Are You In Doubt Or Worried When Your Partner Go Home Late???

Philippines
February 11, 2009 2:57am CST
I know this is somehow a tough question to everyone. I am just curious on how you feel whenever your partner go home late. How do you feel about it?Are you7 in doubt or you are more worried? With this, that is depending upon the situation. There are some instances that my partner do not ask permission whenever she is going somewhere.That leads me to have the feeling of doubt. I do not want my love ones, do not ask permission whenever she is going somewhere. On the other hand,I am worried whenever she go home late from office. Just for instance, she should be out by 5 in the morning. But she arrives home by 8 in the morning. It's a matter of three hours. But her office is just near our house. When she arrived, she was in a crowd of traffic. What about you?How do you fel whenever your partner go homes late?Are you more in doubt? Or more wooried?share your feelings and ideas.have a nice day!!
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@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
11 Feb 09
I am usually more worried, than suspicious. My hubby often informs me when he goes, or whom he's with. So when he's late (or too late), I'm worried about his safety.
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
it is true that we always worry about the safety of a love one. thus, we keep on mumbling prayers, which spring from our hearts, that nothing bad and undesirable has happened to anyone of them. it is good, lazeebee, that you trust your husband that much. trust is a very important ingredient in marriage. however, it is also necessary to check on the husband once in a while. you just couldn't know when he will be attracted to a lady who does not deserve to be in the picture of the family. no, do not be jealous. just simply do some checking. making sure that everythng's going fine.
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
12 Feb 09
No, it doesn't worry me. Out of respect to each other and for each other's time, my husband and I stay in contact about running late and what we will be doing. When you share a life with someone, it is the right thing to do in order to keep life running smoothly.
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@youless (93576)
• Guangzhou, China
12 Feb 09
If you have a doubt to it, you can ask your spouse so that there will be less misunderstandings. If you are worried about your spouse, you shall make a call to know where he/she is. Usually my husband will call me if he is late to home because of overtime work or friend's gathering. So I won't be so worried. I trust him and I only feel worried if he comes home very late because the crimes are serious. I love China
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• Singapore
12 Feb 09
These few days my hubby has been coming home late, partly due to work commitments. Unlike many, he does not have a fixed time knocking off from work. As such I often text him to check what time he'll be coming home. At times, I'll meet him at the train station with my daughter. I'm more worried when he comes home late. I'm not in doubt, unless he does not tell me where he's going and still comes home extremely late. By then, I would have given him a call to check his whereabouts.
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
I understand you. I know that most of us partners will doubt if our partner doesn't go home on time. Especially in my case that my husband had done something previously. Actually before that happened, I trust him, when he said he's going for an overtime then I never question him or hold him. Now, after the affair, I don't have a trust on him. I was putting a dirty mind even if I don't know if he's not doing any wrong now. Well, I think it is best to follow up sometimes what keeps our partner from getting late at home. Especially if it is frequent. It is better be aware of what was happening than you will just wake up one day badly hurt because you have discovered that things are not already okay.
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@sona22 (1431)
• India
12 Feb 09
No doubt from my part, but only worried. I knew every movement of my husband. His late in reaching home is a normal course. But if the time passed I call him. And call just to know the facts. I call him not for my worriedness but for my daughter. If he don't come within the time my daughter become too worry. I have a full faith on my husband. I knew it well that he will not do any thing which will give me pain. His love and trust is beyond doubt.
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@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Nah, no doubts about my husband, more worried than anything. He works odd shifts and has to drive a ways home and I worry he'll fall asleep at the wheel... There have been a few times I've gotten mad, when he's not gotten at the time he told me he'd be home. Now though, we have a understanding he'll call if he's gonna be late, and late usually means he's winnning lol... So i don't mind it as much.
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@jimbo88 (231)
• Indonesia
12 Feb 09
I don't have a partner.But in my opinion doubt when our partner go home late is necessary. Why? because we need to know what happen with your partner.Giving more attention is the best way to reach more explanation. So we must worried about that.
@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Well, for me, it would pretty much depend on the situation. Since I know where my husband works, and what type of job he does, there are times when he is late, and that is expected. But he is good enough to give me a call and let me know he is running late, and how long he thinks he will be. Since he knows I would Worry and he also wants to make sure that I am OK, he feels it is his duty as well.
