Problems Living in A Rent House ...

Indonesia
February 12, 2009 3:01am CST
I have a friend that live in a rent house because of her work, there is also several people living together at the house .. Every morning My friend need to get up earlier before they wake up, to bath, because if she late a little bit, she will lose the opportunity to take a bath, the problem is she sleep late in the night because she needs to go to bathroom at night,and because of that she lack of sleep Lately .. the people in that house start to fed up and annoying, they start talking about my friends behind her and even ill bred with her though they are younger than her .. My friend know it and she telling me while crying, i'm confused how to handle this and help her, what should i do to help her? Thanx
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10 responses
• China
13 Feb 09
I donot know how to assess this matter. I have bought a house one years ago, to resolve stress of loan, i divided the house into two parts. one of them is rent to a couple of lovers. so far, we are living peacefully and friendly. when i am on business, they will help me look after my little cat. I donot only make them as tenant, but also make them as neighbour. as neighbour, we could often help and chat with each other. so, i think first of all, your friend should inspect himself if he really disturb the others. he should communicate with others, they may change impression to your friend. if it isnot your friend's mistake, i suggest he should change a house.
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• Indonesia
14 Feb 09
It's her actually not him ... she said to me that she doesn't want to make friends with people who don't respect her, years ago before she move to the city, she makes a good friends with her friends in the rent house, because the new comer show respect to her by introducing themselves to her, but in this new place, all of the new comer just make a silence with her, they need to be flattered first by the old occupant ... So you can guess that, they need to be respected first before they respect you, in fact that they are the new comer, not my friend!
• China
16 Feb 09
so i want to know why your friend change the house to get rid of these people?
• Indonesia
16 Feb 09
i don't get what you mean .. do you mean why she moves from the first rent house? she moves from the first rent house to the current rent house because of work
@JOIEMARVIC (2342)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
I am also renting a house,well a dorm and i am sharing my room with 5 students. my only problem with them is the way they always go hoome late at night or may i say they often go home at wee hours in the morning, which I find very inconvenient and sometimes irritationg since I am the one who opens the locked gates for them. but lately they do not spend time roaming around till morning and we all get pretty well together now. i finally have the sisters I longed to have since I am an only girl in the family. In your friends case, I guess it would most advisable to find some other place to rent. if your can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen, that's how the saying goes. I feel its not that healthy for her, emotionaly and physically to live with whom she is living with right now. I do believe there is a place for her where she can rest well and blend with her room mates. i hope your friend will be okey soon.
• Indonesia
16 Feb 09
Hi Joie! 5 students is a lot in one room! don't you feel too crowded? Well that's what i thought now, to move to another house, but three years living in the house, just feel like leaving your own house i just doesn't like that what is the new comer been doing to her, for example just this night when she fullfill her bucket to bath in the morning, which is so heavy for her, then somebody just use the water that she has been collect without any permission from her, though my friend is already write her name on it Are they blind ?? Fuh .. I can't wait the next year to come by the way tq for your pray :)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
Hi maxilimian. it is really hard renting a bed space in a house. You have to deal with different persons with different personalities. But if it really needed, why not rent a small house, wherein you are the only one there or gather up some FRIENDS who are also interested in renting a house. At least if you are with your friends, your personalities match already. Tell your friend, to find another place. there also places there who have house rules maybe that can help her. take care
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• Indonesia
16 Feb 09
she doesn't want to rent a house for this time, because she can't afford it right now, and i already have plan in the next year, to have her move to my new apartment, hope everything will be ready just in time Tq for your support
@bamrahkirti (1819)
• India
13 Feb 09
Ya it is very difficult to adjust with strangers because they do not pay heed to your priorities and opportunities.She is suffering because she is living in a rented house with too many people who do not want to understand her needs and are not ready to adjust with her. If she is earning good then she must find a separate apartment for her or find a room which has attached washroom. Wish her luck and hope her problem will come to an end soon.
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• Indonesia
14 Feb 09
Absolutely right! but the problem is they don't want to adjust with her, remind that my friend is the old occupant and almost of the other people are the new comer ... For the mean time, she will ignore what they are talking and doing, until she moves to my apartment next year, friends ... i need your support and pray .. tq
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
Living in a shared apartment is indeed tough as you need to cooperate with other boarders.. it's best if she moves out and find another place where she can enjoy her privacy.. and yes, if i were in her shoes, i wouldn't allow other people to tell ridiculous things about me.. i mean, taking a bath isn't a big deal at all so please stop messing up with me!
• Indonesia
13 Feb 09
me neither, but it's hard to leave the house that she lives for almost 3 years, and in fact they're all new comer which is less than a year ... it's just we loose on the battle you know i'll said to her to get angry back later if they still looking for problem with her ..
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
The best solution is to get another place to live. If she is your real friend why not share your place to her. It seems that you dont have any household living with you. Why not have her live there. This will be good for her and for you, because you'll have a companion.
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• Indonesia
13 Feb 09
i will if i have, but i'm living with fam's for a while, maybe the next year i can live together with her, because i have an apartment that needs to build, meanwhile she must live with those jerk, so what's your suggest to face it in this year? maybe you can give some schedule time management?
• India
12 Feb 09
It is very difficult to live in a shared house. i prefer to be independent. It is better to get one room with an attached bathroom. it becomes much easier and you can do as you please. If your friend is not bound to stay there she should shift to some alternate accommodation. She should not tolerate silly people talking silly things.
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• Indonesia
13 Feb 09
Yea it's difficult .. it's hard to find that kind of house, by the way i wonder who will clean the bathroom later the problem is she likes to stay at the house but she doesn't like the new comer annoying people, but i think you right she should ignores those silly people
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Hey max! Why don't you tell your friend to try talking to these people and ask them what the problem is. Tell them if they have a problem with her to tell her to her face! Sometimes when you confront bullies they stop talking about you! It is really hard when you have a living situation like that. But, instead of your friend doing nothing about it and just crying tell her to try a different approach! I'm telling you I have done this and it shames bullies into keeping their big mouthes shut!
• Indonesia
13 Feb 09
i did, but she is too afraid and don't want to fight with them, in fact i said to her, why don't you just get angry back with them, and she said, i don't wanna fight with those little child ... i know it doesn't feels good to fight with other people, but i think it needs sometimes, tq for your suggest, you support my opinion to her, i will tell her again to angry back
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
12 Feb 09
If one day God appears in front of me and asks - 'dear tell me what would not you like to have on this Earth?". I will promptly answer " Lord give me a boon so that I am not forced to live in a rent house...". This the reality. And if the house happens the same one it is worse than hell. Literally you have no freedom. Just listen and cry your fate and at one tine would feel that you would be better off on the street itself. Now if you are in such condition and this has prolonged try to find our a house which is separate and the owner liver elsewhere. Then you would be less troubled and at the best have a house of your own if means support you.
• Indonesia
13 Feb 09
It's not cheap and easy to find a new house, by the way in this house the owner living at the other house, the problem is with some people who lives together with her, if your suggest is to look for another house we won't do that, because she already lives in that house almost 3 years, and other who is jerks in that house is new people, less than one year ..
@KUSHANK55 (2437)
• India
12 Feb 09
well dear these are problems one learns to handle by and by. ignore the barking dogs and better treat them with a stick in case of need!! she has to handle . the people always will say something or the other!!
• Indonesia
13 Feb 09
So do you mean just ignore them and concern only about personal need?