What make a woman?

@zandi458 (27954)
Malaysia
February 15, 2009 8:43am CST
Ask any men you're likely to get 'A good heart' as an answer. Even better 'Sexy' or the classic motherly. But those are rubbish, I don think women need to have JLO's body or Mitchell Obama intellect to be the most eligible bachelorette? The key things aren't inherent and a little effort, you can fill up your diary with meaningful dates. As a woman what makes you think you stand out in the eyes of your man? For you guys what strikes you in a lady? What should a girl not be?
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23 responses
• India
16 Feb 09
I prefer a woman who shows much love & care towards me.. I don't expect she must have Blue-eyes, blonde hair,etc., If she looks beautiful to my eyes, then that is enough. I expect care, care & only the true care from her and nothing more than this which i never got this from my life and its true nobody had understand about me and my character than myself. I expect her to be greedy for respect as i do.. I wish she must cheer up me during my defeats instead of asking questions for my defeat. I always wish that she must be confident on me & with my relation in any difficult times & position. If she likes pets, then i love that sense of humor too.. but i don't force her on things which she don't like... She must be very kind hearted person. but sametime, if i do any mistakes in my life she must ask me the with feelings & worries that why i am wrong instead of fighting.. There are still so many things which makes life beautiful.. But all things are upto us. we can make it... & we can break it.. It regards upon our activities. anyway, to say simple, "Understanding & Caring".. This is the thing I mostly expect from the girl who become as my partner in future. The thing which i wish from every woman not to do is, to avoid unnecessary laugh talkings with third parties and also the character of believing upon everyone. All my expectations are to be that she must be good human in speech and mannerism to outer persons and she must always satisfy me with her Care & Love. This pure things can be given easily by Mother & Wife.. But even that fails sometimes for some humans..
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
Wow... you have listed everything in your potential dream woman. As young as you are, your maturity supersede people much older than you. Boy, you are no 'greenhorn' when it comes to life, woman and love. I made no mistake in having you as my newest addition to my friends list. You taught not to underestimate the young people.
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• India
17 Feb 09
Thank you so much for your Appreciation, Mam.... I am happy!!!
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 09
Acknowledged and appreciated.
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• China
16 Feb 09
Enjoy her advantage, tolerate her disadvantage! I love my girlfriend, that's all.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
sure you love your girlfriend.
• India
16 Feb 09
you are really great i also want my life partner to be like you. who can proudly say like you. that i love my girl friend. you are really very good human. hey thanks for this answer of your about your girl friend. hey your girl friend is really lucky that you love her. i heads of to you
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@Dday50627 (362)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Interesting topic. The question of what a girl should not be grabbed my interested. I sat and thought about that. Do we first have to say what she perhaps should be? She should be HErself. She should be exactly who she is. A man meets a lady and perhaps to some she has less than "keeper" or "bring home to Mom" qualities. Maybe she is louder than the average girl. Perhaps she sings off key or isn't afraid to speak her mind. Maybe she isn't the girl of your families dreams. You fall in love and when you do, you fall in love with her exactly as she is. Then that is who she is and who she should always be. The saying "Be true to yourself" so very applies to this question. Oh I know, you were looking for specifics. Things like she should be a lady orm she needs to be the frail, shy lady that the world wants to claim as the perfect girl. She needs to be 5'6" and weigh in at 115 pounds. She needs to giggle and turn red. NO THANK YOU! I want a lady who says "this is me and I like me." She is a little crazy sometimes and she cries for no reason sometimes. She fights to maintain a certain weight and sometimes... She doesn't. So what. HEavy or light, quiet or loud, shy or outspoken, she is the lady you are in love with and there should be no reason to want someone different. What should she not be.? Someone she is Not! Something, she is Not. It doesn't get any more perfect than that and when my "mom" see's she makes me happy and completes me in the way that I complete her, she will smile and nod.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 09
Okay, a true woman in your eyes is someone who has no frills, no air and down to earth. She is supposed to make you a complete man and not pretentious. I hope this description is not far from your reach Darrel. Trust God and let Him connects you with someone He thinks can share your life, till the end of life.
