What do you do when your surprise for your partner fails?

Philippines
February 12, 2009 7:16pm CST
Last night my girlfriend and I talked over the phone and she wants me to come go with her to a play. I just said that I might not be able to come but in the back of my mind I was really planning to come to surprise her. She was really very sad to know when I said I can't come. Then she got a little angry at me for not being able to come so I had to blurt it out just to calm her. So what do you do when your surprises suddenly fail?
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@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
It oftens happens to me and my partner and it is really disappointing specially when you have given much effort for that surprise you prepare. Though I always make sure that it will not affect our relationship that much.
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
Even though I don't have a partner, I have encountered the same situation with some of my friends whom I really wanted to surprise for something, let's say a special event that really is special to them.. Sometimes, the surprise gets spoiled, one way or another, from the one who wants to make the surprise or the one who should be the one to be surprised gets to figure everything out even before the surprise happens. In such cases, I would often say that, "Okay, I'll try better next time" with a smile (^_^ )
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
13 Feb 09
Yes!Some times we plan to surprise but all will end in the other way.They won't listen to our explanations and the surprise we planned will be seen as an excuse.So,it is better to avoid playing surprises but providing surprise gifts.That will work better.
@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
Given the same situation, I would have probably done the same thing. So far, I haven't had any surprises that I missed presenting well because...I'm terrible at surprises and I'd rather give gifts or treats early :D I guess it's when I give gifts that surprise my boyfriend. Thanks for the response on my discussion!
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@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
I feel sad on what happened with you but I guess your girlfriend should have understood when you explained. You should have told her your plan at least that would have made her feel better. Well in my case I haven't failed yet trying to surprise my husband because even though he knows I have something in mind, he does not know the exact thing I am planning. I was with him in some occasions when we were still friends that he never expected so my surprises were a success.
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@gzlgzl123 (224)
• China
13 Feb 09
I sympathize with you,good mind has been misunderstood.If my surprises suddenly fail,I'll feel depressed.Now that I have failed my surprises.Tell my partner what I think at the first time and get her to forgive me.Do not add to a misunderstanding.Have a good luck,my friend.
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
It happened to me once when I set up a celebration for my husband's birthday. The surprise was the coming to the celebration of his best friend but I was the one surprised because the important guest didn't arrive.