Ladies: Do you prefer a male or female physician?

United States
February 11, 2009 2:47pm CST
This question is for the ladies in particular, but men please feel free to answer with your opinion as well. Ladies and gentlemen, for your general practitioner/primary care physician, do you have a preference whether the doctor is male or female? How often do you see the doctor for exams? We are supposed to go annually. It's been awhile since I have been for an annual physical. Females, for your GYN, do you have a preference of a male or female? I have only had male gynos my entire life, but today I went and had my first female I don't really have much of a preference, but it was the best visit I've had. It was short and te atmosphere was better tha the other offices I've been to in the past. I think it was a mix of everything -- even the waiting room was nice, more of a spa waiting room than a gynecologist... How have your experiences been?
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• United States
11 Feb 09
Personally I prefer a female because I feel that she will better understand me and what I am going through. I am by no means bashing male doctors (I had male doctors most of my life)and they were knowledgeable and professional (the ones that I have had) but when I got a female doctor it felt like she knew more where I was coming from and could relate more. If you want to see how a cake is done wouldn't you go to the baker and not the chef..lol. It all depends on what makes YOU feel more comfortable and makes it possible for you to get the best service you deserve.
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• United States
11 Feb 09
I agree, great answer. My friend at work only goes to females. She has had males in the past, but prefers women. She said most women have been rough, but she still feels more comfortable with them. The female GYN I had today was not rough at all and was very professional. It did actually feel a little better to have a female, since I knew she has gone through female issues before whereas the male physicians didn't.
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
11 Feb 09
I do feel that I also would prefer a female opposed to a male because I am a woman and I just feel more comfortable. You are right. The male doctors might be knowledgeable and professional however two women can relate better in my own opinion.
• Philippines
19 Feb 09
yeah sonrisa42..personally i want it female..but if i got no choice..whether it's male or female can do..the important is they have to do their role as doctor. and they should do everything to save life...
@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I've had both male and female for both family and ob/gyn. I can't say I could tell a major differnce in family doctors. With ob/gyns, I think men are little more gentle when it comes to the exams and so on, but the women aren't so. But the women are more sentitve to your needs and self worries. Men sometimes don't understand, (even though they've went threw many years of schooling) how cramps feel, how everything else is, and a women experiences it for herself. Women are much more eaiser to talk to about those things than male doctors are.
• United States
21 Feb 09
It's true -- no amount of textbook education can teach personal experience.
@earthsong (589)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I really don't care if my GP or gyn is male or female. I only care that they are decent doctors and have a good bedside manner. Our pediatrician is male, my gyn is male and our GP is in a clinic and we usually see a male, but occasionally we get a female doctor and I like her. I've had a female gyn in the past and she was AWFUL! I was pregnant with my youngest son and she was very rough. You would think that a female gyn would be more understanding of her patients, but I have heard lots of women complain about her being too rough, worse than the men. The best doctor I ever had was this little Middle Eastern woman, she was fantastic, had the best bedside manner I'd ever encountered and really listened to me. She didn't try to medicate when it wasn't needed, and she really talked to me. Unfortunately, she left the practice because they wouldn't let her deliver babies. There's a little bit of a monopoly in the OB department here and she couldn't break in. She went to a larger, nearby city, where she could practice the way she desired.
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@kalav56 (11502)
• India
12 Feb 09
For general consultation , I do not mind either way.If it is a problem that demands treatment from a GYN the male doctors themselves would advise us to visit a particular person/female. Actually, when I was pregnant , I was in a very small village like town where I had to see a male doctor. I had no choice, because an elderly distant relative of mine recommended him and took me there, saying that he was extremely good.He was a very old man, a no-nonsense guy who did inspire confidence.But , however, for the advanced stage of pregnancy and childbirth, it was my lady doctor who attended to me.In our country we go to our parents' place where we are normally treated like some Queens [the fortunate many-even the poor people enjoy a lot of cossetting by their parents in their father's house when they are taken there for their child birth-especially the first child].So, in my parents' place I had a lady doctor who was known to me from when I was young.
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@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
I prefer a female gynecologist or physician because I feel more comfortable talking with them. When I give birth to my baby last October 2008 my attending physician is a lady and she is very nice and considerate through my entire labor hours. Until now I am visiting her in her clinic when I get my injectable contraceptive. Aside from the fact that she is so nice, she is also pretty like me yahoo!