• United States
17 Feb 09
did i say it all wrong???? :(
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 09
Couldn't I be more wrong then you? Isn't that what you're trying to mean. Maybe I can't see it better here and can't really read you.
16 Feb 09
In my opinion ,having the prode of being a woman is the first to make a woman.As a woman standing out of others ,you should have responsibility ,wisdom ,dependence and the most importance is to have your own personality .Be myself and i don't need to change myself for anybody .
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
That is to say, you are who you are and does not need to change to please anyone. That is good. Why should we change anywhere.
17 Feb 09
yes ,i don't like to change myself to please anybody .But sometimes it is difficult to do so .Such as I have to do as my boss told me ,I have to listen to my parants because I don't want to make them unhappy .That is my rule to do things but I also have my own priciple that I will not change my charater to please anyone as a woman .
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 09
That is good echowon, you stand by your principle. Keep it up.
@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
16 Feb 09
I feel impressed with the conduct, attitutde and behaviour of a woman. If she behaves nicely and respectfully and shows due 'care', even if she is 'average' looking that holds importance for me. I think how a person is from inside and how nicely she talks to you and comprehends your sentiments and your emotions, is far important to me, than her outer beauty. I believe that physical or outer beauty is temporary and it fades away with time, but the inner beauty is timeless and goes thorough out one's life.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
I see that you choose quality over physical beauty. Yes, if a woman has all the qualities in her she will never disappoint the man in her life.
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
17 Feb 09
Indeed qualities of a woman are more important to me than her appearance.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 09
smart of you dpkk. Your choice is class.
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@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
19 Feb 09
Any woman in my outlook should be the one of a loving disposition to her husband,a caring mother to her children,of assistance to her neighbors in times of need,an able administrator of family affairs........
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
19 Feb 09
Well, you have all the qualities of what a woman should be to earn her a noble prize.
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• Thiruvananthapuram, India
29 Dec 09
Well only if there is one given away for PATIENCE unlimited!
@bombshell (11268)
• Germany
16 Feb 09
confident makes the woman SEXY.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 09
Am always confident but never feel SEXY?
@bombshell (11268)
• Germany
17 Feb 09
awwwwwwwwwwwww
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
16 Feb 09
ya know even being with him over 42 years I never did find that out and now I cant ask him. I think it was I was independent , All he ever told me was he told his friend I was the one and he would take me with him when he left town and he did .
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
Unfortunately he never confess why he is so attached to you but it is good you found it out now. I am sure you have fond memories of him.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
16 Feb 09
very fond memories we had alot of good but we also had our fights but they didnt last long never went to sleep mad. always a kiss before going to sleep and when he went to work and when he got home!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
15 Feb 09
men don't know what they want to start with. there's an old saying around here they want their cake & eat it to. it's hard for most of them to find out anything about a woman except how she looks. i quit worrying about having a man a long time ago. i'm not saying i wouldn't like to have one but haven't found one that was worth the trouble of going through all the crap u have to go through to have one.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
Sometimes we feel loneliness seeping through our life and the need of a company through old age need to be carefully considered.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
16 Feb 09
that's just part of life. if i get lonesome all i have to do is think back & i get over it real quick. lol
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@jshekhar (1563)
• India
18 Feb 09
You are so very true. Initially, probably during teenage days, a man gets attracted to the sexy figure or the beautiful face of a woman but these things cannot be relied upon to last a lifetime. Neither do these serve as "the criteria" through which a woman must be judged before marrying her. Having been brought up in an Indian family, with core Indian values, I can say that good nature is the biggest asset a woman can have because ultimately she is going to be the home maker or home breaker.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 09
Who wouldn't be attracted to sexy figure or a beautiful face? It is the pride of every man and a showcase to all his buddies but she might only be a temporary friend as she is not a 'wife material' which every serious minded man should be able to pick and like you said 'good natured'. Yes a man should be smart enough to find a woman fit to carry out his genes.
