best memory

@bgerig (1259)
United States
February 15, 2009 10:24pm CST
My father passed on a few years ago. I am realizing that my memories are actually stronger today than they were before his passing. I'm curious if that is a common reality with others....that your memories have improved of a close family member who has passed? I have so many flashbacks/memories that I have started writing them down. I'm checking with family to make sure they are correct and not a dream or subconsciousness in some way. One friend told me it may be a method of channeling by my Dad. Does anyone know anything about that? or other thoughts about what I am experiencing?
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@bowtieguy (5925)
• United States
21 Apr 09
That is also something that I realized, my father has been gone much longer then yours has but the memories of him are stonger now then they ever were. My guess for this is because my memories of him are all I really have left so they mean so much more to me now then when he was still alive.
• Singapore
17 Feb 09
I'm not sure whether if this is channeling method by your loved ones.. but i believe that its just pure memories that is hidden in some parts of your brain that subconsciously, something happen in your life that trigger this memory back. People do say that when one gets older, the memory for the recent past gets poorer, but the memory of the long past events will keep coming back.. Im not sure whether if this have any link in your case.. Cheers Happy mylotting~!
@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
17 Feb 09
Hi bgerig, I have many fond memories of both my mom and dad and I think that sometimes they are stronger than they once were. I find myself thinking more and more of stories that they told me of things that happened before I was born. I have associated it with age and getting older but maybe that isn't the case at all. I do believe that our loved ones who have gone before, watch over us and want the best for us. Blessings.
• United States
17 Feb 09
it sounds like what happened after my grandfather passed on. it didn't happen quickly but little by little since he went i have been experiencing very powerful memories of when i was little and we did things together that i had not recalled before. so maybey after someone is gone our minds open up the part where are memories about that person were stored almost as if it is our bodies way of keeping us from forgetting. that is just my opinion though.
@22angel22 (451)
• United States
16 Feb 09
My dad passed away June 14th 2008. I really don't remember much about him. He worked all the time and was never able to spend time with me. I have very few memories of him.. Mainly just from spending time in his hospital room. I'm glad your remembering more and more about your father, thats extrememly important.
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
Your friend was right. The one that had passed away can communicate thru your dreams. Maybe he got something to say with you or he had an unresolved issue when he is still alive.
• United States
16 Feb 09
Same here, my dad passed away in 2006 and I feel I miss him so much. I know he is in better place but lately I have been having dreams about him a lot. Almost every night to be honest. Like weird dreams, it makes me think that he is with me and watching me which is kinda of scary but makes me feel good at the same time. I think when you lose a parent you never really get over it. It is hard but sharing memories with others is a great way to make that person live on. I hope you start feeling better and I know that it is hard but someday we will see them again.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Your friend could be right I have had dreams of my step dad who passed away about 9 years ago, I heard some place that when you dream of them it's their way of coming back to check up on how everyone is doing. Another thing I find that when I am struggling with something in my life I will dream of my step dad more often almost every night I think it's my brains way of having him help me in some way he was always there when I needed to talk. Maybe your dad is trying to help you out with something. Or maybe you just really miss him and need him at this time in your life.