love and money, which is more important in marriage

China
February 16, 2009 2:29am CST
Most of my friends said that you should find a guy that have enough money to afford life. Of course not only eating or clothing. Most important is house. To a common people buying a house costs all the money that he will make during all his life. So when you find a boyfriend the first your parents will ask is does he have house in city? If a good guy can not buy a house in city most of the girl's parents will object them to go together. Everybody know parents will not hurt their child. But why they refuse a good guy that their daughter loves so much just because of do not have a house. Does love is really not important in marriage? Parents have so much experiences in life, they should know what is important in life. What's you opinion on this case. Will you choose love or money, if you can only have one of them.
7 responses
• India
16 Feb 09
hi i am yuvaraj new to my lot i have seen various comment for your disscussion.i feel your discussions is the best for ever for me money is the important thing in ur case and also for the life
• China
17 Feb 09
thanks for reply. I meet this problem now, but it is really diffucult for me to give up a good guy because of no money, I feel it is unfair to him. I don't know what should I do at this point.
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
for me both are important...some couple divorced due to money problem .... some because they fall out of love!! me and my bf are live in together first then after 2-3 years will consider marriage! im not sure what will my parents say about it but ryt now its not practical to get married just yet. between carlo and me i earned more than him ... his salary is around 16 k a month while mine is 54 k a month. we shared 50/50 in house bills and he gave me his whole salary! so i just give him allowance everyday.. we discussed about our spending and stuff like that.. whenever he wanted to go out with frends i gave him part of his salary but we never had problem about financial just yet.. maybe becoz we dont have kids yet! so ryt now im pretty happy to our arrangement! im glad i have a wonderful hubby!!
• Malaysia
16 Feb 09
both are important, things which you can't live without. but i'd go for love anytime. if you have loads of money but your marriage is unhappy, what's the point?
• China
16 Feb 09
so you can choose a rich man as your husband, and choose a good guy as your lover.
@zenki08 (700)
• Philippines
16 Feb 09
At this trying times both are important and you should not get married if one is absent. Love will easily be gone in a marriage if you don't have money to put food in the table and the same goes with money without love there can be no commitment.
@maapav (730)
• India
16 Feb 09
I can't choose one because both are important. Without love you can't live with your partner and without money you cannot live. Love does not last if you are starving and your partner doesnot afford to give you what you want. Then only fighting lasts. And if you have lots of money and your partner does not love you then the value of money is zero. So we must have both to live a good life.
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Marriage won't be successful without both. Even if couples love each other, if they don't have money, that would be the cause of their arguments.