Living with depression...

February 15, 2009 2:30am CST
Depression is such a taboo illness.... and one that not many people understand unless they themselves have lived with it.... How would you cope if life just didn't feel worth living for.... ? I have suffered with it on and off since having my first child 18 yrs ago... it has varied in sevarity, from just having an off day to full blown wanting to end it all, there are alot of factors involved in my depression, it's very hard to say that it is down to just one thing... So many people tell you to just get on with things, pull yourself together.... all that kind of tosh.... but until you are truely ready to deal with the issues you will not move on. Ok, so I moved over 300 miles away from an abusive ex in order for my life to begin again, but it's worked..... I'm doing okay now and life is once again good, a single mum of 2 living in the beautiful country side that is devon. To all who do suffer with this illness, please DO NOT give up hope, as life does move on and things do get easier.... The time will come when you can walk down the street with your head held high and a smile upon your face.....
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@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
15 Feb 09
I do agree with you. I have also suffered with depression. My husband does as well and so does my mother in law. We all try to cope with it as best as we can. I am still waiting for the day when I can hold my head high and have a true genuine smile on my face. It is nice to see that people do pull out of these depressions. Thanks for sharing your story it will give people hope.
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@rmuxagirl (7561)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I try to give myself goals to live for, small goals each day. I have listened to music to try and help my thoughts, but it wasn't until I started dating my boyfriend that everything seemed to turn around because I felt like I was really loved and worth something to someone.
@Humbug25 (12551)
18 Feb 09
Hey there trinnity101 I am one of those people that claim never to have suffered from depression and would never say that I understand because I don't but would be very supportive of any friends or family close to me that were suffering from such a thing. I think that, that might be the answer for some people who suffer from depression is to move away from certain things that might actually be causing it and if that means moving to the other side of your country to make a new start then so be it. I wouldn't look at it as running away but aleaviating the situation. I am so glad that you made the move to Devon and you know where I am if ever you need me and you need to chat!! I am so glad it worked out for you too!
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 09
I've suffered with this myself and life wasn't that good! I was also on the antidepressents! I guess I continued to do what I enjoyed doing like regular cycling, this certainly helped and constant reading in order to escape reality for a short while. It is quite painful when others tell you to just get on with things when they have no idea themselves of what you are going through. The thing that I think is vital is that you are not pushed to move forward. I like to move forward at my own pace without pressure from others, this way I start to feel content inside. I guess I start to smile on the odd occasion now!! Welcome to My Lot. Andrew
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
I am glad for you and thanks for sharing as I am a little depress now. I hope like you I will hold my head up high and look at all these behind me.
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
15 Feb 09
I battle depression in varying degrees myself. I have been pretty far down, and have learned how to cope better with things. I do not currently take any medication for it, but I used to. To be completely honest, I am feeling like I should be taking something again, but one, I hate taking medication, and two, I hate asking for help, and three, I hate to admit it when I do need help coping. Living with depression is not easy at all, and even my family des not understand it most of the time. Things are easier for me than they used to be, and I know that as long as I keep trying they will get easier and I will climb out of my dark hole, but, right now, i is a battle for me. For me, the key is to constantly remind myself of how things used to be in my life and that I have come a very long way.
@weasel81 (2501)
• Australia
15 Feb 09
my partner was diagonised with depression 3.5/4 yrs ago, i remember one lot of medication he went crazy on, that was a really bad experience. he's on a different one now i still don't think it's quite right for him, he went on it cause that's what his bro used and i can't change his mind. its becoming more common in society, today. your finding out people have something, and had it for a number of yrs. i know one person who doesn't use medication, but know the signs he going to have a problem and goes in to hiding away from others until it passes. yes there is light at the end of the tunnel and you can make it there, there's loads of support out there. just keep going.
@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
15 Feb 09
Maybe, it is a normal thing for each of us to get depressed sometimes. But being eaten by depression is really hard. You have to help yourself to get out of it. You have to pray a lot. Read some books that will help you to have a cheerful disposition in life. Life is not perfect there will always be failure and heartaches that we will encounter in our journey but we have to think that there are always a lot of wonderful surprises from God. We just have to be strong and continue on believing that life is a wonderful gift from God. There are a lof of sick people who fights for their lives. So we have to be thankful that we are healthy and strong. Problems are designed to make us stronger and better persons.Always wear a smile on your face as soon as geting up in the morning and bear in mind that you are happy and believe me you will be.
@mmc_vip (24)
• Romania
15 Feb 09
depression is something you never get rid of.you can just adapt to it......belive me i know.
@lixiaobo (19)
• China
15 Feb 09
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@gelay07 (589)
• Philippines
15 Feb 09
I had experience how it was to be depressed. it was the worst time of my life. I thought it wouldn't end but i thank God it did. If killing oneself is not a sin i should have done it earlier in my life. I would like to think I am much better now, i know already how to control my emotions, and I try not to get stress so as not to trigger that part of my life again. Everyday, is a learning experience for me, I try to give more attention on the positive side of my life rather than the opposite of it. after all, life is too short to be miserable.
@bekosfc (235)
• India
15 Feb 09
Only he knows the serpents' sting, he who has been stung! Glad to know a success journey on this sickening sickness. You must be a brave woman! I applaud your courage! Keep going my friend! Our past wounds can be a healing balm for others in future!!
@scorpio19 (1363)
15 Feb 09
Hiya trinnity, I was a sufferer of depression all the way through my 20's up to having my last son at the age of 29, where I had serve post natal depression, I couldn't put it all into words here but needless to say it was an horrendous illness to have, especially after just having my son who I fell instantly in love with but I was unable to cope and be a mum to all my children, I felt inadequate to be their mum and I didn't deserve it even making simple decisions "like should I have coffee or a cup of tea?" would reduce me to tears, sounds silly but unless you have been a suffer other people have no comprehension how this illness affects a normally strong confident person. I eventually went to my health visitor, apparently she'd been waiting for me to crumble and admit I had the illness, I thought she was just been socialable with her regular home visits but no she'd spotted how ill I was so, kept a close eye on me, she offered loads of support, got me into see the doctor straight away, even rang my sister to tell her how ill I was, to see if she could stay with me for a while to help, from there I was given counselling, this is where I came to understand through talking with the counsellor the cause for my depression and through understanding, making sense of all my childhood (which was abusive and the reason I'd suffered all those years)I got well. It's over 10 years ago now and it was an awful time in my life but when it came to ahead and made me seek help, it was the best thing I could of given myself, to sit and face all my past fears and demons made me a stronger person. I'm writing all this and been honest, not to just give hope but to let people see there is life after depression or mental illness it can be gotten over quite successfully, with the right treatment, there is light at the end of that dark tunnel.
@ravend (661)
• Malta
15 Feb 09
And when that time comes, life would be so much better and beautiful than it was before the onset of the depression, like a flower blooming. Depression is so tough, only people who have been through it can know what it is. But I think its good that people tell you to fight it, rather than tell you to stay there. It can become a vicious chain, where the more people pity you the better you feel about being ill.