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United States
February 10, 2009 9:09pm CST
As many of you know by now I've been through a cascade of terrible events... Recently I was in court to protect my grandmother from the abuse of my step mother... I thought I made posts upon this fact at least revealing to some degree enough of the details to make clear of the current set of circumstances that are pulling at my heart strings. It turns out that my step mother set out to capture my father not for love but for my grandmother's estate. My step mother then convinced my father to commit suicide, why do I say this? Simple, if you go to your family doctor and they send you to a specialist who recommends that you go to a cancer treatment center, are you following? Okay, you go to the specialist and you do not go to the cancer treatment center instead you blow out your brains. Ah! But here is the tricky part, was my father convinced to blow out his brains or was this done by his own conviction... Gun Play; Back to the issue about, guns, my father, and his threat to commit suicide. He told me while teaching me to hunt that the gun is a weapon that can be used for survival or to take a life, he told me that if he ever became a burden he would end his own life. In December of 07 my father committed suicide using the pistol that my mother pointed both at the home wrecker the woman to become my step mother. My mother found out where she lived and drove to her house. Then later my mother pointed the gun at my father down stairs in the kitchen. I heard the commotion and was as usual told to go back upstairs. My father later told me that my mother was trying to shoot him. He could see that the safety was on and waited to see my mother actually commit to pulling the trigger before taking the pistol off of her. She would have shot him and it was that very same pistol that he used to take his own life. Then there was the gun that was put to my head by the police when they barged into my house illegally executing a 302 due to the signature of my wife on a document that was totally fabricated. The 302 was the words of my mother written by a crisis intervention nurse and they (my mother and the nurse) convinced my wife to sign the lies by telling my wife that signing the document would prove how my wife loved me. Sure my father had every intention to end his life if he felt that he would be a burden on us the family, (I was estranged, from my father and extended family since 2002, and was not given all of the details about how serious my fathers condition was in fact it was not a serious issue so I was told...) A key issue in my story is who was my contact to my father and my step mother? It was her son, my step brother... Was Brian giving me the straight story? Would Rosie my step mother lie to me? Let's put some dates to events, in October of 2007 I leave my wife, she has turned her back on me by not including me on details of her plans that she had for one Saturday, she just couldn't come out and say what she was doing, I had no idea and was taken by surprise and she wouldn't apologize, she escalated an argument and as a result I had enough and left. About a month later a friend of mine told me his father was diagnosed with cancer of the mouth... I didn't know that the particular cancer that his father had was centered close to his heart. About the same time my father was diagnosed with cancer on his cheek, so I was told by Brian... It was during this time in October of 2007 that my father acquired power of attorney from and for my grandmother. She doesn't remember doing this, she remembers many things but this is red flag that goes up number one... In Early November my father is diagnosed with this cancer on his mouth I was told it was skin cancer, I know that most cancers if caught early can be treated sometimes successfully. Now for the facts that I'm given by Rosie, she tells me that in early November my father was diagnosed with this cancer and he was recommended to a specialist, from there at the end of November my father was to schedule an appointment with a cancer treatment hospital. Instead of going to the cancer center, my father commits suicide. The local police come and take the gun and miss a note left on the back of the order from the specialist to make the appointment at the treatment hospital. The note was simple but I'm not sure it was my father's hand writing, something about the note that my step mother had made me believe that it wasn't real. The note read, "I'm sorry I just can't do this... Signature" Here is the deal, Rosie has this note ten months after the fact, she said that she found it four days after the suicide even she didn't notice it right away, the suicide was early December... Rosie went to the police station late in January to retrieve the hand gun, she never gave the note to the police the police report indicates that there was no suicide note left behind. Why? More details my father died in December, I was told that his heart just stopped, it was 10 months later that I learned that my father committed suicide, why did I learn that then? It was because of my step mother putting my grandmother in a nursing home six months after the suicide... So in June my grandmother was put in a nursing home supposedly for two weeks (a temporary respite) it turned out to be nearly four months all of the summer of 2008... I had asked Brian how my grandmother was doing knowing that my father and my step mother had moved in with my grandmother (In June of 2007)... He led me to believe that my grandmother was living at home the whole time... Brian was a co-worker who while driving his personal vehicle with a faulty Brake Light electrical system from the factory nearly making his new car a lemon (because the factory dealerships could not fix the problem in three tries.) Brian was rear ended by a teenaged or young driver, Brian is now disabled and can not work, and recently went through a divorce just before that accident, along with that he illegally moved into my grandmother’s garage a two care detached garage with a stone floor and no plumbing. While living on my grandmother’s property Brian was paid $1,000 