mind consuming any dish, to avoid the conflict, I always say - "Please take the opinion of children, I'll have everything". It is really a difficult taks to decide the every day Menu, specially when kids do not prefer to eat every vegetable or pluse/cereals. Good Post!
@mayka123 (10718)
• India
9 Feb 09
We decide the menu on phone every evening. The menu would depend on what time each of us is reaching home, how tired we are, what leftovers we have in the fridge, and then how much we are going to eat. And then I have to make sure we have something nutritious because breakfast is just whatever can be made in a hurry and lunch is something dry which we can carry to office.
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• India
9 Feb 09
Hmph Deepak ‘I'll have everything…’ oh why are husbands so typically escapists? Why do they sit back with the newspaper and let the mother fight it out with her children? You guys really need to be left in the wild by yourself for some days….then you will value your wives
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@dpk262006 (56217)
• Delhi, India
10 Feb 09
Sudipta! Please please do not get me wrong. I am no escapist and I definitely offer my suggestions for the next day's Menu amongst the options available with us. I do not sit back or hide myself in the newspaper and let the mother fight.......!! I tell kids to eat whatever vegetables are available and always tell them that they should not by so fussy about the food. You see when kids do not budge or agree to a certain vegetable/dish, I make the compromise and offer to have 'anything', which kids prefer. LOL! When you say that "we should be left in the wild by ourselves for some days........then we will value our wives"........You are sounding like my better half, when she gets angry.......with me.......she would say similar quotes to me.........LOL! Even if you do not leave me in the wild, I know how 'important' is my better half to me and I value her very much. Deepak
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@Sreekala (23379)
• India
9 Feb 09
Hi dear, It is really a headache to decide the menu everyday. If I asked to my son what he wanted, he will tell the things, that won’t be possible for me (lol). Regarding the tastes, my son and hubby are just opposite on their interests. Younger one is really funny when he looks on food if he didn’t like (colour or something) then he won’t even ready to taste the same and will reject it by acting closing his mouth. While traveling back to home from office I am thinking about the next day menu, what will prepare for breakfast, lunch etc. For me it is very difficult to decide the variety and at the same time it should be healthy food too.
@mayka123 (10718)
• India
9 Feb 09
Thanks for the quick and first reponse. I have this problem everyday and just cannot decide on what food to cook and eat. And just now we are just two of us and we have just one meal at home since we are both working. So it becomes difficult to cook a nice and small meal and then finish it off too!
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
10 Feb 09
Hi sree,you should train your boys to eat what you prepare for them from a young age itself,though children tend to be very fussy about food.You have to be a little strict my dear,otherwise they will end up insisting on their favorite dishes only every day ,making life miserable for you.......
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@Sreekala (23379)
• India
10 Feb 09
Hi Mayka, I came first because the topic haunts me everyday (lol). Dear Rose, I know the importance of making a good habit, but I am helpless dear. Elder one recently starts the bad habits earlier he was alright but you know if he don’t like the food (mostly curry) he demands me to feed him otherwise he don’t want to eat or I will prepare the food according to his wish… and younger one is less than two years already started his demands, if he don’t like it and if I insist, he closes his mouth with one hand and the other hand will shows (waves) as a ‘NO’. My hubby is supporting them and asking me to prepare according to their wish and he even ready to adjust (lol). first becuae the subject is haunting me everyday (lol)
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
9 Feb 09
Hi Mayka Well as we live in joint family system so there ate LOT of people in our home and the menu is decided by the ladies of the house and they know who like what so there is always a supplent dish to accomodate those who dis like and Pickle, Some Chattnis , Curd are also there Take care
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@mayka123 (10718)
• India
9 Feb 09
Looks like you have one huge big family. When the family is large there can always be options for everyone. But when the family is small then it is very difficult to decide on what to cook. Half the food then ends up being thrown away which I do not like at all!
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
10 Feb 09
Hi dear yeah u r right we have Big Family. but trust me every day, maid take the Food too, as we dont save leftover in fridge And see how many responses u r getting, Cheer Up
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
10 Feb 09
ah..ha...see mayka,cupid has a family set up "tailor made" to cater to all his needs,and he is one lucky person,and this explains why he is always agreeable and cheerful in mylot......
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
9 Feb 09
well since i live alone i don't have the problem of trying to please anyone else besides myself. i can relate to what u are saying. when my sons were home i cooked more for them than i did myself.
