14 kids....could you deal with it?

United States
February 11, 2009 11:28pm CST
what do you think about the woman that just had the eight baby's around the end of last month? I seen an interview with her on tv last night and to tell the truth I don't see how shes going to be able to handle all the children. She already had six more at home between the ages of 7 to 2 years old. Shes living in a small house, hasn't got a job and drawing food stamps for the ones she already had. I just don't think I could handle all them kids at one time. How would you fill about raising 14 kids at one time?
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@maximax8 (28570)
• United Kingdom
12 Feb 09
I am a teacher so I have no trouble teaching a class of thirty five to seven year olds. However I think having a small number of children of my own would be the best choice for me. I have two sons and I would love to have a daughter. I would be able to cope with twins or triplets but not a higher number of babies all at once. If I had children of 14, 13, 12, 11, 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 that would be fourteen children. In that case I would need a very large house. If I had children aged 7, twins of 5, 4, 2 and 1 that would be enough for me. To have 8 babies at the same time would be impossible for me. I wish the lady lots of luck.
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
12 Feb 09
It does seem hard to have to deal with many children at once. The fact of children so close in age would also prove to be a hardship for me. I just have one at this time. I have a five year old. To have four or five more his age would seem incomprehensible to me.
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• United States
12 Feb 09
I hate to even think about what shes going to be having to do. Just think about the changing all them dipers, the bottle feeding, and so forth. All I can say is this woman will need all the help she can get.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
12 Feb 09
I think that I could handle it if I was in that situation, but I would not choose to be in that situation. I am raising three children on my own and I am fine. If I had more it would be fine too. Here there are many families living off the land for much of what they have. Many families had 12 to 16 children anyways. Not all at once but still there are many big families out there that are self supporting. I came from a family of 6 myself and if I could still have children I would likely have more as I love children and love being around them. Since I can't have more instead of fertilization I got a job at the school. Now I have 300 students I can nurture and care for. I don't think that this woman did the right thing by having so many children when she knew she could not pay for them.
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• United States
12 Feb 09
I love kids to but you couldn't pay me to have that many kids at one time. I believe it would drive me crazy because its not 14 kids at different age groups to were some of the oldest ones could help look after the youngest ones. There will be eight babies in the house all a once.
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
12 Feb 09
There are a lot of big families out there that seem to be making it quite well. That could just be the kind of thing some people want to do in life. They want to raise a big family and they don't feel much pressure. The fact that someone having more children and knowing they can't take care of them properly or pay for them just does not seem right.
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@irisheyes (4373)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I couldn't cope with it but I wouldn't put myself in a situation where I would have to and neither would most non delusional people. This is one of those sad stories that you just know will not have a happy ending. Hate to say it, but I think it might be better if the state took the children immediately so they could find good homes for them while they are infants. They are going to wind up wards of the state sooner or later anyway because that woman is a mess. As for the expense, I think that the clinic which aided this pregnancy should have to pay the entire hospital bill. They were irresponsible and unethical and the State of California shouldn't have to pay this one.
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I can understand that you couldn't cope. I don't think I could either. I have my hands full with just one child. Imagine all of those kids at once! I wouldn't ever have put myself in a situation like that either. I feel so sorry for the kids sometimes.
• United States
12 Feb 09
Sad but true. The expense will most likely be pass off to the tax payers in the US. And whats going to happen if some of this babies has something wrong with them because of their low birth weight. How is she going to pay all the medical expences.
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
12 Feb 09
I beleive that she has a big heart to handle so many kids at one time. I think I will go mad even with the thought of having eight children. HAts off to her strength despite the fact that is financially not very sound.
• United States
12 Feb 09
My self, I think the woman's a little off in the head. I think she should have really thought this through before she did this, she already had six to care, so to me the woman just wasn't thinking about them at all when she had this done, she was only thinking about her self.
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@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
12 Feb 09
I must say kudos to that woman for wanting more. Id be rushed off my feet with the six prior ones, actually I got scared bringing up just one kid, I can imagine what she must be going through. The fact that she is being taken care of by the government with respect to food may be a factor that does not deter her from having more kids. Here in my country, you give birth to as many mouths as you can feed or stay hungry, one and all. No help whatsoever from the government.
