are you nervous when speaking in public?

China
February 11, 2009 11:24pm CST
i am talkative when i am with my friends,family members or acqaintance.but when i stand in front of a group people, say, deliver a speech, give a presentation,i feel very nervous and i can't speak fluently and i can't think normally just like my power of brain is off. are you nervous when speaking in public?do you have some good tips to overcome it?thank you.
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32 responses
• India
12 Feb 09
well my nervousness depends on topic. If i m having good knowledge about that topic then my nervousness is nill. but if accidentlly someone tell me to speak in front of group, then it would be hard for me to speak. thanks
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• Nepal
12 Feb 09
I used to be nervous but now I am not. Because Now I do teaching thats what it build my confidence on speaking on mass.
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@Jae2619 (1485)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I've always been a pretty outspoken person, so public speaking doesn't really bother me too much. I do get the butterflies from time to time before it's time for me to give a speech. I learned when I was in college that you must be able to have confidence in yourself. Practice your speech in front of a mirror, try to memorize the speech as best as you can so you're able to make eye contact when it comes time for the speech. My first few times, I would get to the place I was making my speech, and get a few focal points that looked as if i was making eye contact with people, with out actually looking at them. If you do get the butterflies and they start to make you uneasy, just politely smile and take a deep breath and stay calm, and if you make a mistake, just go with the flow and don't make a big deal out of it because only you know what the exact wording should be. Best of luck!
@heartsoul (311)
• China
12 Feb 09
Hello, vikeyshuy! I have the same experience with you! When I stay with my friends and family members, I become very talkative. But when I come to a strange place, I feel I become silent and can not open my mouth! And when meeting strangers, I can't find many topics to start a conversation! I think to overcome such disadvantage, there are two ways: 1.Be self-confident! Self-confidence can help you overcome the fear in your heart.And once you get rid of this fear, you can speak as wish as you can! 2.To find more topics that suit to a conversation! Sometimes you want to join a conversation, but due to you are not familiar with the topic, it is also hard for you to say a word! And I am now on the way to over come this disadvantage and improve mcuh! I hope you also can achieve your dream some day!
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• Philippines
12 Feb 09
Hi there vikeyshuy! Sometimes, I do get nervous. (actually it depends on what will i am going to report) If i Am not yet familiar with that certain topic, I always get nervous. But now, i make sure that im familiar with the topic so if any audience will ask me then i can answer them right? Its just a matter of disciplining and a lesson plan. :)
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@gunagohan (3415)
• India
12 Feb 09
hi...its a common thing , that every human being gets nervous when talking in public...in my case even i feel very nervous when i was asked to give a presentation before my class...all are my friends, but i felt very nervous and blabbered and collapsed...i too looking for a kind of advice to overcome this habit,...i expect more response for this discussion, so that i could improve...thanx...nice topic and very useful one...happy mylotting..
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
i have the same problem being nervous when talking in public.. I'm glad that i overcome it.. the first thing i did,each day i try to talk to other people that i don't know but in a proper way & not so stranger person .. like the people set beside you in the train .. your new neighbor,ect... the first thing i do is i my self open up a the topic, a simple topic that start only by saying Hi,Hello,Good Day.. its really a Big Help on my Side.. hope this little thing can be a help to you...
@randis1 (112)
• United States
12 Feb 09
A little bit. If you do it enough you become more comfortable with it. I'm nervous for the first few minutes but then I usually adapt very well. The key is to channel your nervousness into something, usually the audience. Try moving around a lot...make lots of gestures...make your voice more inflective. Your energy is going to go somewhere and needs to channel into something. It will either channel itself into nervousness or into the crowd. Your decision.
@busyB4 (875)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Yes, yes, yes I get nervous and do not like public speaking! It is just notfor me. I took speech in college and they suggested you take deep breaths before going up to speak. I have also sung in front of crowds but do better as a group not just solo! (they probably think that too - ha!)
• United States
11 Mar 09
I am super nervous in front of people. I always used to ditch class in order to avoid speaking in front of my class. I realized that i got nervous when i made eye contact with the audience, i became overwhelmed by the # of eyes staring @ me! so i had this idea one day i cant get nervous if i cant see my audience. Naturally i have really bad eyesight, i cant see anything past my arms when they are streched out without my glasses or contacts. so before a speech i took my contacts off & i couldnt see anybodys face clearly. Everything was a blurr, it was a lot easier to deliver my speech.Even though i looked like i was making eyecontact with my audience i really couldnt see anything. If u dont have contacts or bad eyesight then wear a cute pair of prescription glasses that u borrowed from your friends! that will definately blurr ur vision, but u might get a headache if u leave them on too long. worked for me,no harm in trying!
