Did you have a relationship developed over IM(instant messaging)?

@flojever (404)
Philippines
February 10, 2009 5:51am CST
I've a friend who have a relationship that developed over instant messaging more than over phone and in person. I don't think I like the idea. I do believe that there is a great difference between instant messaging, talking to someone online and meeting them in person. What are your views on this?
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
13 Feb 09
I am sure what you say has merit in this but people do fall in love online and there have been quite a few successful unions of people on net. yes there are lot of problems falling in love on net but then same can be said in falling in love in person too.. it ultimately depends on the person what kind of person he is with whom u fall in love..if he is good then net doesnt matter and if he is bad person then even if u fall for him in person he would still be bad.
• United States
13 Feb 09
I actually met my husband this way, but come to find out he didn't live more than a mile away from each other. Weird huh? I think its fine as long as its not too long distant. As most people know long distant relationships hardly ever work. But my husband and I met in person and instantly had a connecting. We been married 7 years, got 2 kids and still going strong!! :]
• United States
12 Feb 09
I've had a relationship that originated from online once. She was 14 and I was 15 going on 16 at the time. She had a very controlling mother and she couldn't think for herself. It was mostly a long distance relationship, not too far away she was in Mt. Vernon and I was in manhattan. But yeah...
@Alex18 (170)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I actually met my gf online and our relationship has developed over IM. We have talked a couple of times through IM but not on the phone yet. We live in different countries. She lives in the philippines while I live in the U.S. and im hoping that I can get her a phone so that we can talk over the phone. We only get to talk about once a week via webcam so getting her a phone would let us talk a little more. I love her very much though so im perfectly fine with our relationship developing over IM
• United States
10 Feb 09
I used to think it was ridiculous and desperate, until it happened to me. I met him on an educational language learning chat, and we were just friends for a long time. We did text chats but we also used voice on skype, and it seemed as if I saw him everyday. He is now my partner, and he lives in Sweden a few thousand miles away. Before we started our relationship we agreed to meet in person before we would call us a relationship, so since then we have seen each other numerous times and I think we are like a normal couple. We travel the world together and enjoy the goodness in life, I don't tend to take our time together for granted, like many other couples may do, it is a really good relationship. I never thought that it would happen to me but it did, and just because he is far away does not mean I don't know him, he is the closest person to me. I agree that many relationships do not work this way, and I was very lucky, though I did not go scouting for a mate online. I understand that many online dating instances are not as serious and well maintained as my own.
@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
10 Feb 09
I agree that there is a difference between that. I once met a guy who no one but me knew. That is to say, that I was the only who had talked to him and he did not go to my school. I dated him, but I realized after we broke up that we were never together, to be honest we "broke up" twice. I met another man online through instant messaging except this time it was different, I knew of him through a friend that I had met before. A friend that I hadn't met online but through another friend. So I started dating this guy, and now we are engaged to be married. Basically, I would just say that your friend could fall in love with the guy and either way, whether anyone else knows him or not, it could go good or bad. Be there for her though.