My Lot Discussions

@sunil_008 (1270)
India
February 13, 2009 10:18am CST
Hi, i am new to this site.though i have been here for the last 4 months but wasn't that regular before. there is something about the site or may be in general that made me to write this is. here i have noticed one thing if some woman or girl starts a discussion about any topic . all other members respond to it asap.and its especially about the other women members here too join her quickly. but when some male member starts it it takes time for the members to respond to the discussion. in the beginning i thought my discussions were not upto the standard that's why i am not getting enough attention for them.but when i tried to search the site and found that its just with quite a few other guys too. so, do the women here have formed a gang or what. and trying to put all the male members aside. is there any gender war going on in my lot?
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19 responses
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
14 Feb 09
zomg!!! He found out all about our gang!! How clever, Sunil! Yes, we are all conspiring against the males. We are taking over planet Earth. We don't reply to posts that are from men. Uh oh I broke the rule now that I have replied to you. If you want more posts change your name to something feminine. Maybe sunshine-girl or something like that. It will make your discussions flood with responses! hehe *wink wink* ;)
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
14 Feb 09
Hi, who's the head of your gang here. since you are doing it and now confessed too. i would like to more about it. when it started ?what is the real motive behind it?do i really need to change my name?why you hate men so much?
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Feb 09
hi there, i take it nikky was only kidding you. It's a sort of a sarcastic remark which means that there is no such thing happening here at mylot. See that "hehe" she placed there? It means she's joking. :-D
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
14 Feb 09
lol keep your investigations going on Sunil, you might a get a job in the FBI :) Boy is he clever!!!
• United States
16 Feb 09
I don't know what other women do, but if I have something to say I don't care who starts the discussion.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
16 Feb 09
Hi, please go ahead with it.you have the space...
• United States
17 Feb 09
There are times when the silliest discussions seem to get the most responses, but you never get a really good discussion going with these topics, just a few lines at best for the responders. The ones that I think do the best are the discussions that are either controversial and/or thought provoking. I know there are some people who get worked up over these discussions, but I find them to be more enjoyable than the "how often do you bath" type of discussions. Religion, politics and ethics are just some of the topics that usually get some really good responses. People have very strong opinions about these subjects and many think myLot is a good forum in which to share those opinions and women are as opinionated as the men.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
17 Feb 09
Hi, thanks for that valuable piece of writing.well, you are right about these things. discussions are hot when thought provoking. people wants a clear idea of some hot topic, and they argue to keep their point . but taking bath in bath room or in kitchen are not that interesting or provoking as a topic like this... i personally feel that my lot is a better forum where we can all raise some issue. and we know that we are going to get some good responses over the topic... thanks for your response i really appriciate that...happy my lotting...
@messageme (2821)
• United States
14 Feb 09
I guess I have not noticed this at all. I would have to say I think the majority of mylot is more of females so maybe it's just the majority responds first. As for me, I respond in the order they come to me. I don't pay any attention at all to whether the discussion was started by a male or female.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
14 Feb 09
Hi that's why we are feeling so much pressure to survive among the strongest of us will survive i guess. but with the help of friend like you i think i can cope here too...just joking...glad to know that you are not trying to form any gang here...:)
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
14 Feb 09
If we were you'd know it, you'd be the first we'd gang up on! JK
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
15 Feb 09
Ummm Another interesting finding here...:)
• United States
14 Feb 09
i wouldn't say that its a bias.. i respond to topics and discussions that interest me. Doesn't matter if its started by male or female. i never even thought about whether there was an internal conflict going on at mylot. i am here to enjoy the topics and discussions and do so in engaging and stimulating fashion. if there is a bias i guess i haven't seen it yet because i am just as new.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
14 Feb 09
hi, wait a few more days here...and visit all round the site...and we will have some secret discussions then...
• France
14 Feb 09
I just respond to discussions that interest me, I don't mind if they are male or female . Have a good day friend
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
14 Feb 09
Hi, thank you for your response...have a good to you too...:)
@sandymay48 (2031)
• Canada
13 Feb 09
So this is the reason you are secretly down on woman...lol...just kidding...with us all on here, you men cant get a word in edgewise and when you do, we dont hear you!!...lol Ok, so what was the question????...hehehehe!
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
13 Feb 09
Hi i don't know what to say now...well it was just a discussion nothing more...i was just enquiring about the response statistics of the discussions on here...that's it :)
• Canada
13 Feb 09
You cant be lost for words......lol...You must keep talking, your contributions are much welcomed and sometimes very funny. I am now going to go around and see how many male discussions I can contribute too... Actually you are very observant, I had never noticed that!!!...:) DOnt ever take what I say seriously, as I seldom am!!..