for working around the house by his mother as compensation. I knew Brian needed a place to live and told him that he should talk to me as I have room in my house to help him, I didn't know that Brian was lying to me at the time. Back to the nursing home, it was because Rosie was lying to the nursing home that my grandmothers nephew would be involved in trying to get his aunt moved back home, he knew she had no business being in a nursing home facility... Because the Nephew acted in a legal capacity this triggered my being notified to appear in court. This alerted me to the fact that A.) My father committed suicide and B.) That my grandmother had been, put into a nursing home. Now I had to figure out all of the details reunite with my grandmother thanks to her nephew we were able to be reacquainted and we hit it off great. Rosie didn't like that and told other people that I had become my grandmother’s boyfriend and insisted that my relationship with my grandmother was disgusting. Back to details about the cancer and the suicide; It turns out that four days after the suicide Rosie found the suicide note and she told me how she called the family physician and reamed him out demanding to know what he said to my father to cause him to commit suicide, this is a flaw in her version of events, it is totally illogical, why would she blame the family physician when it was the specialist that gave my father the details of what to expect and the prognosis of a recovery... Here is the big issue my father was using the same family physician that my grandmother uses. So I wanted to talk to the doctor and made an appointment to see him about both the condition of my grandmother and what happened to my father. The doctor’s office scheduled my appointment and then called my grandmother and Rosie in to see my grandmother all of us were there at the same time. Talk about being put on the spot! But I did get a chance to talk to the doctor about my father and he said that he was surprised that my father committed suicide. He thought the cancer was not only treatable but even curable. Something doesn't add up... I visited with my grandmother every day while I knew she was in the nursing home and I tried to make daily visits after work when she was finally released from the nursing home as per the Nephews actions. Rosie however once my grandmother went back to her home, tried to prevent my visits... On occasion I was allowed to take my grandmother out... On one outing I got a release signed and notarized; I find out about the court hearing early to mid September around the 10th and we all go into court for the hearing September 24th 2008. because my step mother has hired a lawyer to petition for guardianship as a result of a challenge by my grandmother’s nephew who challenged Rosie for violating the Power of Attorney (POA)... The first hearing I didn't get too much of an opportunity to speak but I learned a lot... I started putting all of the facts together through the documentation of the police report and talking to the doctors and I got a release from my grandmother to do all of these things, it was a notarized release, the notary thought my grandmother was a former school teacher we had to explain that no she was only a head secretary for a local company... My grandmother’s Birthday is October 31 I made her a walking stick to look like a scepter, for my queen, the matriarch of the family. So the release allowed me access to bank and medical records... I bought the transcript of the first court hearing and on Tuesday November 23 we had another hearing the second one where the judge was to make a ruling on this case, but with my research the judge did not make an immediate ruling. I have been waiting all this time to hea
6 responses
@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
20 Feb 09
Wow, I hope you manage to keep your head on straight through all of this... Lot's of crooked going on's here--hope you keep your soul pretty straight as well. dr...
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• United States
21 Feb 09
I am fairly confident that something is going to happen. I'm flying as straight as I can... After all I love my CDL... I've got a few things to do, thanks for checking out what is going on... So if I get a little keyed up once in a while well you can see the important issues that concern my life right now and what are the key triggers.
• United States
23 Oct 09
cdl?
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• United States
24 Oct 09
CDL... (Commercial Drivers License) And now I know why my spelling errors when spelling the word coming with two m's comes from, commercial I initially typed with one 'm' as a result of always typing coming with two and seeing it get underlined as a misspelled word, and we wonder what makes writing in English difficult? Two letters or one and shame on you for not getting it right... You're not perfect according to some linguistic scholars that think they make no mistakes, with the exception of their own lofty thinking... We are all human to err is human to make a deliberate mistake and try to cover up our imperfections is a sin. To be clean before GOD we need to accept our own humanity having Jesus as our Defense Counselor and GOD as the Plaintiff the question will be of you the accused how to you plead? Guilty or innocent and can you prove that you are truly innocent? Who will be the judge? P.S. David Reedy, I know you are innocent, but how do I know that?
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Wow what a story and things you have gone thru for a couple of years I do see why you havent been here for such along time I see where your Step mother is a crafty b***ch. and of course the DOctor would really be surprized about the suiside for a curable cancer! Is there any way that the cops can do more investicating on this with what you think really happened. I do think you and nephew could really make them look more into it. also you might have to get a court order to visit grandma. Its such a shame that some people in this world is like this woman. Hope the judge finnaly sees the light and rules in yours and grandmas favor and get the withc out of there.
