Can a woman to be a professional and look after home too?

India
February 15, 2009 10:21am CST
I find that a lot of women these days are professionals and career oriented. They have to work hard at their careers and look after the home too. It becomes difficult specially with small children at home. That is the reason why most couples keep postponing the decision to have a child. How do women find it? Are you able to cope up or do you get exhausted? Does romance go out of the window?
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@maximax8 (27048)
15 Feb 09
A lady can work from 9 to 5 and then collect her children from the child minder. At the weekend she must go shopping for food and clean the house. Her life will be tiring and she won't have much time for romance with her husband. I am a primary school teacher and I taught a boy whose parents were teachers. They were at home marking and planning work just ignoring him. He loves the challenge of school work but he felt so bored at home. Most teachers that have young children teach part time like are part of a job share. I got exhausted working full time. A lady needs a home and work balance. I am glad I now have that otherwise I would soon be burnt out.
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@Galena (9124)
15 Feb 09
it really depends. whichever of the couple works the least hours should take on the majority of the household work, regardless of which gender this person is. and either way, it should be a team effort. there is no gender more or less inclined to housework or to a career than the other. if both are working, both should maintain the home too, sharing the tasks.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
15 Feb 09
I think it is quite impossible for a woman to be successful both in career and as a housewife especially when there are small children involved. I am talking based on my own personal experience. I was a working mom when my children were at their tender age of 3 and 5. I hired a maid just to look after the children and doing the housework. But my husband is a demanding person and insist that a wife should look after the children and do the housework as well even though the wife is working. I think to be successful in both career, both husband and wife should equally share the responsibility in bringing home the income, doing the housework and also caring for the children.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
15 Feb 09
I think that it is possible but that a woman should work less hours so that she can take care of the home and children as well.
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@tudors (1556)
• China
15 Feb 09
working plus looking after home is totally tedious, let alone having child to attend. As year goes by, our energy is declining too.
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• India
16 Feb 09
NO…I am a professional, I work 8hrs daily for five days a week and I know that there are a lot of things that could have been better. If anybody says they do all things that a homemaker does and yet is professional, I think either they are being untrue or they are stressing themselves out too much, unnecessarily. See, with changing times we have to change our own definitions of ‘looking after home’, ‘managing kids’, ‘family dinner’ and so on. While looking after home to our grandmoms may have been dusting it everyday, for working ladies it can be once a week. The corners will have dust or there maybe a hint of grime on the kitchen table, but that’s OK! Delectable homemade dishes can be prepared on holidays and rest of the days, all will have to make do with simple wholesome fare. For children, a sense of respect for money has to be instilled early on for them to accept the absence of their moms. It does make them more independent though. As for the hubby, well if both are working hard for a common goal, then sharing each other’s day should actually encourage more love and understanding! Its only when anyone is working solely for his/her own goals, that differences start to set in.
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
Its quite hard to both have a career and a family with kids. I think its impossible for the two to have equal important for a woman. She has to figure out which is more important to her, that her kids would grow up under her guidance or with someone else, whether is a grandparent, other relatives or hired maid. There are also days where she will have to choose between going to work or going to her kids' school program. I am a working mom and I am working not because I chose my career over my kids but because I have to provide for my family and meet our obligations. Given a choice, I would just stay home with my kids.
@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
I think it is possible to do both but it will be really hard. Women are just human too and they can't have balance in everything everytime. I salute those women who works and take care of the family.
@mariposaman (2968)
• Canada
16 Feb 09
Most women need to give up their ideas of perfection. The husbands need to step up to the plate and contribute with the housework and child rearing if they are not already. The problems I see is that a lot of women berate their husbands for not doing the chores exactly like they do or are too critical and then the husband gives up and then they complain the husband is unwilling. Sometimes doing things different but getting the job done is good enough.
• Canada
16 Feb 09
Yes. But I think it's kind of unfair that women are expected to choose between a career and family, or be totally exhausted by the end of the day by doing both. IMO it's only fair if the husband helps out as well, or if you can afford it...you could get hired help. My aunt and uncle are a power couple (corporate lawyer + surgeon), and they have two nannies. They both come home from work really late at night and trust me, they have no time for the kids.