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@mayka123 (10718)
• India
10 Feb 09
I also seem to be hardly cooking for myself. Most of the time I am cooking for my daughter and I eat all the leftovers!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
10 Feb 09
that's the way moms do. lol
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@nini89 (670)
• India
9 Feb 09
We at home cook the simple Indian food like morning chapati and subji every day except on holiday and for dinner it is dal rice and subji thats all.On week day we cook some non-veg which my kids love to have. They dont like fish they like fried chicken or omlet and egg curry. sometimes I prepare rice and sambhar with papad.Happy mylotting and have a good diet that makes you slim.
@mayka123 (10718)
• India
10 Feb 09
Can you suggest a good diet that you think will make me slim? Whatever I try does not seem to be working on me.
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@nini89 (670)
• India
10 Feb 09
In the morning you take only one chapati, afternoon on kakdi and one fruit,at night one chapati subji and salad thats all try it you will be slim sure. follow the instruction strictly. Happy posting and do the exercise half an hour every day .
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• India
9 Feb 09
I think it’s the same with most of us. We are three here and it’s a real dilemma when I visit the markets on a weekly basis. If you want to eat fresh daily, there only a little of food that you need to cook, yet that’s a drain on both our monthly budget and on my time. our staple is usually rice, a dal, a veg curry and fish. Rice and dal are OK, its with the fish and curry that the dilemma starts…go to the market and it’s the same old variety of fish and same old vegetables staring back at me. And then since food in India is extremely regionalized, no matter how much I want, I cant really cook food from another state on a regular basis. It has to be the same Bengali taste for home-cooked food. So none of us can actually agree on what to eat but one thing both my son and I agree on is that home-cooked food can be real boring and bland…but good restaurants are so expensive.
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@mayka123 (10718)
• India
10 Feb 09
Restaurants are not a good alternative to home cooked food. The best of restaurants are also not always hygienic. I am now trying to balance between a vegetarian and a non veg dish every alternate day. I have never learnt to cook the typical food that my mother would cook.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
7 Mar 09
Sudipta, perhaps you could try preparing the fish a different way each week? Maybe a soup once, a masala another time, a simple stir fry with vegetables and so forth. Experiment with different flavors also.
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@Mitraa (3188)
• India
7 Mar 09
Ha Haa! My every day food is like this; morning- tiffin (snacks) & tea at between 8 to 9 o'clock, day- lunch (rice, dal, sabji, salad etc.) by 2 o'clock, tea at 5 o'clock and dinner (roti, sabji) at about 10 o'clock. Thanks for this nice topic!
@mayka123 (10718)
• India
10 Mar 09
You seem to be carrying your snacks also in the tiffin. I hardly ever get to have my breakfast and cannot think of carrying snacks to office everyday as I would not get the chance to have my snacks. Thanks for the nice description.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
9 Feb 09
i also face the same problem.me and my kids like foods whieh are not very spicy while my hubby is just the opposite.i buy hot and sour sauces or the garlic chutney,which me and my kids donot consume.(its only for hubby)
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@mayka123 (10718)
• India
10 Feb 09
I was very fussy about my food when I was a kid and only now realize how much I troubled my elders while eating!
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
7 Mar 09
Mayka, as you are the parent it is your decision what the meal will be. Your daughter can eat and be grateful to have a meal and a roof over her head or she can go hungry. Children often want things other than what is available and they have to learn that what they want is not always what is best and it is up to the adults in their lives to teach them healthy habits. How to specifically approach this situation depends on the age of your daughter but why not make a list of healthy foods that you both enjoy and plan your meals around them?
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@alexdra77 (147)
9 Feb 09
For me it is easier since it is just me to cook for. I dont really plan what i am going to cook in advance, i stand in front of the fridge and decide. Sometimes i just cook what i feel for.
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@bbsr13 (4198)
• India
9 Feb 09
Hello,Mayka! We don't have any problem.Our diet is very simple.Our daily menu is boiled rice,some vegetable curry,yogurt and salads.In the night we eat whole wheat bread and vegetable fries and salads and cheese or milk.thanx.
@missybear (11396)
• United States
9 Feb 09
We usually decide every morning what's for dinner. I'm on a diet to and my honey is trying to be. So now we trying to have a lot of chicken and fish instead of hamburgers and pork chops. We also eat more veggies and salads. Lots of time we just have a simple sandwich and some soup for dinner. It's not to heavy and there is all kinds of good sandwiches.
