Could you wait until marriage for your first kiss?

United States
February 10, 2009 11:13pm CST
Well could you wait until you were married and the preacher or minister said "I now pronounce you husband and wife, you may now kiss the bride" to have your first kiss ever. I have this question because I am watching the Duggars and their son is getting married and him and his fiancee' are waiting until they are married to have their first kiss. They have held hands before marriage and that is it. No kissing until the minister tells them they can kiss. So, what are your thoughts on this. Could you wait? I think that it is so absolutely special especially in today's society. And I know that a lot of people look down on it but honestly what is wrong with it? I remember when I was a teen my Grandmother and one of her friends use to always tell me that "Kissing will get you pregnant." It is actually what the kissing leads to but I understand why they always told me that. LOL
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@anjel016 (330)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
Well its actually sweet having your first kiss on your wedding. As for me, that is no longer possible. LOL. I already got my first kiss. But still, I don't regret my first kiss being taken away from me. But if possible, I'd like to change whom I gave it to. LOL
@rainmark (4306)
11 Feb 09
Hi anjel, yeah same here, i already got my first kiss before i get married, well as i never been born in 1940's huh! But yes, like you i would like to change whom i gave those first kiss too, but it sounds impossible lolz. Happy posting.
• United States
25 Jun 09
I am actually waiting till marriage to kiss. I am a 16 year old girl, a christian and of course at times I feel left out. My best friend just got her first boyfriend 2 weeks ago and they had their first kiss yesterday. A few months ago she said to me "I could never do that! Me, personaly, I just dont think I could." and here we are a few weeks later and she's had her first kiss. It doesnt make anyone a bad person to kiss someone. However I think it would be so special to wait. My cousin talked with me about kissing and relationships recently and she too has decided to wait until marriage to kiss. I beileve if you can have fun with the person, you love him/her and they share your beilefs and dreams then you dont need to have a physical relationship until marriage. Its been really tough on me lately and ive been struggling with this decision ever since I made it. You can relate to the person you love without being physical outside of marriage.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
hehehe no, on my part i did not, its like an impossible thing!
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
I think that depends of the two of you. If you want that you will keep the first kiss until the day of the wedding then why not? But now, I think it is very rare if a couple who is about to have the wedding didn't have a kiss. Most people today are living together, or pregnant before getting together and getting married.
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
oh my god no!!! it's kissing, we kiss our moms, out dads, grandmas, grandpas, siblings, our friends why not the one we love. they may say that kissing might lead to something too far, that's a different topic altogether. but kissing is a real beautiful thing. it speaks a thousand words rather than a plain "i love you" or "i care for you deeply" can ever convey. don't deprive yourself of this wonderful experince.
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
well its really worth the wait but simple kiss like smack wont be a big deal. besides kissing is another actions to say how you love and cares another person.
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
No i dont think couples cant wait, not unless in a rare case like arrange marriage where in the couples just met during the wedding, then probably its possible..but like for being always together its very imposible.
@rainmark (4306)
11 Feb 09
If i could that would be grateful, i think it's really good to wait for your first kiss after your blessings of marriage and the feeling is more excited and intense, imagine you wait that long lolz. Butin my case, i had my first kiss before marriage lolz. Happy posting.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
I think this will going to be too hard. LOL Considering the kind of society and fad we have nowadays. But if it a law that msut be followed, maybe so. But since we are free to do what we want- kiss for one, then I think it is not possible now.
• United States
11 Feb 09
no i could not wait till i got married for the first kiss i tried it was my ex but it just did not work and i know it will not work witht the next guy i am with
@jhenn22 (1243)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
honestly, it would be nice to kiss after marriage but i dont think it is applicable this time in this modern time. People think kissing a normal one. Even friends do kissing and i agree that kissing is a sign of showing how you love each other as long they knew there limitation that would be ok. There's nothing wrong with kissing. Its just that sometimes you do that in a right place.
@giay0422 (60)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
Kissing is an expression of love. I got my first kiss even before I got married and its allowed in our culture anyway. Even its not with the man I married, no regret on that. Just for the experience of it:)
@tudors (1556)
• China
11 Feb 09
Have you ever met such patient people? Hard to imagine.
• United States
11 Feb 09
I thought in today's generation this could be a funny question. In my own opinion a kiss a simple expression of love. If you want to express your love why wait during the marriage. For sure it would be thrilling and exciting but I think it feels weird. I also grew up in conservative upbringing but I can't remember religious leaders telling me I can't kiss. Your grandparents were told the same thing before perhaps and were a little bit shy of telling them the exact terms about how women get pregnant so to make things short they say it that way.;-)
@Mamakavi (63)
• Kenya
11 Feb 09
If I hadn't kissed anyone before and experience the beauty of it, then perhaps i could wait. That said, I would need a lot of will power not to kiss someone until our wedding day...
• India
11 Feb 09
its a foolish thing to comment on kissing gets to pregnent if really for thee kissing leads to pregnent for this time world is only filled up with the people not with the houses and any thing but before marrriege kissimg is the likeof the duo, the ve the rights kiss ther patners eventhough they didnt married. .
@sibuspd (30)
• India
11 Feb 09
Well dude . I must tell the 2 ultimate truths of life . rule 1 there is no limit of love. it is farther than universe. it is deeper than ocean . it is tougher than dying. it is stronger than diamond. rule who the stupid told that kissing makes pregnant? ( sorery, not telling your GM. ) Kiss is basic step for learning the course of love. Without the help of a kiss, the love bong becomes somewhat weak . but a touch of yours lovers lip can make it more the strongest . So do this!!!!!!!!!! KISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE bye dude!!I am a karateka and I love a girl who is also a member of my martial arts.I kissed her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I have no AIDS, no syphillis, and one thing, SHE IS NOT PREGNANT!!!!!!!!
• India
11 Feb 09
Marriage is just a formal gathering to announce to the world that we are going to live together as husband and wife.Marriage is just a legal formality. It is never really the starting point for love and hence there is no need to wait till marriage for the first kiss. Kissing is an expression of love. So why wait to do it. Atleast this is what i think.Happy mylotting....
• United States
11 Feb 09
Honestly, that first and second kiss says a lot about your relationship with that person if you don't just go for it. Life is so short. I remember my first kiss, not married yet, have never been married, and it was great. I had my first kiss with the man that I truly loved. I do not regret it at all. I know that the Duggars are trying to be traditional, but they need to just let it go. Their kids are only going to live once.
• Canada
11 Feb 09
Me personally I dont think i could do that, and i think i would also encourage my son not to jump right into marriage like that. Have you ever kissed someone and knew in that moment that it is not going to work...it just dosnt feel right. I think it is important to know the person your marrying and the way the Duggurs do it dont really allow that in my opinion. I also watch the show, and i truly believe that everyone is entiled to live thier life thier own way and I respect that. It is a very romantic idea and with the divorce rate what it is its worth trying if your heart is in it. I wish them all the best in thier life together...however that way of life is not for me.