What do you do when your surprise for your partner fails?

It oftens happens to me and my partner and it is really disappointing specially when you have given much effort for that surprise you prepare. Though I always make sure that it will not affect our relationship that much.

Even though I don't have a partner, I have encountered the same situation with some of my friends whom I really wanted to surprise for something, let's say a special event that really is special to them.. Sometimes, the surprise gets spoiled, one way or another, from the one who wants to make the surprise or the one who should be the one to be surprised gets to figure everything out even before the surprise happens. In such cases, I would often say that, "Okay, I'll try better next time" with a smile (^_^ )

Given the same situation, I would have probably done the same thing. So far, I haven't had any surprises that I missed presenting well because...I'm terrible at surprises and I'd rather give gifts or treats early :D I guess it's when I give gifts that surprise my boyfriend. Thanks for the response on my discussion!

Yes!Some times we plan to surprise but all will end in the other way.They won't listen to our explanations and the surprise we planned will be seen as an excuse.So,it is better to avoid playing surprises but providing surprise gifts.That will work better.

I feel sad on what happened with you but I guess your girlfriend should have understood when you explained. You should have told her your plan at least that would have made her feel better. Well in my case I haven't failed yet trying to surprise my husband because even though he knows I have something in mind, he does not know the exact thing I am planning. I was with him in some occasions when we were still friends that he never expected so my surprises were a success.

I sympathize with you,good mind has been misunderstood.If my surprises suddenly fail,I'll feel depressed.Now that I have failed my surprises.Tell my partner what I think at the first time and get her to forgive me.Do not add to a misunderstanding.Have a good luck,my friend.

It happened to me once when I set up a celebration for my husband's birthday. The surprise was the coming to the celebration of his best friend but I was the one surprised because the important guest didn't arrive.