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• United States
12 Feb 09
I wish the judge would have ruled in my favor or at least given me a chance to do what needs to be done. I requested an order for Rosie to cease and desist her behavior, but the judge did not grant me my request and with out the protection of the court to acknowledge that there is abuse here, my hands are tied. I really don't know what to do next, other than ask the judge if my grandmother had a fair hearing. I'd love to have a representative from the media present as I ask the judge that question. One of the details I left out was that on the subsequent hearing my grandmother would have spoken to the judge at my behest, if she was present in court with me... they blocked her from being in attendance at her own hearing, Brian was posted as guard with my grandmother at my grandmother's house, I'm sure I could not have managed to take my grandmother to court if I tried, I asked the judge to allow me this, I was afraid and concerned that I might need a deputy to keep the peace but the judge refused... How do people steal other people's property with the blessings of the courts? Here is a prime example. From the judge to my step mother and the lawyers involved they are all in a conspiracy to take away my grandmother's rights... She has been so traumatized and here I sit on the sidelines because I'm afraid of that pistol... I think we lost about 2,000 years of civilization and progress as we have reverted back to might is right...
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
12 Feb 09
you would think that the judge would want all the people there! So hope your grandma is ok and I hope Brain is the nephew that is helping you with every thing. GOod luck prayers a energies going out to you!
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• United States
12 Feb 09
Brian is Rosie's son my step brother the nephew remains un-named, he is innocent... He is a help to alert me in the first place so he is a good one... Remember the old Dragnet opening, I think it was dragnet, while this is a true story the names have been changed to protect the innocent... I'm kind of working of that philosophy...
• Regina, Saskatchewan
11 Feb 09
Holy moly Gary, this is incredible and if my hubs and I weren't involved in a court case because of his youngest sister's abuse of my mother-in-law I would hardly believe it. But I do, because our stories are so similar they could have happened side by side! I hope you keep us updated on how all this turns out. Elder Abuse is becoming the PC flavor of the month. With a different judge you may have been able to make something of that. And Tamara is right. There really is a book in your story..............
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• United States
11 Feb 09
Yeah, Remember the whole mess really got kindled with the lying detective accusing me of profanity while being a witness to an accident.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
11 Feb 09
Judges are subject to a strict code of conduct. Make sure your lawyer knows of your past history with him and takes careful notes of his handling of the case.....you can always file a complaint, and get a new hearing....in a perfect world that is:(
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• United States
12 Feb 09
In a perfect world I would have a lawyer, I would have the best that money could buy and all lawyers would be good and honorable. Needless to say the same about the judges, but I guess I better because a good judge is hard to find and a hard judge that is fair is good to find. Or some such thing...
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@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Wow! I do not have much to say but are you a survivor!! I hope that it turns out okay for everyone involved. I will send up prayers for you and keep you in them.
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• United States
11 Feb 09
Thanks Nanajanet, My grandmother is Nana Lee... I prayed that GOD would use me in a big way at the time that the cars crashed into each other behind my truck, it was nice that I wasn't involved in that accident but I was a witness and the result of that accident and being charged with disorderly conduct by the lying detective for the profanity that another person yelled. Well as you see maybe if the right thing would have been done in the first place I wouldn't be now where I am today... Maybe if the right thing would have been done in any of the following incidents I would not be going through what I have to endure this day. Maybe if there was a fair and compassionate court system we would not have all the problems that we have today... Maybe if they would start doing the right thing I wouldn't have to sue them for how I've been harmed by the defamation and I wouldn't have to witness all of the other abuses because the abusers would be stopped from causing this abuse. We would certainly need something to change and all we have is hope... Hoping that things will change seems rather pointless. After all it should be the job of the court house to make sure that all the individuals know of the decision of the judge and not the lawyer for an individual party. Suppose the lawyer doesn't do their job as in my case? I got cut out deliberately, they didn't want me to know... Who can I complain to about that? I feel like a broken record, I make complaints, here there and everywhere and my complaints almost always fall upon deaf ears. I really don't know where to turn to next... All I can take with me is the knowledge that these people will be held accountable for eternity by GOD! I certainly intend to make a point at the next hearing, I highly doubt it will be to any avail. Thank you for your continued support through your thoughts which are prayers.
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
11 Feb 09
You must think POSITIVE!! Remove all thoughts that you will fail from your mind. Only think that it will work. It is very important that you do this. Next, when praying to God, be specific. I mean, REALLY specific. Tell Him exactly what you need and ask over and over. I will do the same for you. Hugs!
