You and Me Against the world????

@Theresaaiza (10100)
Australia
February 14, 2009 1:57am CST
Have you tried dumping, ending, or not pursuing a certain relationship because somebody or some people were against it? Somebody used to court me, but I didn't go on with it even if I liked him because let's just say I got affected with his friends being against me or anything. I just felt that he was too good for me and that I, on the other hand, have gotten into a few conflicts with some people because I've always been the speak-my-mind type. He wasn't like that. He was an everybody's guy. All these conflicting characters led to a love story that never happened. Too sad.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
14 Feb 09
"noone" is too good for you. i don't think anybody is better than the next.i would not have let his friends or yours stop me from having what i wanted. they were just jealous & interferfing. just remember noone is better than anybody else. i know alot od people think they are but to heck w/them.
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
23 Feb 09
hi A.L, thanks for that. I got a boost of self-esteem out of that. :-D Yes, it just dawned upon me one day that we may never really be meant for each other. So it was meant to happen. The way I was affected by external factors was enough proof that I was immature, and I'd never be able to fight for that something if I kept being affected.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
23 Feb 09
we all need a boost now & then. hold that head up & go for whatever u need to do. u can do anything if u want it bad enough.
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
23 Feb 09
and what if I don't need it enough?
@bombshell (11268)
• Germany
14 Feb 09
my pinoy bf was like that.since he is engineer and i have nothing,his family dont like me so i moved somewhere and thats how i met my hubby.so looks like it was my destiny to marry a german hotdog hehe
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
23 Feb 09
Your heart getting broken was actually a blessing in disguise, right? I mean imagine you marrying that engineer, you're probably 198 pounds by now, with 3 kids in a row, and you looking like a "losyang". *wink
@bombshell (11268)
• Germany
23 Feb 09
agree and maybe not only 3 kids. also who knows how many kilosss i would be since pinoy dont care if your wife fat or not!hehehe yeah thats the right words "LOSYANG!
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
27 Feb 09
so does it matter in germany if their wife stops being sexy?
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
14 Feb 09
Hello aiza! I am sorry about your story but you shouldn't be affected with what other said. I can say that my husband and I relationship is like "you and me against the world too" My husband's children (daughter and son) to his first wife is against with our relationship. But he said that it's his life and that he wants to be happy. That's what I thought too. I don't want to be scared when I finally join him in america because I know he is always there for me to defend me and care for me. As long as we both love each other, there's nothing to be worry about.
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
17 Feb 09
So how is your relationship with his family now?
• United States
17 Feb 09
well, his brother and his aunts and uncle are ok with me..I even talk to them on the phone..the problem is with the children..it's not really a problem actually because when they really find out how much I love their father, then there'll be no problem.
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
27 Feb 09
i see you have a lot to prove to them. Some of them thinks marrying a foreigner makes a pinay a gold-digger
• Philippines
15 Feb 09
I've been into that lovestory of yours.. and I was coward enough to give up everything just because my mom don't favors him. It would be very painful at first but you'll be used to it after. Maybe that is destiny. Just don't look back in anger..anyway everybody gets frustrated too.
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
23 Feb 09
Hi arrah, yes we tend to be cowards on many things too. That time, maybe I was just so concerned about maintaining a good image that it made me feel like his friends were destroying me as a person. So I dumped him.
• India
15 Feb 09
I think you really need to think about yourself first ,take your decission by your own listen to your heart not to others.the world has become very competitive so you will come across many people like that whom you do not like it for some or the other reason and may be even they don't like you for some reason and they would definietly try to affect you in many ways but because of them you cannot ruin your own freedom and your choice.So you need to be bold enough to face these kind of circumstances which is the part of life .You learn from your experiences so i feel do not repeat the same mistake again
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
23 Feb 09
Oh yes, there were so many things I did out of immaturity. Well maybe he realy wasn't meant for me.
• India
14 Feb 09
why do you bother about other peoples' opinion, they have no right to say 'no', ultimately what matters the most is suitability and compatibility with the both of you. if you and your partner are fine with the relationship then why bother about what others think / feel about it. anyway, I suppose all good(bad) things come to an end. I'm sure you'll find someone better and the people around your partner more supportive to your relationship.
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
23 Feb 09
Yeah, too bad, he went off looking for another one having gone tired waiting for me. Well, that's maybe how life goes.
@savypat (20248)
• United States
14 Feb 09
When these things happen it's usually for the best. mature love has a way of getting past most problems. When you are young you are much more affected by others in your relationships.
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
23 Feb 09
Yes, :-D we do make a lot of stupid decisions out of immaturity.
• Philippines
14 Feb 09
It's hard having a relationship that isn't favored by other people close to you, but I guess that is a test of how much you want it, and a reminder for you to think twice of even thrice why you like the relationship in the first place
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
23 Feb 09
I think trials are always a part of every relationship. So maybe that was my share of the trials. :-D Otherwise, everything wouild have been just perfect.
• India
14 Feb 09
It happens. You may think that a person is right for you, but circumstances dictate otherwise. It is just too bad. You often come under the pressure of your peers or parents to change the course of your life much against your wishes. You ignore your heart and listen to the counsel of others. You subjugate your own wants and desires to keep people happy. That is part of life.
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
23 Feb 09
Quite a bad trip, right? It used to be his friends, but now, with my new bf, it's my father who's against him. I think the guys I've gone out with all were really good ones. But something just keeps pulling me down.
@murugezh (273)
• India
14 Feb 09
I too have some number of friends like you had. What I'll do on these let them do on them own way but I'll have some limit with them and I'll not spoil my friendship with them because I know very well if we say about these thinks they won't be bother about our complaints. So let them go on them own way and keep our friendship up to date with them if they are good in our case.
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
23 Feb 09
I see. Yes, sometimes, our friends need our guidance too in picking the love of their lives. But then we can never dictate them as to who they wil choose.
@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
14 Feb 09
i think you have to learned from your experience. Think that its your happiness important and not the other people. Maybe you are matured enough to think what is good or not, what is best or better?. Think about your happiness girl, if people are against you think about it. Was is because they are jealous? or because they didnt like your attitude at all?. Well put it this way, we are into crab mentality, and every envious people will try to pull you down whenever you feel like your reaching the top. Dont be affected, think straight of yourself. and please start doing it now before its too late. Happy mylotting!!!!
@Theresaaiza (10100)
• Australia
17 Feb 09
Hi lucky, I'm quite happy with my present relaionship that I am sort of glad the previous one (the one in my story) didn't push through. Now, I've learned to value my own happiness. However, it's my father who doesn't approve of my present relationship., So this has become my next problem. Unlike before, I didn't give up on this one.