are you guilty when you didn't give what your child want?
February 11, 2009 10:52am CST
Do you feel guilty when your child picked the toys she/he wants but you refuse to buy those because of not enough money? For me as a mother I feel guilty sometimes, as parents what we don't have when we were young we won't our children suffer that too, so we promise to ourselves to give our children and let them experience to have those stuff (toys, good clothes, shoes), but of course with limits not all what they wanted.
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11 Feb 09
I don't feel guilty at all. It's a lesson they need to learn, and one that we have to learn. We can't live over our limit, especially in today's economy. They aren't going to suffer because they didn't have the latest shoes. If we gave in every time our child wanted something, all of us would be broke. Children learn limits, and they learn value by these limits. A great book I read to my older children and have taken to reading to my little ones is the Berenstain Bear's and the Galloping Gimmies. It talks about why when Mamma and Papa go shopping the cubs need to not ask for everything.
11 Feb 09
Well I do sometimes, however we cannot satisfy all that children want. It is not good for the kids, the world is not that easy. If they are given everything they want they believe that they will gain everything they want and desire. It is good to keep discipline to children and is good to tell them the truth, if there is no money you tell them that mum cannot spend money on toys she has to spend them on food to survive.
12 Feb 09
Parents now a days provide almost what their kid's want,especially working parents, they try to make up for the quality times they should have been spending with their kids, but I don't agree with that kind of treating your kids with a lot of materials things instead, even if we have the ability to buy all those stuff (how I wish), we don't want our children to cling on something that has no real value, for a moment yes, but after a while, it does no good for them, we should teach them the real value of happiness are not found on material things, I tried to instill to them that material things are all temporary things on earth, if they really want something, I would tell them, they have to work hard on their studies , and give the stuff as a reward.... if we are capable of buying those stuff , but if not , we honestly tell them the truth, that not all kids get what they want, they should be contented with what they have as we are more blessed with others.