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
16 Feb 09
i think it will be a bit difficult to do that... especially if the woman is working full-time... i will say that it is almost impossible as you are already very tired after work and you don't have much energy left to do anything anymore... i work full-time and i know how tiring it can be... fortunately, i don't have a child yet... when i do have one in the future, i have to reduce my working hours into part-time... take care and have a nice day...
• United States
16 Feb 09
It has always been my dream to have wonderful children. The power to pro-create is marvelous. We do have to do it responsibly. I finished my degree first before I got married. My two kids became my inspiration to move on with life. It is really hard to b a mother, a wife and a career woman but I did manage to go back to school and finish my master's degree. I can cook well, clean the house and look after my kids even if I am busy. I think it is a matter of prioritizing things. My children are so proud of who I am today.I believe they have helped me a lot and what I have learned has help me in rearing them.;-)
• China
16 Feb 09
I am not married yet and I have thought about this having a baby issue. I have to decide the best timing coz some old colleague told me it's better have a baby when before my position gets high. If you are single and or just married without a kid, the management level will not consider you when it comes to promotion. Sounds true in our country. SO I am considering to have a baby in a year or two coz I work from 9 to 5 and I need not to work extra hours. I used to think career is more important but now I am changed. Family is the most precious. And it's nice to be a full time housewife. Oh, romance! I miss it, lol and even bf bought me some flowers on this Valentine's Day, I am not touched at all.
@lynnemg (4540)
• United States
16 Feb 09
It takes a lot of hard work, but ys, it is possible for a woman to be a professional worker and still keep things up at home. It is always nice when the rest of the family pitches in at home too, it makes life nicer for the whole family.
• China
16 Feb 09
I think it's hard to me .I know some women can do this ,they are excellent. I have no children ,I married with my husband last year.About this problem we have discuss many times ,the result is I can't be a professionall and look after home together. Now ,when I get home I almost have no energy to do house work, I feel tried. Washing clothes,washing dishes ,Cleanning the house ,I think it's enough.So, if we have a baby ,i think I can't endure that. I just choose one of them,or I think both of them will be worse in my hand. The same time I admire the excellent ones too.They are great in my mind.
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
I think so, yes. It may be hard to juggle doing both and being good at it. But it's possible. I know some women who are good moms and yet successful at work. It doesn't always depend on a woman's character though, because sometimes if you have a supportive husband or disciplined kids and a great boss then it'll be easier. Some women have strong characters but their bosses are jerks so no matter what they do, it's hard for them to be successful at work and at home.
@GemmaR (8527)
15 Feb 09
Many women can and do hold down a good job whilst taking care of children and running a house. My mother works full time in her job, but still manages to find the time to take my brother shopping when he wants to go, and go to meetings at school and everything a parent should do. She is amazing actually when I think about it, the amount she manages to fit into her day. I am so lucky to have a mother like her.
• India
15 Feb 09
women these days are career oriented and they want to be financially independent. however i do feel that they do have that patience even to look after their homes. I have seen many working women managing their homes pretty well. ofcourse they do have love and enough romance in their lives, they see to it that they dont miss on any of these in their life. Its makes me feel proud of being a women who can handle everything with much patience and love.
@sandymay48 (2031)
• Canada
15 Feb 09
Absolutely...thats why she has a hubby to help...lol...No really, raising children and looking after a home can be a full time job in itself. Woman today, can and do manage both..There is more help from the men then there once was with household chores. Sharing responsibilities certainly lightens the load. I think as woman, we also learn at some point to let go of some things that arent necessary to do each and every day..to make better use of the time we do have, and to reallize that romantic times with our partners is not only enjoyable but needed. We were born to multitask and become good at it..We do have our times when we are exhaused and wish the world would go away and leave us in peace. It passes.. Personally speaking, I have 4 grown children and also worked full time..It was a chore at times to arrange everything, but I managed.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
15 Feb 09
It's tough. I would love to be able to stay at home with my children but in these days and times it's almost impossible to do so. My girls are a little older now but they have learned a great deal of responsibility because mom has had to work.They are responsible for getting ready and meeting the deadline of the bus and they have certain duties that they have to help out with in the house if they want to enjoy their extras. I think it's great if you can stay home with them but it's just not an option for us all. It's not the extra money..it's the living money.Fortunately romance is not out the window..lol..I do get exhausted sometimes but I think it is key to fit just a little time in for yourself too. Hot bath,good book,mylot time.