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
13 Feb 09
no, actually i was trying to help me out from a situation here that i felt then.don't take it seriously either. since we all are member here. so we have to support each other in a very fair way...and if you find any male discussion don't forget to bug me. coz i also want to participate in that too...:)
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
13 Feb 09
Well if you say you are new here, I am much newer than you. See friend that 'ladies first' concept is everywhere and possibly there is more traffic at their discussion. But what you told is a new experience for me as within this short span I have never noticed people thronging to the female stated topic more than a male started one. I think more people go by the nature of the topic. As a newbie I have stated posting topics and yesterday had put one and I am amazed to see so many of them responding to me. I am still not done commenting back all of them. Most people what I have observed go for the quality stuff and see how interacting the topic would be. I do not believe that there is any gender bias going on here. And the gang thing is far remote.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
13 Feb 09
Hi, if there is no gender biased going on here then that make me happy as well. the point that you and few other members said about responding to the topic of their interests sounds quite affirmative to me. but, what i have seen that whatever a topic may be of a female my lottian here the response is quite good as compared to the male member...
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
13 Feb 09
That there is no gender issue tagged here I am sure. And you know this fact friend that in any forum or anywhere women take the upper hand. This is not their fault but we males are responsible. If you compare the traffic there at a woman launched topic there would be more males than females. Hope you would start afresh now.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
13 Feb 09
I know that fact very well. but have also noticed that there is always a competition among women in their mind to capture as many soldiers as they can to lead the race...which is hard to find here. all women response to each other so well here. and they hesitate to topics of other members here...but the way i am getting some responses to this topic hope i can start a fresh now...
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Feb 09
hi sunil, there's also an element of luck here in mylot but sometimes, it's more of the right strategy and attitude. I'm still quite recent here at mylot so I don't really know the rules and strategies of the game, but it helped me when I started adding many friends, and posting discussions that seem interesting, and posting my discussions at lists with quite a lot of members already. But the key is to really be friendly, polite and honest in your opinion. You may even encounter undesirable personalities here but that's life. You just gotta go with the tide. And lastly, as far as I know, there aren't any gangs here or group of people who formed themselves against some mylot members. There's no gender clash as far as I have observed.Well there are people who have formed a certain camaraderie for sometime so that newcomers feel left out sometimes, but they'll turn out fine. Good luck
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
14 Feb 09
Hi thanks for that sincere comment.i liked the words that you have mentioned. see we are all here for certain reason for sure. and through discussions on various topics we are also getting informations, ideas as well as getting chance to know other members and people of diffferent coutries.so i think my lot is a great site which is allowing and helping us in so many respects. so, there shouldn't be such a thing here. but if you go to the unresolved section of the site you might find it little hard to digest that quite a few interesting topics are remaining unattained. my lot hase a huge number of members and let's say 50% of them are inactive but the rest are active.any member starts only 5-10 discussions everyday. still so many are remaining un attained. and if you see women starting some topic gets a quick response to it...:)
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
17 Feb 09
You call that GIRL POWER!!!HAHAHA.....just joking, okay? It's funny you noticed that. But I still think maybe more women are in mylot than men. But I don't know how true that is. But you'll be surprised that a lot of men here are the mylot experts, reaching very high ranks. No, sunil I beg to disagree that there are gender disparities here. Just keep adding friends, and posting interesting topics. YOu'll be in the circulation in no time. Good luck!
@JenInTN (27548)
• United States
15 Feb 09
I've been here for two months and although I have run into the occasional man against woman discussion,I haven't seen a gender war. If there were I wouldn't be involved in it anyway..I like men for the most part..lol.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
15 Feb 09
Hi i don't really want to confuse other's here.who don't believe there is such thing here. but i felt something at some point and asked for the members confirm the things...nice to know that you are fair with it...
@23uday (2998)
• India
14 Feb 09
Hi frnd, Now here you new to mylot.Good keep going responses,start a new discussions ratings,upload photo and add more friends.Mylot is good site and better. Daily posts good responses you will increase more money.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
14 Feb 09
Hi thanks for the response. i think i have done these things and adding more and more members into my buddy list. but it seems like that you didn't write about the main topic which i needed you to address here... please write your views about have you ever felt like that here...:)
• Philippines
14 Feb 09
I don't think there is an Gender war in this site.. people replies depending on what caught their attention or what intrigues them in the discussion.. When I reply to some discussion here I see to it that it concerns me and that I know something with the topic..
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
14 Feb 09
Hi that's so nice to know. women are always been choosy though. but thank you for responding this discussion. i am looking for comments from more and more women members here just to be reassured about the idea that i had developed here. that's the way people should reply to the discussions. but not replying to one but replying to the similar topic sometimes makes others confusing about their interest chart. well we all know that everyone gives their majot attention to the women...so that's why they are getting the more responses to their discussion which is natural and an obvious reason where hardly any man can do about it...:)
• United States
14 Feb 09
I'm a woman, I'm new to mylot, and I don't get that many responses to my recent topics either. I think it's just the discussion. Some will be interested and others will not. I don't think it has anything to do with gender. I think someone else once asked if it had to with content size, and I think that very well may be a factor. Some people want short sweet things to read, others prefer more depth. That's the beauty of an online community such as this.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
14 Feb 09
Hi, first of all welcome to the lot family. if we take the point that you are mentioning about the length of the contents and its readers and responders. then also we will manage to get some responders according to the choice.but see the unresloved category here. you will have a better idea of the subject that i am talking. since you are woman i would like to ask you something. do you prefer to respond to the discussions according to the gender issue or you will respond to the topics of your choice?