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@SViswan (12072)
• India
28 Feb 10
I have to wrack my head every single day planning what to cook for breakfast and lunch (lunch and dinner is usually the same dishes). Tastes are different...and my little one who should be eating regular food now is pretty fussy. Husband goes on about protein for growing children..so there HAS to be one dal dish everyday. And the dishes shouldn't be repeated regularly. I cook healthy...not too much oil or fat and mostly a vegetarian diet. So, that is okay. Besides the children who are growing...no one has any special dietaty needs (yet). So, I cook usual stuff...and on some days, I make pizza, noodles/pasta, burgers, etc. Husband considers these as snacks while the kids and I can take these as a meal.
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@mayka123 (10718)
• India
24 Oct 11
Am going through all my old notifications now and responding to all discussions. I now live alone but still face the problem of what to cook. A quick meal or a healthy meal. For me too pasta/noodles/burger is just snacks and I am not able to have a stomach full of snacks. My meals are mostly vegetarian now with eggs sometimes.
• United States
11 Feb 09
There are three of us in my household. There is my husband, myself and our little boy that's almost three. I have been trying to make a weekly menu and stick to it. I have things on the menu that everybody likes but also things that are good for us. I don't really have to worry about my family not eating the good for you items because everyone likes them. I grew up eating good for me so I just do it and don't really think about it. My family never complains about what I fix so that's a good thing.
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@mayka123 (10718)
• India
12 Feb 09
You are lucky that your family does not complain about what food you fix. All of us are not that lucky. I have a problem pleasing my daughter everyday. And the biggest problem is that I do not like throwing away the remaining food. So in the bargain I end up eating left overs everyday. And that does not make me very happy.
@Obsidian (70)
10 Feb 09
there are 4 people in my house and we have different taste and different need too. one of us is so thin that he wanna eat enough meat and oil, 3 girls wanna loss weight and keep fit. so we just cook our lunch together. most of time, the menu are two dishes of meat, one with egg, one with vegetable. the boy always had his dinner by himself, took noodle with eggs, or bread with ham. :D girls just took salad !
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@mayka123 (10718)
• India
10 Feb 09
We are two of us at home with different needs. My daughter wants to put on weight and I want to reduce. Both our tastes are also different. So it becomes a bit difficult to decide on the menu everyday.
• India
10 Feb 09
Hi! we are pure vegetarians and cooking is done by my mom at home. everyone accepts and eats whatever she does. we do have tastes and she knows perfectly how to prepare such dishes which everyone likes. Though my dad is a diabetic, the way my mom prepares is appreciated by everyone. we have never had any problem so far. she knows what to cook and when to cook very well. she has her own menu which everyone likes a lot, the item that my mom prepares are just awesome and very very tasty and mouthwatering.
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@mayka123 (10718)
• India
10 Feb 09
When there is one person at home who does all the cooking and the family is big it is easier to decide on a menu. But when there are just two or three people with varied tastes and different dietary needs and all are working it gets tough deciding the menu. Its nice to know that your mom is a great cook.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
10 Feb 09
I am lucky to have housemates who eats and likes the same food as I do. But they eat more since I am on a diet also. My children are not choosy when it comes to food. They eat whatever is on the table and just make special request once in awhile.
@mayka123 (10718)
• India
10 Feb 09
You are lucky that your kids are not too choosy about food. We see very few kids like yours these days. Most of my friends complain that they are finding it difficult to convince their children to eat what is served to them.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Hi there mayka123! =) Good day, Actually my dad is the one in charge to the cooking and kitchen stuff and he always asks us if what food do we want for breakfast,lunch, and dinner. My dad and mom are in their 50's going on 60's and what they eat is what we eat. I find nothing wrong with that. But, my dad has a diabetes so when it comes to snack time, he is not allowed to eat chocolate! My poor dad, he loves chocolate but we need to stop him from eating that. You know, its for his own good. =)
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@mayka123 (10718)
• India
10 Feb 09
Hi wyethlovesyou, Even when I was with my dad he was in charge of the cooking. But then we were a big family and there were many varieties cooked that we could choose from. Now it is just me and my daugther and I find it tough pleasing both of us. I finally have to compromise somewhere.
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
i am lucky that the members of our family are not picky eaters. We cook whatever is the fridge. if there is fish, we just fry ir or make sweet and sour fish. for meat, we have a variety of menu, usually we put vegetables on it to avoid consuming much red meat.
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@mayka123 (10718)
• India
10 Feb 09
You are lucky you do not have any picky eaters at home.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
9 Feb 09
I am only feed two at this time so I try to cater to one and just add something extra for the other one. This works most of the time.
• United States
9 Feb 09
there are only 2 of us i fix chicken and dumplings for one and chicken and rice for the other for one meal