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@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
12 Feb 09
Hi, I think you don't like the men Gynocologists.But, why? what have they done to you? well i don't know women are free to tell their problems to men gynocos. but, they are the professionals so i don't think there is anything to hesitate to talk. since you have problem that's why you have gone there. otherwise no one goes for a picnic to doc. well its just my personal opinion.
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• United States
12 Feb 09
I don't go tothe doctor regularly. In fact i can't remember the exact date I saw a doctor last.But I do remember it was a woman.I have no preference. To tell the truth , i don't trust doctors so it really doesn't matter if it is a woman or a man who lies to me.
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@dodo19 (33590)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
11 Feb 09
I personally feel more comfortable with female doctor. It's not that I don't trust male doctors. It's just that there are somethings that I wouldn't feel as comfortable talking about to a male doctor than I would to a female doctor. I'm sure that male doctors are just as used to hearing things from female patients as female doctors are. But I guess that it's just that female doctors know a lot more about women' health issues than male doctors are, for the simple reason that they experience the same health issues as I do or like any other woman.
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@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
11 Feb 09
When I was young I would only want a women doctor or gynecologist. But, being over 40, it does not matter to me anymore. Some women can be hard too, and so can men. It depends on the person, whether a man or a women. I have had both. Recently I have women for everything. But it just happened that way. Take care.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
11 Feb 09
i have always preferred a man to a woman GYN. for me, i always felt that the men where more gentle. they seem to ask more questions and are so much more personable. i have had a man GYN since the birth of my first son 19 years ago.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
1 Apr 10
Definately female. I don't care much for male doctors. I'll go to one if I absolutely have to but I have a female doctor that I generally go to and she's really pretty good. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
22 Feb 09
Am not a lady, but as a man, I am more confortable with a male physician-just incase it comes to those issues of undressing. It would look embarrasing for a lady doctor to go to those private departments, especially, if they have to do the touching-with a touch from a woman's soft hands even if that touch is obviously in the search for disease, the whole atmosphere may change from the search of treatment to something else.. LOL!
@rusty2rusty (6766)
• Defiance, Ohio
12 Feb 09
I prefer a female physician. I have had male doctors in the past. I have one now for my leg. But I feel I can more opena nd honest with a female doctor compared to a male. I have also notice where a male doctor will say something is in my head and brush it off. Where a female doctor will listen and do something. Like runa test.
• India
12 Feb 09
Hello my friend Bethany1202 Ji, Well, as a Ex. soldier's wife, I was all the time had mostly male doctors, till I have something special for my consultation pertaining to my gender. It does not matter for me. But i personally feel that, medicall profession should be taken up by ladies, because, a patients need sympathy more than treatment. It has already been widely accepted that Ladies are more soft in dealing and caring patients, So mostly Nursing job has been assigned to females. May god bless you and have great time.
• United States
12 Feb 09
I am a man and i have not had a lady doctor.for one thing I hate going to the doctor so I don't.before you tell me i should,don't my wife tells me that all the time.best wishes to you all
@itsme_cha (504)
• United States
12 Feb 09
hello, thanks for the discussion this is a very good question to everybody. personally i would prefer female physician as i am a female, because for me i feel more comfortable if my physician is a female, so i can discuss and ask almost anything regarding with my concerns. i am so happy with my physician now she is so nice and helpful to me. have a good day.
@nchap36 (556)
• United States
12 Feb 09
When I'm sick I could care less who examine me. Just as long as they are good and have a degree. My annual check up I have a woman. She is real good and she sit and explain everything. I am a wishy washy kind a person. It doesn't who it is just get the job done.
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I am a lady, I would prefer a female physician because I would feel very weird to have male physician to do the exam for me.
@AXLAERO (426)
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
Ofcourse i prefer a girl phycisian.I feel more comfortable if the physicin,nurse or a doctor is a girl.I feel ucomfortable if it's a guy.Maybe it's because im a girl that's why i dont feel shy and contious if a phycisian is a girl.
@mamabeezy (172)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Female for primary care physician and OB/GYN I just feel more comfortable around women cause they've been through what I'm going through and we have the same anatomy and it would just be weird having a guy