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• United States
12 Feb 09
That's the way it should be in this country,There are some people in this country that depends on the government to feed their family. If it wasn't for food stamps their children would go hungry even with this some people sill keep having kids.
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@srganesh (6348)
• India
12 Feb 09
Hey!What do you say!Has she given birth to all those fourteen kids or adopted?I can't get a clear picture with your post.Anyhow,it will be a tough task for her to raise all those kids without earnings.What about her hubby?What is he doing?I think she shall access some charitable trusts to get funds to raise such a huge family.Really I can't imagine managing a house with fourteen.May god bless her not to get one more!
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• United States
12 Feb 09
Shes a single woman that went and has implants put in her. All fourteen of them are her kids. Her first implant was in 2001, after that she gave birth to 5 more. The last two children are twins. Then last years she had more implanted and gave birth to 8 more. She had a men that she knows to donate his sperm for her at a sperm bank.
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@Island_Geko (3760)
• Canada
12 Feb 09
All I can say if you can fincancially handle it, have the house to take care of them then go for it. But this women is a single mom, who has her parents in their retirment years to take care of, plus other children, a small house and a few screw missing. I feel sorry for the children and think the Doctor who did this pregnacy should loose his licence and nt be able to practice.
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• United States
12 Feb 09
I really think that the doctor should loose his license also. He should have though about how many children that this woman already had and their welware.
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• Philippines
12 Feb 09
Wait raising 14 children is not a joke, because you have to earn money to supply their needs and they have to be sent in school. Right?
• United States
12 Feb 09
yea, you know where she's going to end up getting the money don't you. tax payers that's were.
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@1corner (744)
• Canada
12 Feb 09
I personally can't and won't do what, so I wish her all the best. She's gutsy, that's all I'll say about her. It's both sad and funny that her own mother has been blasting her in the news too for having 8 more. She says she's really tired of taking care of her grandkids, and if you've seen the inside of their home, you'll understand why. Hope Ms. Suleman gets a well-paying job right after she graduates. She'll definitely need it.
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• United States
12 Feb 09
I don't blame her mother she only had one child and raised her and now shes having to take care of all these children all of a sudden. Like I said before, this woman wasn't thinking of no one but herself.
@1corner (744)
• Canada
13 Feb 09
I should've re-read my comment before submitting it. Fist sentence was missing a part - "...what she's done, so I wish..." Right. I agree. Her decisions were selfish, not to mention, irresponsible. Her parents have been helping her and her kids all this time, then goes and have 8 more. How she was able to afford the IVF treatments when she's on student loans, I'll never understand. And I can't imagine how 14 kids could all be properly cared for in their current house.
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@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
That will be really tough. It's hard enough to deal with just one child. I hope the government is giving them support. I don't think she will have a job real soon, she doesn't have enough time right now. The children are pretty young too, is 7 the eldest? I hope her the best.
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• United States
12 Feb 09
Yes 7 years old is the oldest one. I don't think she'll be getting a job anytime soon ether. To top it off 3 out of the six children that she already had has some type of disability and they say that most likely some of the new babies will to.
@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
Oh that is really sad. I hope that she won't be planning to get pregnant again.
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@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I have a 5 year old, and a newborn (2 months old). I love them dearly. But I am grateful for an extra pair of hands now and again. With 8 newborns,and 6 under the age of 8, are you kidding? I think I'd need a padded room. If some of them were older and could lend a helping hand, it might be different. I consider myself a strong person. But that would break me in a short time.
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• United States
12 Feb 09
I think that's my whole point, I don't know where shes going to get all the help that she will need. I'm like you I'd be in the nut house. Can you just picture it when all them babies start crying all at one time. It would take about an hour just to feed all of them.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
12 Feb 09
You need a lot of energy for that I would imagine. The difficult part is the lack of money and the shortness of temper her stress is going to give her. This lady needs help, lets put it that way.
• United States
12 Feb 09
I think this woman needs help in a lot of ways.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
12 Feb 09
This women has no sense of reality! She has no clue what she has gotten herself into! I just read another story on her. She is recieving assistance for 3 childen! One has ADHD ,one is autisic and the three sounds like it is autisic too! She says that isn't welfare! Yes it is! She'll have to go on tolal assistance! I can't see her being able to afford raising 14 childen with out it! She also wants to go back to school and get a degree in counseling! She allready has $50,000 in loans she allready owes for schooling!It is also apparent she had all her vitro injections paid by insurance! That is nuts! I hope the state keeps an eye on her and the 14 childen! I can't see anything good coming out of this! My wish is all 14 childen go up for adoption! They'll be better off in the long run!