@kaka135 (13452)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 09
Well, I am quite nervous when speaking in public, though I can also be talkative in front of my friends. I think the method to overcome it is to have more practice. During my high school time, I knew myself being nervous even though I stood up in the class and spoke sometime, so I always took the opportunity to volunteer whenever I had a chance to speak something in the class, and I volunteer to take part in the speech contest too. Of course, I still felt a bit nervous, but the more I practice, the better I felt. Also, when we are well prepared on the speech we are giving, then we'll feel less nervous. So, I think practice and well prepared will help to overcome the nervous.
• United States
13 Feb 09
Oh yeah, I'm definitely nervous with public speaking. I hated having to do presentations in front of the class when I was in school. I've never been good at public speaking. If it was something that had to be memorized, I would freeze up and forget what I was supposed to say. Knowing that everyone was looking at me didn't help, and made me even more nervous. Hopefully I'll eventually stop being nervous on the times that I have to do public speaking.
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
I think i Do!:) specially when its in a special and sensitive matter! I really don't like to talk anything about it when it comes to sensitive ones.Cause for me it's better to keep it inside the house or in a private place than spoke it loud on streets. And also,depending on what topic or to whom I'm talking to.If the person is really clever and talking so many kinds that i really don't know im too shy to response,or to ask cause i'm scared I might got wrong.:(
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
13 Feb 09
I am very nervous when speaking in front of others. My first advice would be relaxation techniques (like meditation). I've found when I get nervous my brain does not function properly. If you can calm yourself down it will help alot. The more you speak in public the less nervous you will get too. I remember when I was in the 8th grade I had a teacher that said he was going to get me out of my public speaking fear. He would make me get up in front of the class all of the time and by the end of the year I was at ease. In fact we had the choice of doing a long written report or a short oral one at the end of the year. I got up and gave an oral report, voluntarily. Unfortunately after I got out of the habit the nervousness returned. Haven't done in public speaking in years but I've since learned about meditation and it is very good at quieting the mind.
@jimmysun (401)
• China
13 Feb 09
well,me too. I am very nervous when giving a speech or a presentation in front of people,when do that, I can't speak flently and my mind's gone blank accompany with hands sweating but when I am with my friends they say I am change to a talkative person,but I am no such kind of feeling. I had ever got some advices from my friend:1,prepare carefully what you wanna say 2,write it down and recite it,practice more in front of your friends 3,when giving speech in front of group people, staring straight ahead instead of looking at them, and just consider them as a mirror
@dexterous21 (1180)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
When I was younger, I am very shy. I don't like to speak in front of many people. I feel like everybody will criticize me after it. But I was able to overcome it. I practice to speak in front of a mirror. I read books to improve my speaking skill. And most of all, I developed my self-confidence.
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
we are the same.. I am also very talkative when I am with friends. I even talk loud and have a boisterous laughter but when I be given a speech in public? I feel so nervous. I have mental block. I don't know what to say even if I have an outline? I can't concentrate on it. Specially if all eyes were focused on me? the more I am lost of what to say.
• Canada
13 Feb 09
Same here... I am fine infront of family and friends but when i gotta do a speech it get nervouse and I cant speak fluently but when i try to hard my leg really starts to shake. I try to focus on other things when I speak and just read off my paper and it works.
@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
13 Feb 09
I am terrible at speaking in public. I try to avoid these situations at all cost. I have heard that some people will take something in their pocket to hold or play with. But other than that I am no help. But I understand how you feel.
@hhlylily (14)
• China
13 Feb 09
I do have the same problem with you. I think the only way to overcome it is to diliver more speeches in public so as to set up self-confidence.And you know why we're always nervous,just cause we care more about whether we do it well or not and others consider we do well or not. So,relax when in front of people and believe in self . And I'm tying do it now.
• United States
13 Feb 09
I get very nervous when I am in public. I cannot stand speaking to a crowd and had a lot of trouble when i was in school.
• Canada
12 Feb 09
it depends which public i'm talking to. if its just classmates then i'm surely fine with it. i had all my life speaking in front of them so it doesn't scare me anymore. but if i speak in a larger group, like in front of the whole school body or anywhere outside school, i surely am afraid of it. especially when i haven't prepared or practiced for it and when i forget to write some notes to use as a guide, i'll prolly get screwed.