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• Philippines
11 Feb 09
Hi rberon, my husband always come home late because of his work. He is a traffic inforcer and was assigned in a very busy area. Here in the Philippines traffice is heavy at 7pm up to 9pm so, he will always be late. I am not worried about it because I know where he is. Maybe if you have no trust of your partner that's the time you will doubt or be worried of what he/she does when he will be late in going home.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
11 Feb 09
My husband is usually late, it's just something I've come accustomed to. He's often kept late at work for whatever reason, and I've gotten to a point where I don't even expect him home any sooner than an hour after he was supposed to be out of work. Normally he does call to let me know, but sometimes he's too busy to call, and then once he is getting ready to leave, he'd rather leave and get home quicker than to take the time to call. If he's more than an hour late and hasn't called, then I'd start to get worried. I begin watching out the door for his car to pull up and start thinking about his work to see if he's left yet. But he always manages to get home before I get too worried. I've never once doubted him. I know and trust him too well.
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@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
I worried a lot if I don't know on the first pace that he will come home late. A lot of thoughts will rush on my mind. But if I knew about it on the first place, it will be okay. I trust him for that.
@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
11 Feb 09
I am never worried about what my husband is doing. We have been together now for 13 years. He goes out alot to do many things like picking up our kids etc. I trust him that he is not cheating or anything. Also if he ever decides to leave me then that will be his choice and I have no control over that so I do not worry about it. I just appreciate the fact that he does come home to me.
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@Lindery (854)
• Latvia
11 Feb 09
I don't feel comfortable if my partner is late and don't let me know where he is. But I don't have any doubts, rather worries. We have consuetude between us that whenever one of us is going to be late, we call or SMS. That avoids other one from stress.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 09
Hi usually whenever he is late I will be more worried. I dont have any doubts on him. We usually call each other when ever we are late if the signal is week and if we cant contact one another then we will be worried and we never doubt.
@godara (59)
• India
11 Feb 09
It is good chaitra that you trust your husband and you don't doubt on him because some time it get impossible to contact one another due to some important work.
• Bangalore, India
12 Feb 09
yes godara its too difficult to recive the call sometimes. Its very difficult here in banglore to reach home in time due to a very huge traffic jams so need to get adjust with it.
• United States
12 Feb 09
I don't usually worry unless he tells me he's not going to be home late and then it gets to be one or two in the morning. We don't ask permission to do things, but we do talk to each other and keep each other informed about what we have going on and if there's something one or the other of us has to do or wants to do we talk about it. It doesn't bother me for him to go out and do things like watch a fight or watch a game or just go out with the guys, to be honest I like my alone time and I usually prefer to stay home and watch a movie or read a book then go out....sometimes people just need a little space and time to themselves. My husband doesn't, he like to have somebody around all the time, he doesn't like quiet or alone time. I'm not in doubt, I do get mad if he comes home late and wakes me up on purpose because that's just rude.
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
I don't worry when husband comes home late because he always calls me when there will be an emergency meeting for them to go home late. I also like the way we keep each other updated if there is a schedule change since he is working on a call center. If he cant call he will send me a text message. So there is really no reason for me to worry if he comes home late. I'm just thankful to God that He always go home on time.
@giay0422 (60)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
Never had this worry-feeling :) my partner always advised me when he's getting home late.
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
i used to be worried what has happened to my then husband whenever he comes home much too late. when he kept on doing this for years, i just simply got fed up. this is because, it has always been very evident that he was playing around. he goes home drunk and always, without money for the family. time came when i lost all of my patience, this is, after one confrontation after another. numerous confrontations, it is impossible for anyone to have any count therefor. i got so tired, i had decided to go home to my parents. i pitied my children, that's why, they are not eating rightly nor did we have a decent life. now, he has gone into somebody else's arms for good. no, i do not fret over him. he is not worth it. as for you, just be mindful of your wife. love her and take care of her. by the way that your discussion runs, i can feel that she is a good and honest wife. just simply keep communication lines open so there will be no misunderstandings. good luck in your married life, rberon. make the best out of it. well welded families are the best foundation for young children.
@4my1nonly (352)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
When my husband go home late, i'm worried but no doubts...my husband always make a call if he will go home early or late,,,if he calls that his on d way home and if hour or mins. past i'm really worried, and think that there's a bad thing happen but hope that it's just a traffic....^__^keep smiling