February 16, 2009 1:01am CST
Ok, I'm Niya Ikotsuki (AKA Ikoiko-san) and my mom thinks I'm like other teens. She think I chat, she thinks I have alot of boyfriends, she thinks I want male attention, she thinks I'm like other teens that she have seen on T.V. basically. #1, I don't chat anymore. It's because I don't want to and people lie too much. The only people I chat with online is the people I know in real life. #2, I don't want any boyfriends. I have friends that are guys, but she says that I date them. I want to concentrate on just my grades in school and boyfriends don't help at all. She says she plays around and say that and she's sorry but she doesn't really mean it if she says it again. #3, I dont' want male attention. I may look sort of like her and have SOME characteristics, but I'm NOT her and she doesn't understand that. I hate just being around my own family at home. Looking at how she is, I NEVER in my pathetic life want to be like her. And #4. Hehe. Me, like other girls? No way. My mom seen this girl get taken away to Germany by this guy from chatting online. And she think's that'll happen to me. She says "You're gonna fall in love and want to see that person in real life. You're gonna say 'But momma he loves me!' and run off with him." Sadly, her words are wrong. I'm not like others. She's so uptight about it. I'm not stupid, I'm not slow, and she needs to leave me alone! It makes me so mad and I want to just disappear. I know she cares for me, and I know she wants to protect me but this is annoying. I tell her how I feel alot, but she just doesn't understand. It makes me cry. I need help!
16 Feb 09
This happens not because your mother does not trust you.Its because she cares too much and feels a bit insecure about you.Most of the moms feel so.Just try telling her to sit with you when you chat.Show her your grades to let her know how hard you have been working in your studies.Be friendly with her and talk to her as you do with your best friend.I myself am a mother and in a way your discussion has made me think if we parents are sometimes dont trust our kids just because its a bad bad world and we want to cocoon them.
• Janesville, Wisconsin
16 Feb 09
Well, do not feel alone in this. Everyone who has had a mother there, at one point in there life experiences this about something. It is Mothers being Motherly is what it is. They want us to feel not left out, and want us to be like other teens, but yet just want us to becareful and safe. Sometimes their warning does not mean they think you are like the others.. But trying to warn you incase some day you do take up that interest and so you can take the steps you need to avoid being in harms way. He words maybe wrong and that is fine. In the end there is nothing wrong with proving your mother wrong. :) .. Just remember she loves you. As you grow into an adult at times it is fun to prove your mother wrong :D ... But never forget to give your mother the love and respect she deserves for caring, and doing her best to watch out for you.. But it is also okay, to tell her you are not doing anything and not to worry.. I used to let my mom watch what I was chatting about she thought because I chatted with mostly guys that I was being naughty... But she only spent two minutes flat reading the conversation... and she bored herself with it.. because we are talking trains and she had no idea what we were talking about :) ... After all I was talking with Railroaders, and Railfans. I never had an interest for dating or guys .. Just was to busy dreaming about working on the railroad to have any time for that :) . - DNatureofDTrain