How do you keep your cool?

Philippines
February 11, 2009 2:16am CST
Sometimes I find myself in situations that test my patience. I am guilty of being too emotional sometimes. What do you do when you hear something from other people which you do not like and you feel like they got it all wrong? How do you keep your patience and prevent yourself from getting too emotional?
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
12 Feb 09
I take a deep breath and count to 10. And then try to cool down enough to sort out my thoughts before I blurt out something I might regret later. If counting to ten while holding my breath doesn't help, I clam up and listen and then walk away. Coming back to the issue only when I have a cooler head.
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
It's good that you have the patience. I will try my best to be patient from now on...
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
12 Feb 09
I do not have paitence. I just used some techniques to try and avoid situations where I let my mouth work faster than my brain. So the two I listed are useful in such situations. So far, so good. It has worked for me and got me out of trouble a lot of times. Maybe you can try it too. It is a matter of practice to make it come naturally.
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
when confronted by this situation i usually take a deep breath and count up to five this will give you time to control yourself and prevent any untowaerd incident that may arise when you react in the fit of an anger... but women easily flare up and confront the whoever that person is... they have a little patience than boys...
@sammy14 (835)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
can you be my friend...
• Malaysia
11 Feb 09
If I hear some comment about myself which I don't like, I'll think to myself "Who's the person giving such comment? Is he or she an important person to me?" If that person is of no importance to me, why bother? But if that is someone I know, and somebody close to me, I'll just walk out of that place (e.g. go to the washroom, pour myself a cup of tea/ water etc.) , let myself calm down before I open my mouth. More than often we will regret what we have said when we are angry. So walking out of that place even for just a few minutes will help cool you down. If you are over the phone, perhaps you should make some excuse to hang up. For instance, say you have to go to the toilet or you are engaged on the other line & tell that person you'll call him/her later. Take a deep breath and recompose yourself. Sometimes people don't really mean what they say, it's just that there are some communication problems or they don't know how to say something in a proper or positive way. You'll never know what will happen the next minute or the next hour! So try not to say something that you'll regret later (especially to your friends / family), regardless of how angry or upset you are. Sometimes you might not have the chance to seek for forgiveness and make amends, if something unfortunate happen to any of them. Remember, you tend to look older faster than you should, if you get angry and stressed out all the time! So keep your cool & cheer up!
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
Thanks for the great advice! It is true, that when it comes from someone important to you, the more impact it has.
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
3 Apr 09
Dear friend, I do become hot tempered at times that too very rarely. Actually my work needs lots of patience and also adjusting my surrounding also needs lots of patience. May be to control my self be cool and keep the patience is essential here. May be my school too gave me a strict control of my mind. Hence I am sure that I could keep my patience but my emotions may not make me keep it cool. But I am not hot tempered for silly and unnecessary matters.
@Lindery (854)
• Latvia
11 Feb 09
I usually try to calm down, wait a second and try to answer with objective reply. I try and understand a point other one is trying to tell about me, if it's true, I try and accept it. Not easy but why would I stress myself because someone didn't like my way of being?!
@Nhey16 (2519)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
whoah... I guess it will depend on my mood and the weight of the talk. Either I won't comment anything about it or waste my time with that talk, or I will confront the one involved.