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• United States
12 Feb 09
Thank you, I know what I would like, I would like the media a reporter to be at the next hearing, I would like to ask the judge if this was a fair hearing... I would like the abuse exposed... That is my wish, and my prayer, to right the wrongs and to write the wrongs. GOD Bless us ALL, With Peace, Sincerely, Gary
11 Feb 09
Hi TheGreatWhiteBuffalo, OMG¬!!! you could write a book, your poor father and poor you, I really hope it will all go right for you, your stepmother and your wife are both nutcases and I hope the court can see that. Tamara
• United States
11 Feb 09
No I needed to add to the story I saw I got cut short so here is the last part about the court not helping... and possibly why... the judge did not make an immediate ruling. I have been waiting all this time to hear about that ruling and I couldn't afford to buy the second transcript. During the testimony of the second hearing, upon examination by Rosie's attorney he wanted me to be aware of the laws and to make sure I abide by the laws, there was an interesting exchange of words. (I wish that I could afford that transcript) It was Wednesday November 24th that I decided to visit my grandmother knowing that my testimony in court the day before was damaging to Rosie's plans, I knew not to go there that night, I would give her a little time to cool down, so on over I went Brian the guard from the garage must have alerted his mother that I was there, he was leaving in his vehicle but had time to turn around and come back seeing my arrival. Rosie was right there out of the house on her way up to the drive to stop me from coming to visit. She asked me to leave and I insisted on seeing my grandmother for a visit before Thanksgiving, Rosie called the police, I politely awaited their arrival, I could hear Rosie talking to the police dispatcher telling them that she would like to kill me and that she could not be responsible for her actions if I was to enter into the house. She told them that my grandmother thinks I'm her boyfriend and how it is disgusting that I would hold my grandmothers hand for long periods of time... I called the police to confirm that they heard what she said and that Rosie was definitely talking with them making those remarks they assured me that this was true and asked me to stay put until they got there. Once the police officer arrived Brian left, much to the officer's surprise. The next day a repeat performance would occur at the house of my former wife when on Thanksgiving Day in the morning I went to wish my children a Happy Thanksgiving and deal with some mail that had arrived at my house along with some insurance forms from work. They (my former wife and children called the police on me) I was not spoken to by them (my family) The police took care of the paperwork business that needed to be transacted and admonished me to leave and not return or I would be prosecuted for defiant trespass. So on Saturday February 6; I finally get notification of yet another court hearing, it seems that the judge had made a ruling on the case back on December 1, 2008. Rosie's lawyers who insisted that I follow the law had a legal obligation to send me a copy of that ruling, I guess I'm supposed to follow and know all of the laws, while those that have been taught the law are above following the law? Sounds about right? I've contacted every agency and representative about the fact that my grandmother is the victim of Elder Abuse, to no avail, there is no help or support for me or my grandmother and I have no access to her the one that loves me and I love her just as I love my children who have all been poisoned by some flawed negative thinking, this thinking promoted by liars and there greed. There was an exchange of letters between me and my grandmother along with my father that led to our being estranged. The estrangement was fueled by my step mother, I didn’t understand that part at the time but would later learn as I look back that it was my former wife and my step mother working in concert to poison the minds of others along with the work that Sandy had done, let’s add my mother and you have a whole stew of mayhem. So who cares? Does the media, care, about victims and the abuse of our laws blatantly broken and flaunted in all of our faces... I care, but there is nothing more that I can do... I will go to the hearing and I will ask the judge if this was a fair hearing and why the judge and one of the lawyers had a conflict of interest? The judge, was a prosecutor in a case back in the early 1980's remember that recession? I'm a pretty good auto mechanic and a couple of guys that I was hanging around with were going into this old abandoned junk yard, really old no fence and I had this old car, we were taking scrap metal radiators and heater cores and turning them into the scrap yards for a little cash, a lawyer near by took offense to this and reported us to the police. I asked my friends if they had permission to be there before hand they told me they did, obviously my friends had lied to me. The prosecutor then, is now the judge in this matter... Of the mistakes that I've made most of them are guilt by association...
11 Feb 09
Hi TheGreatWhiteBuffalo, Sometimes I wonder if there is no justice in this world, mine you if you were a rich man, they'll all be eating out of your hand, I just hope things may work out for you in the end, I wish you all the luck. Tamara
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• United States
11 Feb 09
Thank You Tamara...
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
21 Aug 10
Thats nice to hear..my granny she does all nice sweets.I like her way of making them.