How young do think it is ok to get married at?
By Alex18
@Alex18 (169)
United States
February 11, 2009 1:19am CST
Hi fellow mylotters! :)
Im just curious what other people think about how old people should be before they get married or at how young of an age is it ok to be married at? I know I am not ready to get married, im 18 and my gf is 19, but using my age as an example, do you think an 18 year old is ready to get married, or even younger?
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12 responses
@avinash1985 (26)
• India
11 Feb 09
I think that boy of age 22 and girl with 20 is ok to get married.
Education upto graduation level is finshed at the age of 20.After 2 years you will get stable job also you have some stable financial state.Now this is a time when you can fulfill all requirment of your family.
If you get married earlier,you may have many problems.You will not able to plan your family in best way before 20.
Hence I think that 21 is ok to get married....
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@Alex18 (169)
• United States
11 Feb 09
yeah i agree with those ages. I think around 22 is a good age because for me at least I will be graduated from college and she will hopefully have been here for a couple years and gotten used to being here and over the initial culture shock, because she is from the philippines. but yeah i agree with your ages.
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@catmei (54)
• China
24 Apr 09
really it's a matter of maturity.
do you have the experience that people with the same age do not look the same age?
given ten people, set one of them as a 18 aged person, take him as a reference, sort an age order to them,you may find each is different, the oldest may have a face that look like a 40 old man's.
some countries' legal marriage age is defined according to a general average situation.it can be said that most of people is mature enough at 25 or 23 or another age.
does anybody say to you that you look like a 25 years old person? if most around you feel so, i think you can get married.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
11 Feb 09
I think that a lot of people will tell you the right time to get married is when your financially stable, and even emotionally stable like the first responder. Only you truly know when you should get married though, and no matter what your age is, if you have a good head on your shoulders I think that anyone you or your to be fiance know will support you 100%.
Our ancestors were married at younger ages then the law even allows for now (well without consent from the parents).
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
11 Feb 09
That's true that people in other countries get married younger.
@kguru1979 (381)
• India
11 Feb 09
For men the best age to get married is 26 to 28.
For women the best age to get married is 22 to 24.
This is my kind advice to all.
@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
i don't think under 20 is ready to get marry. marriage is such a big decision to make. it is not for boys or for girls. it is for a mature woman and man. you have to be ready financially, emotionally,physically, psychologically and mentally.
if at young age, let say, 23, if they are ready and all, then they can.
it is a matter of maturity.
@unchie (122)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
when i was younger i set an age when will i get married. My target age is 25. i just assume that that time i will be mature enough and i will have a stable job.,For me the right time to get married is personal choice. hehe i just hope when i reach that age i already have bf.^_^
@Alex18 (169)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Hi Unchie :D!, lol. I like age 25, it might be a little high, but if you havent found the special someone then the longer you wait the better because you dont want to rush into something with the wrong person just because you think you have to be married by a certain age. Yeah it is definitely a personal choice. Anything is possible, but dont rush into anything :)
@frankiecesca (2489)
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25 Jun 09
Ithink it entirely depends on the person! I moved into my home with my then boyfriend when I was 19 and the year after we got engaged - we had a long engagement due to lack of money for the wedding but, eventaull married last year and have now been married for just over 1 and half years.
I guess it depends on if you have found the right person and know you would be happy making that commitment!
@mammamuh (582)
• Sweden
11 Feb 09
I do belive that some 18 year olds are ready to get married. SOme 25 years od are not ready.
First of all - have you met the partner you will live together with for the rest of your life?
I met my husband at 21 and got married two years later - we could have gotten married in the start since we were ment to get married. If we met earlier I guess we would have gotten married earlier.
I don't think that getting married bore the age of 18 is good - I would say that you'll be an adult before you can make this decision - but I also think that you should be an adult to have children.
@Alex18 (169)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Me personally, i have not met my gf in person yet. She lives in the philippines while I live in the United States. We hope to meet in the next year, but she isnt financially stable and im a full time college student so its hard to get a job and make money, but we are trying :) and I think we were meant to be together, but even if we met next week i still think 18 and 19 is way to young to be married, but thats only my opinion.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
..well, for me age doesn't matter when it comes to getting married.. what matters most is your readiness to all the responsibilities of becoming a wife or a husband.. I married at 24 and I still think I married early because I discovered that i didn't enjoy being single and I still have many things to do.. however, because I am married, I have to face my responsibilities most especially today that I have a baby.. In getting married, you also need to consider your income.. is it sufficient to meet all the needs of your family to be? or do you need to look for a better job first before getting married..? Are you ready emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually? these are questions you need to answer first before entering inot that kind of status..
@Alex18 (169)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Yeah. to me 24 seems like a good age to get married at if you are ready for it. Im 18 and i think it is way too young and me and my gf have talked about it before and she knows what i think about it and while she would be happy to get married as soon as we meet, she respects what I think and she understands that I am in college and am a full time student and with all the money my parents spend for me to go to the fantastic school that i do and school is a priority right now, but after i graduate, it would be a great time to do that.
Thank you very much for your response, I like to hear what other people think about it :)
@okoyskabo (186)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
i can say that the right time to get married is when both of you are financially and emotionally stable. you can't say at what age exactly because it all depends on the maturity of both the lovers involved and also on their productivity (earning at an early age).
@Alex18 (169)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Yeah I agree. It is hard to put an age on marriage. the tendencies are though that the older you are the more mature, thats not always true, but most of the time it is. but if you and your spouse can support yourselves financially and emotionally then, you can make that choice to get married.
@Qwency (4)
• Shenzhen, China
29 Aug 14
it's nothing to do with age, it's something to do with your heart, and you conditions permit. I'm 23 years old, I like someone older than me, but my BF is one year younger than me, Feel like I'm the older sister... sometimes really tired of taking care of each other. IDK, I like someone who can take care of me, and know me. I got confused...
