I made my best friend cry, but I had to do this!

Lithuania
February 12, 2009 8:55am CST
First I wanna thank you all for responding my previous discussion about dating a man who returned from prison.I'm grateful for useful advices and I don't regret I started this thing because it was really important. Reading your responses I decided to call my friend who works in record centre and check that name , and you know...that guy was sentenced for rape of 16 year old girl...He was 27 years old at that time.And some jewellery of the victim was stolen also.The girl's arm was broken.We managed to find a small article about that event in local newspaper archives. Worse than I expected. We decided to tell this her family first.Now she's at home.Extremely sad, but safe.The new friend keeps calling on her cell phone.They've already made love in her rented flat.It won't be easy to get rid of him if she decides to. I think she'll need a psychologist. Maybe she hates me.I don't care.I'll never let anyone hurt my friend or family. For those ladies who live with ex-convicts:you have right to defend your lovers, husbands, sons and brothers - you have that right.It's the right of love. But I have right to protect my friends and family too. Thank you. Silvercoin.
3 responses
• Canada
12 Feb 09
BRAVO FOR YOU! NOW IMPORTANT TO TELL HER THAT SHE has a huge probabilty that she may end up a next victim because one day or another he will strike again and she may be the one! Now, important to tell her that he wasn't honest. He didn't tell her..you know why? BECAUSE SHE WOULD HAVE FLED! WHAT MEN DO..IS GET THE GIRL TO LOVE THEM, SLEEP WITH THEM AND WHEN THEY ARE HOOKED..THEY KNOW THE WOMAN WON'T LEAVE..good chance she won't. Who told me..a MAN.. he said we can recognize women with good hearts so they are easy picks. Her parents must get on her case and tell the guy if they find him a foot near her he will get arrested because in court it is a felony NOT TO SAY YOU WERE A CONVICTED CRIMINAL.. Have her block his number NOW..don't give up on her. Her parents must suppĂ´rt her and make her see the danger she is in because women always think that IT WON'T HAPPEN TO ME..trust me it does. If I was her I would be so angry I would go to the cops and have him arrested for tricking me. I would have a restraining order put on him.. That is a problem with people not listening to God's Word and not obeying the Ten Commandements and also not to fornicate before getting married. Trust me you would not be a friend if you didn't do it. I would let everyone in town know that he is and make sure all my friends knew it and for them to spread the word around so he leaves town. Trust me..you will here about it again..because am sure he will do it again. So tell her to go see the cops and make a complaint. See if in your town there is a law about this. Call the cops yourself and ask then tell her. Tell them what you know, who he is and that he didn't tell her he was a criminal and that you are afraid for her. What is the next step. He has made her a victim already and trust me he might just rape her because she dumped him. So if he hears that the cops were called he will stay away altogether. I didn't have a good feeling when you came on with this and I am right. Rapist are power seekers..it isn't the act that thrills them..it's the fact that you will never forget so he is imprinted in your mind forever..then moves on to the next victim. How old is he now? Have her parents answer her cell and tell him that they called the cops and if he comes near her again he will be arrested. BRAVO..SILVERCOIN..
• Lithuania
12 Feb 09
I think girls should stop being a victims and keep little dirty secrets for themselves.The society has the right to know who is who.You're right, she's already a victim because she was brainwashed.My friend's a cop, he knows what to do.Merci beaucoup.Thanks a lot.
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• Canada
12 Feb 09
I was raped by my godmother's boyfriend. To make a long story short my x-boyfriend shot him for doing that to me. He was a known rapist so you see he hadn't been taught a lesson by going to jail. He will strike again..one day or another and the fact he didn't tell her is proof he still is guilty..as if he wasn't he would have told her. I always checked out the men I went out with and made sure they were not criminals. Every woman should do it. I say to a man..you have a criminal record? If you lie to me I willfind out because I check..trust me a few..disappeared quick.
• Canada
12 Feb 09
ABSOLUTELY..call your friend who is a cop..do it now if you can and get him to call you back. Find out if there is a law that if a criminal..a rapist doesn't tell a person that he was a convicted rapist if she cant make a complaint against him. Yes, he has made her a victim...to be raped..as he knows darn well that the truth will come out..sooner or later and am glad u did have a check up on him. You should start this kind of business for women..would be a great way to make money and trust me you will be surprised how many will pay you to do this. All women should check up on a man they interested in. I always did through friends and always asked for his number, address, where he worked etc etc..then I would check out if it was true..because many will pass off as somebody they are not. I caught a lot in my lifetime. And i still do..one was passing himself off as a doctor..ya..a doctor of lies..hahaha
@savypat (20248)
• United States
12 Feb 09
You may have interfered with her life, but I know you would never forgive yourself if you hadn't and something happened. If the relationship is strong enough it will withstand your effort and if so may all work out for the best.
• Lithuania
12 Feb 09
She's only 19. And we'll help her to work these things out.
@littleowl (7157)
12 Apr 09
Hi silver, you did right in telling your friend she had to know and know what the man is like, she may hate you for now but will thank you later..for her sake I really do hope she does get rid of him she doesn't need him in her life he could cause her harm...littleowl