Why are there people who doesn't know how to say THANK YOU!

Philippines
February 13, 2009 8:55pm CST
When you are helping someone, are you expecting them to say thank you? Did you ever encounter someone who doesn't know how to say Thank you? How do you feel about it? Every time I ask for assistance I want to make sure that I say thank you. Did you also forget to say thank you to someone who helped you? I admit, I sometimes forget to say thank you when I am in a hurry. If I am helping someone, I am helping him because I would like to and not because I am expecting him to thank me in return. What I do not like is helping someone and in return that someone will ruin your life.
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12 responses
@mikeysmom (2095)
• United States
14 Feb 09
it bugs me when people are rude and do not have common decency. a please or a thank you go a long way with me. if i do something and someone does not say thank you i usually will not extend myself to them the next time. if i shop at a store or a gas station and they do not say thank you i then say, "your welcome!" and it drives the point home. there is no excuse for rudeness except to say that they probably were never taught manners at home in the first place. those things need to be taught to children so they know and understand how the world works and how to conduct themselves properly.
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• Philippines
16 Feb 09
I agree maybe they were not taught of good manners at home. That's why they grew up without manners and without ATTITUDE.
@smileonstar (4016)
• United States
14 Feb 09
I see all the time. I work at a coffee shop and sometimes kids ask to break a big bill or ask to get change, and I do what they ask but most of the time I never get the word "Thank you" back at all. sometimes, I dont care but sometimes I ask them back if they know how to say "Thank you". I do that because they dont have good behavior, so I dont think it would be matter if we teach them some good lesson.
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• Canada
14 Feb 09
I think thats a good idea to ask them if they know how to say "Thank You." If you ask them this question then they will think about it the next time someone does something for them.
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@xiaouie15 (290)
• Philippines
14 Feb 09
Oh that is terrible. Oh well this world is a ghetto. There are really people who doesn't even know how to express words of gratitude. Just be very careful when helping people.
@suspenseful (40331)
• Canada
14 Feb 09
It does not bother me. Some people are rather shy about saying the words and so they will do it with an action or will smile. I do say thanks, it is less formal than thank you, and I know that people maybe do forget. I figure that something horrible is bothering them and that they have so much on their mind that the words they want to say do not come out. As for someone being malicious to you, I do not like that. It means that their saying thank you is rather hypocritical, so I prefer they do not way anything.
@GemmaR (8528)
14 Feb 09
It's so important to say thank you when someone does something for you! It's just plain manners in my opinion! I hate it when I do things for my younger brother and don't get a word of thanks. He recently wanted to borrow one of my discs, but I didn't have a clue where it was, so I had to spend a week looking for it. I found it for him and left it on his bed, and he never thanked me. At dinner the next night I said you him, 'don't bother thanking me for that disc then' and my Mum said 'what do you expect, an knighthood?' so she doesn't understand just how annoying it can be when you don't get any thanks at all!
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• Philippines
14 Feb 09
I think it's basic decency to at least show some kind of appreciation for the help that we're given. even just a basic nod or a smile or a mutter of a simple thank you would do. I have also noticed this lack of ability to show thank you as well and it's sad that the people of today dont even care enough to at utter a short thank you. makes you want weary of helping sometimes.
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@blue65packer (11836)
• United States
14 Feb 09
There are alot of people who don't say thank yoy because they don't care! Some people do this just to use people. Believe me it has happen to me! That is why I seldom help people out!
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• Abbotsford, Wisconsin
14 Feb 09
A Thanks, a nod with a smile, Sign language thank you, pat on the back, or wink, or a double blinking all ways to say thanks... I do not care how but to me thank yous are sometimes the best form of payment so I feel they are very important as most of the work I do is voluntairly and that is the only payment I request is a smile and thank you, and hope they appreciate it. The other one that bothers me is.. I'm Sorry.... They say things like "My Bad" ... It means the same thing.. but that is irritating if you are not used to it. And definately a culture clash right now between teens and elderly.. - DNatureofDTrain
@hopejordan (3567)
• Australia
14 Feb 09
hi there janelacson i know people can be horriable its happened to me alot of times its not nice take care happy mylotting
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• Philippines
16 Feb 09
Maybe because they don't know how to say thank you because they are not aware of saying these things to others. Sometimes they are not appreciative of what to say to people. Anyway i use to anticipate that word when i knew i am helping , but since i get into another environment here and the culture is different, i have learned that there are things in life that we can't expect someone saying thank you or they are not thankful for you. Very sad to feel though even if you are helping them a lot. But on my mind, i would just say, well at least God sees what i did to them and now that i wont be expecting a word "thank you" maybe God has told me that already so from now on, i wont be expecting much on people, so that it won't be sad on my part because i expected a lot.
@nansheeca (216)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
well that is one thing that can really ruin my day, when i have done something for someone and not a single "thanks" is given. i really feel so annoyed but sometimes i just learned to be accepting that if you wanna help dont ask anything in return. but still, most of the time, if you really have breeding, schooled or not, you would immediately say thank you for a thing done for you.
@cher913 (25902)
• Canada
14 Feb 09
i tend to agree with you too. i find that it is often a lot of our daughters' friends. our daughters are aged 11 and 15 and are reminded daily to say please and thank you and quite often we pick up their friends for church or they come over for dinner and i sometimes say thank you quite loudly (so they hear me) if they havent said it yet. i find the younger generation (well some of them anyways) just dont say please or thank you!