@jd107nette (1456)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
haahahahhahaha!!! I'm new to this site, started about two -three weeks ago... and I haven't noticed such stuff... I'm just enjoying all sorts of topics that all the other members are posting and It doesn't really matter if the poster is a male nor a female... so long as the topic is interesting! ^_^ I suggest you just be happy with mylotting! ^_^ hehe
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
14 Feb 09
HI, its great that you don't have such a feeling going through you on here. but there were quite a few postings i found out which are remaining unattained.but saw similar topics started by our fellow women members here were flooded with responses from both. well, it is quite obvious for the men to give somewhat more priorities to the women all the time.no matter what they say or do...but women are also in that league... happy my lotting :)
@bunnybon7 (39795)
• Holiday, Florida
13 Feb 09
no. i do think there are a majority of women here. but i felt the same way for the first 6 mths or so. i found out it takes quite a while to get enough friends and attention here to get a lot of responses. i've seen a lot of males get hundreds of responses on 1 discussion. you'll see. hang in there.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
13 Feb 09
Thanks for the positive note ...i am trying to hang in here ...hope you all won't try to throw me out here....just kiddin...but nice to know your story...inspiring one for me :)
@dawnald (84153)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Feb 09
If there is a gender war here, I wasn't invited to it. I do tend to respond to my friends discussions first and more of them are women, I guess. But other than that, I jump in on a discussion if it interests me. For your own discussions, try doing the following: 1. Always (or mostly always) reply to everybody who leaves a response on your discussion 2. visit other peoples discussions 3. add friends (even female ones lol)
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
13 Feb 09
Hi i think I do reply to my discussions. and do reply to the other members too. and have quite a number of female members in my friends list.still i am sensing this war type thing here. but i am sure the way members are participating in the board of this discussion will get definite positive results about my findings...
@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
13 Feb 09
Hi sunil. That is something I have not thought about until now. From my experience I usually reply to a discussion once it interests me. It will be something I look out for just to see if your findings are right. Maybe the women are winning the gender war on myLot, who knows lol. Great discussion topic.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
13 Feb 09
Hi, since i was not that active here.so i never realised it. but for the last few days i have been noticing that of my own as well as some other guys too. that's why i have raised this point to all the my lottians...
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
Hmmm... that sounds wierd mate.. I don't believe the gender of the discussion starter really matters a lot on the way other members would respond. I believe what matteres is how you present your topic and how interesting it is. Even if you're a girl or boy if your topic dont seem to suit my interest, then don't expect me to respond. Just my opinion mate...
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
13 Feb 09
Hi mate, i think i have already dragged you to my discussion.so, now you just can't blame me for that anymore...:)
@dieorfly (764)
• Slovak Republic
13 Feb 09
Interesting finding. I have not noticed it before. But there can be plenty reasons for that. I got a theory for this:) It is possible here on myLot is more women as men. Women are more talkative and they care more about women stuff. Men are generally interested in different topics which women do not find that much interesting, so they respond more in women' topics as men'. But I can be wrong and there could be a big secret conspiracy against all men here in myLot. I hope no:))
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
13 Feb 09
Hi well we ahave to observe more to find out the secrets lies within this community.if the number of women here is more than the number of men then i think things should have in our favour. but, in real it is not.have you heard the facts that women do like reading the men magazines?
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
no, i am not aware of any gender war going around here in mylot. i am a woman, sunil, but plenty of the folks around here thought that i was a guy since i am a licensed civil engineer in my country. maybe the fault was mine because i didn't stipulate that i am a woman. no, i do not get lots of responses, either. however, it will good for you to know that what is imprtant is that you get a response to a discussion. so once you get the first response to your posted discussion, there is no more worry there anymore. so, my friend, settle in mylot for good and do not put so much pressures on yourself. myself, i do not generate so many discussions of my own. i always prefer to respond to discussions. still, when i do this, i always meet it to payout month after month.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
13 Feb 09
Hi, well i have seen not only me but quite a few other guys here whose discussions are yet to be addressed.but in case of women lottians their discussions are filled with responses.though i am not pressurising myself into getting more and more responses.but, its an interesting statistics here. i am sure in your spare time if you go around the discussions you will also find this thing...:)
@zhuuraan (967)
• United States
14 Feb 09
That is a generalization and very untrue! I am a woman and very few of my discussions have gotten responses. Most of them have only gotten about 2, so I was flabbergasted when I finally got one with 13. I think the idea is that most myLotters respond to discussions from their friends first, so the people with loads of replies likely have hundreds of friends. I don't have that many friends yet, so my discussions tend to fall back without being looked at.