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
As a woman... I never did think I STAND out from other women in the eyes of my ex-boyfriends and even in the sight of my ex-hubby. Well, if I did I would have been happy with a man right now. However, when I was in the middle of love illusions, I thought my man see me as a great woman because of my honesty, courage/strength and so-called intellect. I guess I was wrong. I think MY men doesn't value honesty that much, nor they like strength and intellect in a woman. I never really see myself as physically endowed though men seem to find me attractive in the first meeting until they realize I can think for myself. Darn!
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 09
Some men feel threatened by women who excel and who are more intellectual. At the end of the day the man in your life will surrender to you and could not be the real man he is supposed to be. He is being dominated by the power of woman.
• Romania
16 Feb 09
In my personal view it's how you make the other person feel. And that goes for both women and men. We love the person we see in the other person eyes. How many times we heard "She makes me feel happy", "He makes me feel beautiful"... it's how we see ourselves through their eyes. That's why we feel the most passion in the beginning of the relationship, when the other looks at us and sees only the good parts. We look in their eyes and love what we see. For me, as a woman, I want to accept and love myself because I don't think you can really love someone until you love yourself.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 09
That is a great saying you have here. To love yourself first before you can really love someone else. This should work fine for all women.
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
its like a question on a beauty pageant of what is the esense of a woman...well for me what makes a woman can be seen in totality...meaning of what kind of a person she is to her own kind..to her family and friends...genuine heart is what makes a woman to me...
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
I am learning the beauty pageant lingo, as I will be the next emcee LOL We can't pretend to be who we are not right. If the heart is genuine it will always make her a beautiful woman,
• India
16 Feb 09
according to me a beautiful girl is who love herself. and cares a lot about and love ownself like anything. i love myself the most. that is why i am saying in that perticuler way. but if we talk about women who have baby is women the best who love first her baby then herself. though i am unmarried cant understand the feeling of a mother but i know the beauty of newly born child
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
You will feel the beauty of motherhood when you cross the bridge.
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
16 Feb 09
I think what makes a women different is the fact that she can take care of teh family which most men fail to do. I think what a man looks in a women is teh quality that she can handle her family well when he is not at home. This is what makes a women special.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
Every woman should have that quality and is what all men should be thankful.
@riyasam (16582)
• India
16 Feb 09
my hubby loves my sense of humor.even,in the most trying circumstances,i try to smile it off.he says ,my attitude lightens his spirits.i am talking about myself,i donot know about others.
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
You hubby should be very lucky to have you, a lady with sense of humour is never boring and fun to share life with.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
16 Feb 09
i often asked that question a woman is made up of many margin she is a divine creation of habit.a woman is a creature of heart she can be easily scorned she loves hard.but can be easily tanlizied.she has many feeling about life she like to culivate the one she loves but hurt her once her heart has many cordors.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
Thanks for your output.
• India
16 Feb 09
i think the beauty is in his heart,and in its nature and behavior and if i have say it in one word it is "guts".every one can not beautiful in every eye even if we will collect a lots of people opinion then every one can not except a single women which is beautiful in every eye .i think good looking with guts are important factors to decide a women is beautiful or not. only good or sexy looks is for some moment but life is depend on the behavior,only sexy looks is just like a peace of meet,or i think a more and more beauties are available in red alert areas ,but any one can not marry with this type of girls,and not also spend a major time of his life why? because beauty is inside not outside,not a body or a few pound meet .
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
Thanks for sharing your views. I do understand what you are trying to say.
• India
16 Feb 09
According to me a lady or a girl should be good in character ,body language and well she should settle down in family members, her decent nature and the good qualities she has can only make a good women, A girl who is proud of her self and only likes in domaniting the men and just creates disputes on small issues and dosent want family members to stay with them and wants her husband to be away and not stay with parents will not but never be a good women
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
Every women should think that once you are married to your husband you will automatically become part of his family and not respecting his family is considered foolish and proud and that doesn't make her a good woman in the eyes of her in-laws.
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
what makes a woman? wow, one of the nice question i ever encounter in this site...well my basic answer is "when you will be able to bear a child, then you are a woman" if you can't then you deprived yourself being a woman..happy mylotting!
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
Well it is God gift to a woman to be able to conceive, if she is barren she did not ask for it and should be equally loved as the person who she is.