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• United States
12 Feb 09
Sorry I took so long to reply back I just got back on. The worry that I have is if she already has three children with disabilities then what makes her think that some of the other babies wont have something wrong also. Your right, how is this woman going to go back to school and be able to take care of all them kids. Who's going to look after them while she's doing this and also how is she going to be able to pay back a student loan, shes not going to be able to work for a while.
@jjstare (97)
• India
12 Feb 09
Oops.. fourteen kids for a mother, cant imagine how she is going to manage. Its going to be a hectic and terrific job for that mother. At this current situation and economic crisis caring more than a kid is impossible and dont know how she is going to managed all the kids till they grow to mature nature.
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• United States
12 Feb 09
Only was shes going to manage all them kids is by having a lot of help from other people. Ones that are willing to give the time and then she's going to have to have lots of money also for the things that she will need.
@K46620 (1996)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Well it is just fine to have 14 children, but it is not wise if you know you won't be able to provide for them all. I would not like it for someone to do this knowing they would have to depend on tax dollars. But who knows, with all this attention she will probably make some money from TV.
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• United States
12 Feb 09
they say that the womans not making anything form talking about this on tv but I think after while people will start donating items and money. Who knows she could wind up even getting a big house out of this to.
@happymommy3 (2013)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I could not deal with 14 kids. I only have 3, ages 9, 7, and 5 and I go nuts just with them, lol. I can't even fathem in my brain how it would be having 14. I don't know what this woman was thinking when she decided to have more when she already had 6, gosh, makes you think she might be just a little crazy. I don't know I'm not the judge but it's a shame that she would be that selfish to have more because the kids are gonna be the ones suffering. I don't agree that it's her families responsiblity to help her because they are her own kids but what other choice does she have? So Hopefully she can get some good support from her family so her kids will be raised well.
• United States
12 Feb 09
I agree with every thing you said, I think she is a little off, just because she was an only child shouldn't have made her want to take it this far. So yea I think she is a little crazy and also selfish to.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
12 Feb 09
well in this story, i blame the doctor, he could have and should have said no. i do know a couple of families that have 9 children and i seriously dont think i could do it. i dont have the energy, plus my hubby and i didnt want to be outnumbered by kids! :-)
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• United States
12 Feb 09
I blame the doctor to, your right he should have talked her out of it. I know I wouldn't have twice about it, 6 would have been enough for me.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
12 Feb 09
In my oppinion this person need help and fast. Over 40 years ago I used to live in a small village[ Im not going to say where]where this couple had 12 children, the oldest a boy, followed by twin girls, and after that she gave birth to 9 more. Husband was away working so every time he came home there was another pregnacy, this woman was beside herself, she could not cope with all this children, the girls[the twins] used to do the house work[and going to school] and the older brother would cut the wood for the fire and keep the place clean that was hard work for all of them, I was 17, and I would go and make the bread for the day, and iron nappiess because then there were no dispossable nappiess [ and if there were any ] they could not afford it any way. This wonderful woman got pregnant once again, up to this day I do not know what really happen, she was sent to a hospital, the unborn child, no one knows what happened to it.A week later the dad was giving the children away[reason?] I can't keep them. So I still ask my self today why in the wordl this man could not be responsible for his own act. At the end of the day it's take 2 to tango. In memory of my dearest friend ever. Alba
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• United States
12 Feb 09
That is so sad, people like that should be ashamed of them-selves. I sure hope each of them were given to someone that will love them and care for them. Did he keep any of the children or did he give all of them away?
@ddfreedie (690)
• India
12 Feb 09
14 kids...at a time...whoa...managing 2 itself is a big task...and if its 14...i really donno...hats off to the lady if she does so
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• United States
12 Feb 09
I had three, that's all I could take care of. And to me that was sometimes hard.
• Saudi Arabia
12 Feb 09
its very difficult to raise 14 kids at the same time... lots of financial needed...:)
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• Philippines
12 Feb 09
yup!!!!! thats righT!!! its a risky thing to raise all of them at the same time!!!
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