what do you do when you don,t agree on a discussion?

@annjilena (5621)
United States
February 16, 2009 1:40am CST
there is a discussion and you don,t agree do you still voice your opinion.how do you handle disgreeable discussion.can you be honest with them if you answered.are do you say what they want to hear.we have 161,319 myloter here all with different opinion and ideals and different ways of dealing with situation.
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19 responses
• Canada
16 Feb 09
I think you should just disagree in a honst opinion. There is no need to not state your opinion shince everyone's opinions are different. But if you disagree you shouldn't insult the other people's opinions. Just agree to disagree.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
16 Feb 09
well said to insult another to get your point a cross is not good.you can speak your mind and be respectful in the process.making a person feel small to make yourself feel on high is not good.we all have feeling here and no one likes pain inflicted upon them.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
i still response in a nice way. that is what mylot is all about to say what you think and to say what is your perspective on a certain matter. i also make sure i include the words JUST MY VIEWS before the end of my response. you can not change people's oppinion specially about values, costume and traditions that we got used to or we are raised at. the biggest battle in mylot i read mostly is about religion and abortion.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
16 Feb 09
speaking of religion we all have different religion and we all have different opinion about religion but it still boils down to respecting whatever religion the mylotter is.most of us been raised differently. from different countries we have so many different between us we can just pick a subject and talk about it all day long if not longer.most people try to have good values and there is so much experience here on mylot if a couple been married 5,10,20,30,40,50 so on years you add them together and think of the wisdom from that couple.
@eiram25 (1077)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
i still try to voice my opinion.we have our own ideals,opinions and principles.and i think it's always best to hear different ideas rather than having one common thing with each other.that way,there will always be more room for learnings. it's okay to disagree with somebody at one point so long as your approach is nice,polite and of course,treat the other person with respect. happy mylotting!
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
16 Feb 09
you are entitle to your opinion wether it strong are not this how you feel about certain discussion.some people may are may not like what you say but the different of opinion is there.only we as a mylotter can respect how you feel about it.i have no problem respecting others even if i don,t like what you said.i think life would be boring if we didn,t have ones to disagree.
@GADHISUNU (2164)
• India
16 Feb 09
I think you must state honestly you r opinion even if you do not agree on a discussion. I don't think a reasonably mature person will be able to tolerate variance in opinion. While stating it only be polite and not overbearing. You may have a very strong opinion on something which many would like to come across and buy. And suppose the reasons you have based your opinion on are very sound. Then you are depriving some people of awell-reasoned argument. If you find that the discussion is hotting up too much due to dissidence then you can branch off a discussion your self and gather people who share your opinion. This is only if the starter of a discussion is simply intolerantto disidence.Otherwise it is better opposing views are available in one place for people to get a balanced picture on some topic.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
16 Feb 09
i think it good to share different opinions because we are different and we have different ideas about life and many other things.a mind is a terrible thing to waste.some people have strong opinion about certain subjects and are entitle to their opinion.as long as we are respectiful to each other and season our words with salt,and be careful how we add pepper i think we all will be fine.
@dlr297 (5206)
• United States
16 Feb 09
If a discussion catches my eye and as i start reading and i don't agree with what is being said. I voice my opinion. I answer as honestly as i can. Like you said everyone is different, and has different opinions, why should you agree with what is said just to agree. and someone might learn something from all the different views about something.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
16 Feb 09
that why i love my lot because their are so many different minds and lot of mylotter put their heart and soul in that discussion.we can learn from each other from being different.i think this world has so many different people it,s nice to know we have so many friends all over the world with so many ideas.
@chaitra001 (3280)
• Bangalore, India
16 Feb 09
Hi If I dont agree with the discussion I speak it out honestly what I think or else if my answer hurts some one I really avoid responding to such a discussion. Happy myloting.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
16 Feb 09
well thank you you are right if you going to be hurtiful to someone some time it,s better to ovoid that discussion.but some you are compelled to answer you know it,s a deep discussion but you have to just voice your opinion.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
14 Apr 09
I don't shy away from tough discussions. I go in, say my piece and move on. If the OP wants to discuss it rationally, great...I'm all for it. If all they want to do is fight, call names and insult, I won't waste my time or energy. If we discuss but still don't see eye to eye on it, I simply agree to disagree and that's that. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
If I totally disagree and I see the poster doesn't accept any topic that is against his opinion then I would just ignore the topic because I consider that topic to be already closed topic. If I do think I have the right opinion for it and the poster is open to accept criticism then I would probably give my share of opinion.
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
Hey there! Yes, with no hesitations. I would point out my views and explain it. I answer it honestly and with integrity. Some may not like it, but I try to show them my point with respect to their own opinion. Have a nice day. Happy posting!!
@jaymeeliz (506)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
If I don't agree with a discussion, I honestly voice my opinion because we all have a right to that. In my short stay here in myLot, I find that people are willing to listen to all kinds of opinions. I haven't really encountered anyone so close minded as to keep on convincing me of his/her own views.
@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
It depends on the topic. If the topic I don't agree with is something that is light, by all means I will post my response even if it's an objection to the author's opinion. However, if my response will hurt the author I just don't respond to it. I remember there was one discussion here where I said something as a compliment to the author/respondent but the author/respondent thought otherwise. So, she commented that I hurt her with what I wrote and I wrote a comment that it wasn't my intention to hurt but I was actually commending her for her actions. Well, it's a good thing that she made it known to me that I offended her but I also got offended that my good words were misinterpreted. That's all under the bridge now. Everything is just okay.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I am always honest when answering discussions or comments to mine. I do make it a point to let the disagreeing party know that I don't condemn or think less of them because of the way they feel. I think it's good we all have some different points to be made. It spices things up.
• United States
21 Feb 09
Sure why not? If I start a discussion and someone doesn't agree....I welcome the different point of view as long it remains constructive and friendly. Heated debates can be quite interesting though!
@ashjoe76 (1459)
• India
21 Feb 09
It is easy to agree with discussions here, but there may be some occassions where one could not digest the relevance of the discussion itself. In such situations, it's better to ignore it. But in some cases, one may not agree with the direction to which the discussion is going but still like to express an opinion. Then, it is good to be honest, instead of nodding in agreement to the majority's view.
@TheCatLady (4696)
• Israel
18 Feb 09
It depends on what it is about. If it's just opinion, I shut up and leave the discussion. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Also I don't want a negitive for something that doesn't matter. If it has to do with cruelty to animals and children, I speak up and let my voice be heard. I'm very vocal on animal issues. Every one can give me negitive and I don't care. I care about the animals welfare.
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
17 Feb 09
Hi annjilena! If I don't agree with someone in a discussion I try to say what I need to say without causing them to get angry or without getting too upset myself. If I truly feel that I can't do this I will not respond at all. If I feel that a discussion is going to get out of hand and will end up being nothing but a big arguement or free for all I will stay out of it! There are just times that it is better to move on and keep quiet!
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
I give my opinion but I don't need to be harsh or rude. it is better to give your opinion than lie about agreeing to a discussion which you know in your heart to be different from what you believe. happy mylotting.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
16 Feb 09
If I know something of what is in the post I give my opinion. If I dont I dont respond!
@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
16 Feb 09
For myself, it is quite a simple decision. If there is a discussion that I don't agree with I simply avoid it. I pass it by and go onto a discussion that I can contribute to in a positive way. My intent here at MyLot is to contribute useful and helpful information, when at all possible. If I see a discussion that I disagree with, I usually don't bother saying anything. I rather spend my time with discussions that are of interest to me rather than having a debate.